Just Another Awkward Overthinking Person

We constantly strive to be good enough and yet never feel like we're good enough. Is the feeling of being good enough just an illusion after all?

Regret is closely related to our own belief that we have failed to make the right choice and that things would've been much better if we had picked a different option. But is it possible to truly know which one of the many choices we have every time we need to make a decision is the right choice given our limited ability to only live one branch of reality from that choices? If there is no way to prove the right choice, does the right choice then even exist? If it doesn't exist, does regret exist? I went into deep thinking mode for days on this, try listening and see if it makes sense or turns out to be utter nonsense.

I first heard of this story as I was wandering through the land of YouTube. It was on a YouTube Channel called Einzelganger (video link: https://youtu.be/WCsPCrZ4aq0) which discusses and interprets philosophical concepts and ideas of well known philosophers. It has really great content throughout and always tends to pick your mind or offer different perspectives on the subject being discussed. Anyway, when I heard this story from quite a while back it just stuck to me and to this day it still comes up in my mind every now and then. This story has not been proven to be true, it is just a tale told by someone wise many centuries to get a point across and today I hope the message of this story is passed on to you instead.

The people around us, our family, friends, colleagues. Their presence and the things they do have become so familiar we low key take them and the things they do for granted. It's very easy to fall into that pit, isn't it? So i ask you now (and myself), are you appreciating them enough? Do you acknowledge their efforts, do you give them credit for the things they do especially when it's related to you? What does it mean appreciating someone? Why appreciate someone? How do you appreciate someone?

Let me ask you this, of the millions times you told yourself not to judge someone, how many times were you actually successful? What I’m really questioning is, can we actually really stop ourselves from forming a judgement of someone/something? Well, I don’t think we can. Forming judgement is of one our many genetically hard-wired behaviors, it is our species’ natural survival instinct. But then the question comes, does that make it okay to judge/be judgmental then?

"Men can't take 'No' for an answer." No actually, we all can't take 'No' for an answer. When was the last time you declined someone's invite, request or favour without feeling that strong need and guilt to justify your 'No'? Cannot remember when right? Society has made us feel bad for expressing boundaries and it seems pretty ridiculous to me. So here's just a friendly reminder to cut people some slack and let them decide freely the things that weighs the most to them. And for those of you already doing that, I appreciate your existence in this world, thank you!

Small talks, I loathe having them. As much as I understand how small talks can bridge two individuals together in a conversation, is the base communication to any form of connection or relationship with anyone, is extremely useful in networking purposes, I still think its unnecessary and pointless. Listen on to know what's my definition of small talk, why I find it pointless and why I hate it so much and see if you can relate (or not)..

Personally, I don't think we're good listeners to kids. Oh, scratch that I don't think we're good listeners at all in general. You don't want to admit it right? Okay, listen on and find out if you agree with me or not. Also, did you know that Malaysia now has a dedicated children’s helpline service? Yeahh, finally someone is paying attention to the mental and emotional health of children! I talk about it at the very end of this episode. Also, what's your definition of a good listener?

Part 2 will be focusing on how I have come to realize how society teaches children to deny "wrong" emotions. We were taught that there are "right" and "wrong" to emotions and we're only allowed to show the "right" ones and suppress the "wrong" ones. I believe it has affected us so many ways mostly bad than good. Listen on to see if you can relate to this no matter if you're a kid or an adult.

Let me bring your attention to the flaws I find in our society's style of upbringing. Let's take a deeper look into this topic and hopefully do better for our kids. Part 1 of this episode covers how we assume kids and children do not understand serious or "adult" issues. Basically we think they dumb laa, but are you sure about that? Do you have moments in your childhood where you may have heard and/or felt that something was wrong but the adults around you just denied the hell out of it and this may have affected you in ways you never thought it would?