Just a Girl Pastor

Join me as I talk with my friend Rhyan, who like me, stepped into a calling in ministry as a pastor and was shut down at every point.

Rhyan shares with us her story of how she began deconstructing as she fought to leave an abusive marriage and church system that ultimately forced her to lose everything.

Her courage and strength is something to be admired and I am so grateful to have had the chance to hear more of her story.

Rhyan is a digital creator, actress, photographer, singer, and model (to name a few things).

You can find Rhyan on IG @rhyanmichele and you can also check out her photography business @cinemanshots

As always, thank you so much for listening to the show and being on this journey with me!

You can support this show here: https://anchor.fm/heather-r89 and you can find me on IG @justagirlpastor

Join me as I talk with my good friend Bekah about parenting while deconstructing our faith.

I had the pleasure of hearing more of Bekah's story about how she started deconstructing and ultimately leaving the church and the impact that had on her family life and parenting style.

We discuss the ways her and her husband have learned to communicate with their children and how they have learned to incorporate their own personal growth and relearning into the way they parent together.

Bekah is an amazing women who has been so inspiring to me in my own parenting journey and I do hope you go check out her page @bekahsays and follow her!

She is also the co-founder of Help Humans which is a brand advocating for re-humanizing people. You can find all their merch here: helphumans.care

As always, thank you so much for listening and supporting this show! If you have questions or comments feel free to email me at: [email protected]

Happy 2022 everyone and welcome to Season 2! 

I had the honor of talking with David Hayward (aka Naked Pastor) and hearing more of his personal story with deconstruction and what led him to start Naked Pastor and bring us all the amazing books, art and cartoons we all know, love and share!

David is genuinely one of the kindest people I've met and it was a pleasure having this conversation with him! 

He was a pastor for over 30 years and he explains more about why he finally had to leave the church.

We talked about his thoughts on misogyny in the church and how certain verses are abused and taken out of context when it comes to gender equality.

He also told me more about some of his profound and unexplainable mystical experiences. You don't want to miss this conversation!

You can find David on IG @nakedpastor and you can find all of his work at https://nakedpastor.com/

Thanks so much for listening to and supporting this show! I love you all!

I cannot thank you all enough for being on this crazy journey with me and listening to and supporting this show!

When I first started this show I hoped for it to be a place of hope for people like me who found themselves in a space of growing and unlearning so many harmful things that were so deeply ingrained in us in the church and the evangelical world.

It has been an honor to hear so many of your stories and to get to walk with you on your own journey! 

Thank you so much for making this process so much lighter and way more full of love than I ever could have imagined!

I love you all! Truly. 

Here's to the end of Season 1 and cheers to new adventures, more healing, and more growing than we could ever imagine in 2022!

See you in Season 2!!!

Gary and I continue our conversation and dive deeper into a candid conversation about mental health and caring for yourself.

TW: drug use and childhood neglect

Gary is such an incredibly strong fighter and it has been so amazing as his friend seeing him learn to care for and stand up for himself in setting boundaries and learning what it means to put himself first. He is truly an inspiration.

Follow him on IG @garebear1313 his DM's are always open!

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Follow me on IG @justagirlpastor and email me at [email protected]

Thank you so much for listening to and supporting this show!

In this 2 part series I get to talk to my friend of 10+ years and hear more of his story about coming out as gay and the adversities he faced as a result with his family and the people around him.

TW: Suicide, drug addiction, alcohol addiction, rejection as a result of coming out as gay

***If you are listening to this and you have had suicidal thoughts or ideations, you don’t have to go through that alone. Please call the Suicide Hotline and someone can help: (800) 273-8255

Gary shares his experience growing up in a toxic environment and being forced to go from place to place after he came out as gay.

We also talk a little bit about how we met and how our preconceived ideas about each other didn't stop us from being good friends.

You can follow Gary on IG @garebear1313 

If you have not subscribed and rate this show yet, please do! It really helps get this show out to more people! 

You can follow me on IG @justagirlpastor for more content and as always, feel free to reach out to me at [email protected]

Thanks so much for listening!!! 

In this episode I had to pleasure of talking with my friend Brad from @brad.lifecoach about his story of leaving the church. Brad had been in ministry 20+ years before he began his deconstruction journey. 

He is a certified life coach and it has been such an honor to get to know him and hear more of his story. Brad also tells us about his daughter's coming out as BI and how that impacted his time as a pastor and much more, you don't want to miss this episode!

You can find Brad on Instagram @brad.lifecoach and also on his website coachingwithbrad.org

As always, if you have any questions or topics you'd like me to cover please email me at: [email protected]

Thanks so much for listening!

In this episode Terrence and I continue our conversation about white Christian Nationalism, racism in the church and we even dive a little bit into Purity culture. We discuss the difference in our own personal generation and how we were impacted by things like purity culture. 

I'm so thankful for conversations like these and I hope they bring you hope that love and empathy can move us forward in these issues.

If you have any questions or topics you'd like me to cover please email me at: [email protected] or find me on Instagram @justagirlpastor

As always, thanks for listening and being a part of this journey with me!

In this episode I am joined by my best friend of 17+ years, Terrence! Terrence is a husband, father and musician/worship leader who is currently in the Evangelical church. We have conversations like these all the time, but I thought it would be cool to bring him on and let you all hear some of his wisdom and experiences! 

Terrence tells us about some of his personal experience with racism and with being in predominantly white Christian spaces as a black man, and what that has been like for him. We also discuss some of his ideas and hopes for the church and how it can be more humanizing and loving in this current climate. You won't want to miss this 2 part series! Thank you so much for listening! 

If you have any questions or comments please feel free to reach out at [email protected] or follow me on instagram @justagirlpastor for more content! 

In this episode I had the pleasure of talking with Becky from Also Your Daughters podcast about her experience of reparenting her inner child and healing from trauma. Becky has posted content in the past where she talks about loving and accepting her younger self and how that has helped her heal as an adult and now mother of 2 girls. You don't want to miss this episode!

If you haven't heard her podcast yet or followed her IG account you can do that here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/also-your-daughters/id1495708915 and @alsoyourdaughters 

The books she recommends in this episode are here: 

1. The Making Of Biblical Womanhood https://www.amazon.com/Making-Biblical-Womanhood-Subjugation-Became/dp/1587434709/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1633376138&sr=8-1

2. Jesus and John Wayne https://www.amazon.com/Jesus-John-Wayne-Evangelicals-Corrupted/dp/1631495739/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1633376138&sr=8-4

3. How To Talk So Kids Will Listen https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663870/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1633376226&sr=8-3