Our very early experiences set up our perceptions, our view of people and life. How do we recognize and learn to navigate these pre-talking influences on our contemporary lives?
Tune in as we discuss all this and more!
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SHOW NOTES
SEGMENT 1The bible is the most important text written, but it is not read and interpreted correctly. Why bother understanding the scriptures? Because we will not receive the fullness of life that we are promised if we do not. The show will allow it to be made clear to you. Each individual that we are is a piece of the Christ making up the body of Christ. When we pay attention to our mindfulness, we have more ability to choose in our life and everything else in our life falls into place. A parent is called to help a child develop its unique self. We are called to help a child become and who they were meant to be. How a child is spoken to and made to feel about themselves if carried throughout its days. Encouraging parents to think for themselves, and not feel shame or blame, will do very well with the child. Most people are not brought up this way.
SEGMENT 2Dr. Dau gives an example. A child is receiving cookies, and the child is left alone with the cookies. The mother comes in and calls her child “greedy” for eating all the cookies. This is a mother that obviously does this multiple times, it is not a one time occurrence. The child will experience this type of behavior from their mother throughout their lifetime. The child will grow up with shame. Historically this is why people do better as a tribe or a large family. She discusses a patient she had who did not have a good relationship with his father. We will pass on how we were treated in our family. We will either bring people into our lives that let us treat them that way or treat us that way. Our unconscious is like a person we put in the basement, it wants to be healed. Until we get into the core of what is inside of us and what we tell ourselves, nothing is going to change. That is why Dr. Dau loves scripture. This is how prejudism starts, they are brought up around it, but they don’t understand their feelings.
SEGMENT 3Dr. Dau tells The Chicken and the Eagle Story. She talks about transference. When you see something you don’t like in someone, it is actually something you don’t like about yourself. When you are pointing a finger, there are fingers pointing back at you. She discusses projection. We don’t see things the way things are, we see things as we are. We need to elevate our minds so we aren’t lying out of our subconscious, and we live life more consciously. The more we are patient with ourselves and forgive ourselves and embrace our humanness, we will be able to be closer to divinity and be there for others. Relationships will touch us in the deepest place. When you are touched in that place and you don’t have awareness of what is going on, you will react to that person. We learn to slow down and learn how to choose how to react instead of reacting from our unconscious wounds.
SEGMENT 4How do we know what is going on in our subconscious? We need to pay attention to the dialogue in our heads. When we learn to laugh at ourselves for being human and making mistakes, that is great. It is not easy. We are enough, and none of us feel like enough. We are all the same. We are all fine the way we are, but we all have work to do because of what we were told about ourselves. There are distortions. If they are affecting our way of life, then we know it went on for us pre-talking. If we have a strong reaction to something from the outer world that we feel the need to react to, we know that it was something from pre-talking. When we look to have a better life, we do it because we wanna help others have a better life. We want to make differences in other people's lives and learn to love. What we don’t become mindful for, we transmit. We are looking to get rid of it (what is uncomfortable for us), like traits we don’t like.
