How many times have we chosen something that really seemed like a good idea at the time but later, turned out not to go the way we expected? We are limited to seeing things the way we see them. We choose what makes sense to us at the time and then punish ourselves for not seeing things differently. But if we could see things differently and if another better option was apparent to us, we would choose it. Yet the fact that a mistake was made implies that we didn't know any better, or else we wouldn't have chosen it. We choose what we think is best. We often get it wrong. Often extremely wrong.

What blocks us from being in complete peace and happiness right now? If investigated, it is soon revealed that the only obstacle we have to deal with is our own mind; specifically all the conditioned beliefs and the associated heavy feelings that come with heavy conditioned beliefs. For example, there are many learnt constructs we have about love. It's like there are locks on when we can be loving and when we shouldn't. You might even experience resistance to expressing love - I know I have. So strange when you consider how open and loving most children are. They have no problem hugging a stranger - which can be taken advantage of by malicious intent. So we can see then how constructs were created to try and protect us and help us. But they served their purpose and now they are our main obstacle to understand and transcend for those interested in mastering love and maxing out their enjoyment of life. More in the episode. Book a session here.

A feeling is a composition of sensations. The mind then comes in and attempts to label the experience. Stories are generated to rationalise or explain away the feeling. It's like the intellect will only allow it if it fits into the story it has about everything... So what does a feeling mean? Is that the right question? Perhaps a better question is where is that question coming from? Could we just accept feelings without having to attach a story to what is being experienced?

Something happens. A feeling arises. A life situation occurs. Then the mind says "this should be different". It might say it directly. It might indirectly imply it by trying to move away from what is arising or by attempting to manipulate the feeling/situation. We tend to not question this tendency of the mind. We tend to tolerate it. We rarely inquire deeper into it. If we did, we would start to learn about all the constructs which the mind has. When these constructs are threatened, it goes on the defensive. Yet each construct is just an idea. It's just an opinion trying to define the indefinable. In this episode, why don't we start to question these constructs? Let's give it a shot. Watch the youtube episode referred to here.

Every choice we make is something we have to bear the weight of. Every choice has a consequence. Some choices lead to a lot of heaviness. Other choices uplift and support us and those around us. The more inclusive the upliftment of the choices we make are, the more uplifted we all feel and the less suffering is possible. There's a lot we can talk about with this topic but before we do - in future episodes - it's good to first cover the feelings that can come when we realise that we are both accountable for every choice and simultaneously rather limited in what we can see; often something that seems like a good idea turns out not to be. In this episode, we will cover an effective approach to dealing with any anxiety and fear which that may bring up within us.

The Holy Spirit uplifts me on the wings of grace. I float through life with increasing reliance on Divinity. The more I depend upon Divinity, the more ease and grace enters my life. This is an option for you as well. In this episode, I share a story that to me articulates key principles by which one can live a graceful and joyous life.

It's a powerful question to ask. We tend to hold onto and cling to things that we get something out of. By asking this question and being open and receptive to whatever might come-up, we empower ourselves to become aware of what it is we get, for example, out of our relationships. Often we seek the feeling of being wanted, of being loved, of being understood. When this is in awareness, we can then further inquire and ask ourselves why we want this. Often it comes from a feeling of lack within which, if not recognised, will degrade the quality of all our relationships through hidden agendas and attachments. As this "getting-ness" surfaces in awareness, it becomes possible to let go and own the source of all that we previously taught to get from outside ourselves, from within ourselves. With a greater sense of inner completion comes greater inner freedom and a newfound capacity to enjoy our relationships for what they are without any anxiety or stress involved.

Eric is back! This episode is golden with lots of snippets of wisdom to digest, take-in, and be with. One of the most powerful topics that interweaved the whole chat was that of re-framing. This is when we re-contextualise and re-perceive something so that we see it differently. What is interesting is that all problems can be dissolved via reframing. Why is there a problem? Re-framing dissolves the foundation of the problem and reveals that there was never a problem. It can reveal the hidden-gifts of even the most challenging situations and in doing so, uplift us with the realisation that we can choose how we see any given situation. We can choose whether we make the most of it or whether we see it as a curse. 

What is the balance between structure and allowing room for spontaneity? Is there a balance? Are these two separate at all or does it just seem that way? Lot's of fun questions emerged from this conversation with Matt Rudnitsky. Vocationally Matt is a book coach that I got to know via his "write a book in a weekend" course. Though we start with writing, this conversation takes us to many areas worthy of listening for anyone who likes to question and uncover the truth. If anything, from our time together I was reminded of how little I know - a truly wonderful gift to be reminded of this! Sit back and enjoy the show.