Jheanarally Speaking

Our second motherhood is episode is hereee !! On last week's episode, Frankee touched on something that was being affected by her [totally natural, uncontrollable] weight; making a baby. For some people, all it takes is thinking about getting pregnant and then suddenly there's a baby ! For others, it is the most ardous, time & energy consuming, sometimes heartbreaking process & in Frankee's case, the first one is easy but the second one really makes you work for it ! Never mind the outside pressure from busy bodies who feel the need to dictate if & when you should have a second [or third, or fourth or eighth]. Frankee has been such a champion throughout this whole process & wanted to offer up her experience to give us an inside look at what this whole process entails which by the way, just hearing about it was exhausting, and open our eyes to how much women go through for these noisy little shits that we love so much! 

I hate this minisode. I hate the reason why I made it & I hate the experience that caused it. We talked about body positivity in our last full episode and yesterday, I hate to stare it down right in my sons face. It wasn't fun & it made me realize the responsibility we all have to try to fix this; it might be too late for us but other people deserve a chance to not have to worry about this & wouldn't it be nice if we gave them that chance? 

You guys, this episode made it by the skin of its teeth. The only reason it exists right now is because I held myself accountable to the commitment I made to this podcast & because if it didn't happen, I would've had no one to blame but myself. Sound familiar ? How often do you really think about EVERYTHING in your life; your circumstance, your relationships, etc. & make sure you're holding yourself accountable for how you participate in those things, either good or bad ? If they're bad, how often do you hold yourself accountable for your role in making [and keeping] them bad?

If you're like me, you want to control every single aspect of every single thing; sometimes that even trickles down to the people in our lives! Repeat after me: A MOTHERF*CKER IS GONNA BE WHERE A MOTHERF*CKER WANTS TO BE !!!! No amount of forcing and controlling is going to change that & honestly its freaking exhausting!!! My amazing guest host Lisa joins me for this episode to talk about control issues; whether or not we have them, how to recognize them in our partners & how to nip that sh*t in the bud, whether you're the controller or you're being controlled. I know it's hard but the best relationships are the ones you don't have to force or tie to a chair in your basement. 

I have a confession to make; I used to be a mean girl :( I'm not proud of it but I'm honest & aware of it & taking steps to fix it. But what about people that aren't aware of it? What's the thought process behind someone being mean or a bully? Do you ever get over the effects of a bully's behavior towards you? Frankee joins me as a guest host today & we get into being bully's & bullied & how we recovered from them both.