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Ep58 Interview with Dr. Debi Silber on Post Betrayal Transformation

Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis and her newest book: Trust Again: Overcoming Betrayal and Regaining Health, Confidence and Happiness. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence and happiness they want most.

Founder: The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute

https://thepbtinstitute.com/ (https://thepbtinstitute.com)

Show Notes

PBT Instititute

Psychology of transformation and human potential

Betrayal - what holds us back - 3 groundbreaking discoveries

Gender applications

Women struggle with emotional betrayal, men with physical betrayal

Shame - is it me? Did I do something wrong?

Early Childhood betrayal

Tools

4 step trust rebuilding

Full healing means moving through 5 predictable stages

the setup stage

4 legs of table - physical, mental, spiritual, emotional

the shock

breakdown of body. mind, worldview - vulnerable to disease, illness and stress

Survival instincts emerge

you grab onto anything that works, it feels better

plant deep roots even though its not the right place

low level emotions

call in circumstances and relationships that confirm this

you resign yourself - food, TV, alcohol, drugs - in order to numb the situation

it becomes a habit, then lifestyle

Finding and adjusting to a new normal

not necessarily normal but you stopped the massive damage of stages 2+3

you leave your outgrown friends

Healing, rebirth, new world view

new experiences

solidly grounded because you focus on the 4 parts

TedX - transformation

something terrible happens - worst thing ever - you can mourn it as long as you like

if you choose to rebuild it, why would you rebuild it the same way

The Gift - trauma is the setup for transformation

you create a new identity

take with you what you like, leave behind what does not work

Victim mindset - stuck in stage 3