We like to think that we define our own lives, but each of us is part of a family, a lineage, a place in history; we have our health and our mental health and each of those play a role in who we are and the decisions that we make.

Jonathan Seidler's new memoir, It's a Shame About Ray, looks at the forces that have shaped his life, none stronger than his father, a successful doctor and loving family man, who took his own life.

In the Drawing Room, Jonathan talks about growing up and grief, mental health and nu-metal music.