Journeys with the No Schedule Man

Do you sometimes feel "trapped by love?" That's a phrase that came up in the conversation you're about to hear, with Pauline Duncan-Thrasher. I was instantly intrigued by that notion, as I know of so many people who do, in fact, feel "trapped" in a bad relationship with their partners, parents, grown kids, friends, family members, co-workers … or even themselves.

Pauline is a trainer, coach, keynote speaker and author who helps people to live, learn and lead with love. Her mission is to help other believe in their own amazing selves. This chat with Pauline is a touching, thought-provoking, fully transparent recounting of a story that will probably be familiar to a great many people, maybe even to you. I hope it helps.

© 2018 Kevin Bulmer Enterprises

Do you have the courage it takes to tell your own story, in your own way?

Today we're joined by Katie Kozlowski, a spiritual teacher, self realization coach and healer (although she more recently has been referring to herself as a "Wizard," which I think is a good term!).

Katie can now add "author" to that list, and she has contributed a chapter to a book called, "Simply...Woman: Stories from 30 Magnificent Women Who have Risen Against The Odds," due to be released on International Women's Day on March 8, 2018.

In this episode, Katie takes us into the process of finding the courage to tell her own story in her own way. Among the many highlights I enjoyed from this discussion included Katie's thoughts on:

~ Trying to figure out what might sell as opposed to what you really want to create.

~ The power of imagination and storytelling (how we used to teach).

~ Why it takes courage to tell your story.

© 2018 Kevin Bulmer Enterprises

Are you saying yes to yourself and the things that matter most to you in this life? Or are you saying yes to everything else and putting yourself second, or 3rd, or 4th, or worse?

And how exactly are you supposed to know the difference?

This conversation with Tonia Adleta is going to provide some very helpful perspective for anyone who has lived so much of their life trying to do everything they really thought they were supposed to do, all the while unknowingly shrinking away from who they really are.

Tonia is an international speaker, the founder and host of The Single Parent Summit and the owner of multiple businesses, including an award-winning wedding and event planning and floral design company. She describes herself as a "recovering perfectionist" and single mom to the two most amazing kids ever.

Some of the key takeaways from this episode:

~ There's no such thing as work-life balance. There's just life.

~Mindfulness and presence versus looking backward or forward. If you're always looking back and rehashing old memories of bad things, you're being a victim. But if you're looking forward to the next moment you hope to be better than this one, you're delaying the future. Either way, you're not being mindful of the present, which is a road to nowhere …

~ The Importance of Awareness – "People that don't get it don't get that they don't get it." Tonia gives a great account of why this is important if we want to be well and happy.

Also listen for her story about being on the floor of the bathroom when she was living in a mobile home. We've all had that moment.

It's not just you.

**This episode was originally released in July of 2017 under its original name, "The No Schedule Man Podcast."

How long are you willing to work for "overnight success?" And, once you think you've found it, how can you be sure?

This week, we're joined by Greg Schinkel, President of Unique Training and Development and a Certified Speaking Professional. Greg's story is a clear example of the value and reality of process, in business and in life, and what it really takes to become a great leader and to have any chance at becoming what we might refer to as an "overnight success."

Among the key things I took away from my time with Greg include:

• How the art of business development has changed.
• The downside to a "grow-at-all-costs" strategy.
• The importance of a feedback loop
• The upside of adversity.
• What to look for in leadership and the truth about people who are abrasive or aggressive.
• Change as a process rather than an event.

The question this week is: what are you afraid of? We are going to dive deeply into that today and give you some tools to overcome it.

Today, we kick off the 3rd season of this podcast with Sue Curr, who helps people to "Fear Less, Live More" as a speaker, coach and workshop facilitator.

This Sue's second time joining me on this program. I encourage you to go back and listen Episode 23, where Sue goes into great detail about the first 50 years of her life, her descension into mental ill health and near fatal bout with alcoholism. Having survived the trauma of her past, Sue set about rebuilding her life. What you're going to hear today is the result, and it's profound.

Among the key takeaways that stood out from my time with Sue include:

1. Fear gives us an excuse.
2. Fear plays an enormous trick on us - it's the stories we tell ourselves that lead us into trouble (and many times, we're not actually afraid of what we think we are - Sue gives an example).
3. Want to live large? Get uncomfortable with being uncomfortable.
4. Saying "yes" to opportunity and to possibility.
5. Looking at life through the eyes of a child.
6. The truly wealthy are the people who know the value of love and gratitude.
7. Fear is born when we attach emotional pain to a significant memory.
8. Ask: is that true? When a fear or limiting belief pops up, ask if it's true.

© 2018 Kevin Bulmer Enterprises

The question this week is ... what are you choosing? What choices are you making for yourself and how are you allowing your current circumstances to affect those choices about what's possible for the future?

Today, you are going to enjoy listening to a story that very well could be made into a movie at some point. This tale is going to take you to a variety of different lands, environments, challenges and choices that have delivered all kinds of valuable life lessons along the way.

This week, we are joined by Rakesh Mishra, an international speaker, coach and expert on mindset. At his website, Rakesh describes himself as, "An Indian village boy who made millions in Canada." Today, you're going to hear how he did that, going from growing up in a village with no electricity, television or automobiles to another part of the world entirely, and all of the remarkable - and sometimes absolutely soul-crushing - challenges he has met along the way.

This is truly a remarkable story from a remarkable person.

Some of the key takeaways from my time with Rakesh include:

1. The story of the coins, and the value in recognizing what he did NOT find - Listen for the amazing, life-changing lesson in mindset he learned at just 7 years old!
2. Stretch - You will hear Rakesh use the term "stretch" several times in this conversation. What he's talking about his pushing himself past his comfort zone, and as you'll notice, there never is a point in which he feels he's "arrived" and no longer needs to stretch. In particular, listen for the story about going to the city - an enormous stretch for him - and how, when he arrived, he realized he would need to stretch himself yet again
3. Reverse engineering (choice, intention) works - While the real joy is in the journey, in order to get to any new destination, you first need to CHOOSE where it is you wish to go. Otherwise, life will choose for you. Now, I have been in the audience when Rakesh has told his story about deciding, at the age of 35, that he would need to amass $2.5 millions within 10 years. People laugh at that moment. It's not a vicious, critical laugh. It's an uncomfortable, "You must be kidding" laugh, as if people are saying, "Yeah, right." Well, as you will hear Rakesh discuss, when you choose your destination, only THEN do you start attracting the "how to do it" as you go, and rarely the other way around.

As with all things, it comes down to getting back to where we started … it's a choice. And as Rakesh likes to say, "As long as you are breathing, it's not done yet."

You are going to LOVE this story! ©2017 Kevin Bulmer Enterprises

The question this week is.. how do I create a life that I love? And how do I build a plan to achieve it, while taking total responsibility for each and every step, past, present and future?

This week, we're joined by Dan Martell, an award-winning entrepreneur and founder of Clarity, a venture-backed startup he built to make it easy to connect with top business minds over the phone. It was recently acquired by Fundable.

Dan previously co-founded Flowtown, a San Francisco based social marketing product which raised funding, grew to over 50,000 customers and, in 2011, was acquired by Demandforce (INTU:NASDAQ). In 2012, Dan was named Canada's top angel investor having completed over 33 investments with amazing companies like Udemy, Intercom and Unbounce.

Dan is passionate about sharing everything he knows to help other people, especially in the art and creativity of business and entrepreneurship. He is just as passionate - if not more so - about helping at-risk teens, and you're going to hear why, as Dan shares very openly about his experiences, both good and challenging. To put it plainly, Dan had a very bumpy ride as a younger person.

Among the many key things that stood out to me from this conversation were:

• Lighthouse vs the Tugboat - Showing possibility vs enabling.
• Tough love: Accountability & responsibility.
• The only person you're ever competing against is yourself from yesterday.
• The power of ignorance in getting started - Don't let what you don't know slow you down.
• At-risk teens - they have the fire that, if it could be channeled, could lead to great things. They have the "don't give a fuck" nature that many of the rest of us try to learn.
• Responsibility of believing in yourself & aligning your actions with your belief (it's "empowering, exciting and scary").
• What's the motivation behind the goal?

©2017 Kevin Bulmer Enterprises

This week, we revisit a chat with Cole Pearn that originally took place in January, 2017, just a few weeks prior to the Daytona 500 and the start of the NASCAR Monster Energy Cup Series season.

11 months later, Pearn is now a NASCAR Champion, Crew Chief of the #78 Furniture Row Racing team driven by Martin Truex Jr.

Truex & Pearn won 8 races in 2017, including the final contest at Homestead, Florida, where they beat out Brad Keselowski, Kevin Harvick and Kyle Busch, all former series champions in their own right. They also collected wins at Las Vegas, Kansas (twice), Kentucky, Watkins Glen, Chicago and Charlotte through the course of the season.

In this discussion, Pearn recalls his journey that has taken him from following in his dad's footsteps as teenager racer based out of a tiny little town called Mount Brydges, Ontario, to leaving his job at Toyota to go to North Carolina to eventually earning the Crew Chief's post with Furniture Row Racing and the incredible success they've enjoyed ever since.

This story is a testament to knowing what you want, having the guts to go after it and to working relentlessly to do the right things over and over and over again until the results come.

Pearn didn't know he would be at the time we had this chat, but he is now a NASCAR Monster Energy Cup Championship-winning Crew Chief.

©2017 Kevin Bulmer Enterprises

The question this week is … how are you going to respond when adversity strikes? What about what it strikes again after that? And again after that?How many times are you willing to get back up?I would have been 20 years old when today's guest, Jerod Ward, was named the Naismith Player of the Year award in 1994. That means Jerod was ranked as the #1 high school basketball player in all of the United States.That's a big deal. And a lot of pressure.I remember it. I followed US College Basketball pretty closely at that time, and I well remember when Jerod chose to attend the University of Michigan, a basketball power in that era. Jerod seemed destined, not just for college basketball stardom, but for a long NBA career as well.

It didn't quite work out that way.

Injuries derailed Jerod, time and time again. After multiple knee surgeries Jerod described himself as not only physically but also mentally broken down. He gives a vivid account of those days in our discussion.Amazingly, he somehow persevered, and went on to play professionally for 14 years at the highest levels worldwide

Through it all, the adversities have taught Jerod to never give up. He now has gone on to motivate and educate people with his keystone philosophy of NBA: "Never Be Average."When Jerod talks about eating adversity, he means "EAT" as an acronym for Embrace, Act and Thrive.

In addition to his speaking, Jerod still stays close to the game he loves. He is a college basketball analyst with networks including ESPN.

Some of the key takeaways from this chat with Jerod include:

1. The kids are watching - Please listen closely to what Jerod shares about his dad, and how what he learned carried over into his own journey. If you have kids of your own, please consider what they may be seeing and learning from you. In Jerod's case, it sounds like he had a pretty exceptional teacher.
2. "You're not going to get it all at once" - Again, Jerod's father played an important role in showing him that the way things unfold is a process. Whether it's in achieving a goal or looking at the arch of our journey through life. But you're not going to get it all at once. Nor should you.
3. Life will take you where you're supposed to go - Though Jerod suffered through near unbearable disappointment and physical and mental pain through the injuries that disrupted his path to the NBA, his path diverted him to one of experiencing different cultures internationally and uniquely shaping him to empower other people to overcome adversity in the manner that he does today. He also mentions how it was predicted early on, in his church, that he may well someday be doing something similar to what he's doing now ("on a platform") but he admits to, "Running from what he was told." It's interesting, how life works out.

This really is a remarkable story, and Jerod does such an incredible job to share it so openly and transparently. I know you're going to enjoy it.©2017 Kevin Bulmer Enterprises

The question this week is: What is your gut telling you?

This week, we're joined by Sunil Godse, a highly successful author, coach, speaker and entrepreneur who has harnessed the power of intuition to grow businesses to a combined $20 million.

He helps companies earn record profits as a consultant and transforms people's lives by unlocking their intuitive potential as a personal coach.

He is also the author of two extremely popular books, "Fail Fast. Succeed Faster".and "GUT!" which have each sold tens of thousands of copies worldwide.

Sunil has recognized the true power of intuition. On one hand, trusting it has been directly responsible for the success that he has enjoyed, while ignoring it has led to devastating consequences, and he tells very transparent stories about both sides of that equation in this discussion.

Key Takeaways:

1. He "knew" at 5 years old - It's the second week in a row this has come up: Loretta Smith (Ep. 64) called the "lost art of being a child." Sunil referred to it as a "purity" of intuition. You have it too. You always have.
2. Fear of uncertainty + herd mentality = stuck … or worse.
3. Intuition is always there - No matter how far down you may fall, your intuition is there for you. He gave some great examples of that.

©2017 Kevin Bulmer Enterprises