Kairos Moments

On Today's Episode:

I'm talking to Tammy Whitehurst. Tammy is the co-director of the Christian Communicator's Conference, a training conference for speakers. However, to those who know her best she is simply Davis's wife, an empty nest mom, and a former middle school teacher. Tammy told me she's built her team around the premise of "collaboration over competition." When I heard that, I knew she was my people, and I had to have her on the podcast.

KEY TAKEAWAY POINTS:

• Abundance vs. Scarcity Mindset! Just because God blesses you with a gift, doesn't diminish His ability to bless me with my own unique gift.
• Collaborators know how to learn from others.
• Collaborators are inviters.
• Collaborators are includers. Usually, they've felt the sting of being on the outside.
• Collaborators have been underdogs.
• Collaborators want to see and applaud the gifts God's given other people.
• Collaborators are confident in the gifts God's given them.
• Collaborators are encouragers.
• Collaborators want to see other people succeed.
• Collaborators share.
• Collaboration is a Win-Win!

QUOTES:

"When you collaborate instead of compete with other people, you get MORE doors open to you!" (Tammy)

"You do what God's called you to do, and we work together to do something really awesome" (Tammy)

"When we compete ... we're ultimately going to end up alone" (Tammy)

"Competition is lonely" (Julie)

When people compete ... "Satan's like a buzzard. He just roams around picking people apart one painful piece at a time" (Tammy).

"Collaboration is a happier place. You don't have jealousy and envy. You accept the call god's put on your life and do it well" (Tammy).

"Don't die with buried treasure!" (Tammy)

SCRIPTURE:

"Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don't be impressed with yourself. Don't compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life" (Galatians 6:4-5, The MSG).

"I consider my life worth nothing to me; my only aim is to finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me—the task of testifying to the good news of God's grace" (Acts 20:24, NIV).

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For the woman who is discouraged from even trying because she feels like she can't compete:

1. Step out on two-footed faith. One footed faith says, "Okay Jesus, I'm going to step out in faith, but just in case you don't come through for me, I'm going to have Plan B, C, D, E, F and G."
2. Believe that the impossible is possible. So many people stop before they even get started because they think they have to be perfect. Cemeteries are filled with stories that were never told, songs that were never sung, teachers that never taught.

CHRISTIAN COMMUNICATORS CONFERENCE:

Christian Communicators Conference: "It's a small conference where big things happen" (Tammy)

If you would like to collaborate with other Christian speakers, this conference is the place to be no matter where you're at on your speaking journey.

Don't Miss Out!!!

Tammy has gracious offered $50 off the registration fee for my listeners. All you have to do is mention you heard about the conference on Kairos Moments podcast.

• What: Christian Communicators Conference
• Where: Fort Worth, TX
• When: July 27-31, 2022

ABOUT TAMMY:

As an author, blogger, and full-time speaker, Tammy encourages and challenges audiences to live life kicked up a notch. Tammy has been featured in Lifeway magazines, Woman's World, Mature Living, Christianity Today and many other publications. She is the co-owner of the Christian Communicator's Conference, a training conference for speakers. However, to those who know her best she is simply Davis's wife, an empty nest mom, and a former middle school teacher. She struggles like the rest of us with dust, dishes, cellulite, junk drawers, and wrinkles.

CONNECT W/ TAMMY:

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/TammyWhitehurstSpeaker/

WEBSITE:

https://christiancommunicators.com

www.TammyWhitehurst.com

If you go to Tammy's website (above), you can sign up for a monthly Happy Mail Newsletter where she chooses a group of 10 women out of the 1,500 subscribers to be a part of a "Coffee & Conversation" Zoom chat.

YOUTUBE:

https://www.youtube.com/user/Joy4theJourney

Kairos Moments is a place where we talk about FAITH, your GOD-GIVEN DREAM, and YOU – the woman behind the dream. You'll be:

• EMPOWERED to start living with bold faith,
• ACTIVATED to begin walking in your calling and bringing your God-given dream to life, and
• RELEASED to become the woman God has created you to be in the process.

I'm so glad you're here! Let's do this, TOGETHER!

ON TODAY'S EPISODE:

I talk about "6 Benefits of Collaborating in Community." God created us in community for community! Not just to alleviate loneliness, but because He knows the power of synergy!

QUOTE:

"If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together!" (African Proverb, author unknown).

SCRIPTURE:

• "The LORD said, 'If as one people speaking the same language, they have begun to do this, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them" (Genesis 11:6).
• "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).

TO CONNECT W/ ME:

• Website: https://www.stuffofheaven.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/julie_e_holmquist
• Facebook: https://www.facebook/stuffofheaven
• Or join our Private Facebook Group over at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/582220752595603

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALKED ABOUT:

• What a Fierce Calling is.
• Dreams becoming idols in our hearts
• Surrender is key to carrying out the dream God's given you
• Being an extrovert or introvert has nothing to do with confidence.
• We need to continually go back to God for a fresh filling
• At times we may feel like the anointing to walk in our calling has left us. But in reality, God may just have more preparation He wants to do in us.
• Serving in areas where we don't necessarily feel called
• Questions to ask yourself when you doubt your dream

QUOTES:

"Your dream may not always come at a time when you want it to come, and it may not always look the way you think it's going to look." (Doris)

CONNECTING w/ DORIS:

Doris Swift is an author, speaker, and host of the Fierce Calling Podcast. In ministry for over 30 years, Doris is passionate about equipping women to walk deeper in God's Word, walk out of their doubt and into their calling, and use their gifts to impact the world for Christ. Her writing can be found on popular sites such as (in)courage, Just Between Us Magazine, Life Letter Café, Thrive Global, Purposeful Faith, and Arise Daily. She currently resides in Florida with her husband Brian and a curious cat named Oliver. She is mom to two extraordinary grown-ups and Gammy to six beautiful grandkids.

Website: https://dorisswift.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DorisSSwift Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dorissusanswift/

Dori's Book: Goodbye, Regret: Forgiving Yourself of Past Mistakes

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT:

• Women struggle with a lot of the same things no matter what age you are.
• Having a community of women who stick around in the good and the bad.
• Life is busy, but it's important to find your group of intentional relationships.
• What it looks like to surrender our fears to God.
• How anxiety, needing control, and pride are connected.
• It feels so good to not have to carry the worry of the world.
• Amy discovered freedom when she was diagnosed with cancer.
• When you live with fear, you're not really living.
• There's so much freedom in letting go!
• What it looks like to surrender your fears to God
• The goal is not to get rid of fear completely. It's to let the Holy Spirit tame it so it doesn't rule our lives.
• Brave steps will always be a win!
• Book was written with the introvert in mind.
• Community is important on this journey of being emboldened.

QUOTES:

• "You can't know your purpose until you deal with the fear." (Amy)
• "When you are in a mode of fear, you are less apt to listen and you certainly aren't going to act on anything." (Amy)
• "Fear is normal, but courage gets the final say." (Amy)
• "Pride really plays a big factor into a woman's fear." (Amy)
• "Your brave step will always be a win!" (Amy)

CONNECT w/ AMY:

Amy Debrucque is a wife, mom of four, cancer survivor, and co-author of "Embolden." She is the founder of the Life On Purpose Movement and host of the Life On Purpose Podcast where she encourages women to live on purpose instead of fear. Amy loves entertaining with family and friends. A self-proclaimed "beach junkie," health nut, and chocolate lover, she loves cooking, baking, attending her kids' sporting events and getting in weekly HIIT workouts with her friend Alice. "Embolden" Book https://www.amazon.com/em-bold-en-Amy-Blair-Debrucque/dp/1735632821/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Amy+debrucque&qid=1634603665&sr=8-1 "Life on Purpose" Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/life-on-purpose-podcast-with-amy-debrucque/id1498212623 Website: www.amydebrucque.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amydebrucque/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/surrenderyourfear

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT:

• We are God's masterpieces, and He created good works for us to do (Ephesians 2:10).
• God has a plan! Satan's Plot is to Keep You From It!
• Don't look at your calling as small because we won't know the impact of it this side of heaven.
• Cheri's newest Mini Course: "5 Steps to Create Your Spiritual Game Plan (How to Find Your Relevance and Worth in Seasons of Transition)

QUOTES:

"You can't sit at home and wait for Amazon to drop off your calling. So, look for the need in your community. Look for the need in your church." (Cheri)

"When we all do what we're called to do, it glorifies God." (Julie)

CONNECT w/ CHERI:

Cheri Fletcher is a writer, speaker, singer and the host of Your Spiritual Game Plan podcast. She loves to help women develop a spiritual game plan so that they can live out the purpose God created for them. She wants to share the message of just how intentionally you were made to be a part of God's plan.

Through writing, speaker and hosting her podcast, it is her desire to equip you with an understanding of the enemy's plot against that very plan.

She and her husband Todd are empty nesters and have just moved from Seattle WA to Cleveland Tennessee. They have three grown children and 1 dog, Libby. Cheri enjoys running and walking with friends. She will also invite you in for coffee no matter what state her kitchen is in!

WEBSITE: https://cherifletcher.com

When you go to Cheri's website, she has a *FREE* mini course you can download. It's called "5 Steps to Create Your Spiritual Game Plan (How to Find Your Relevance and Worth in Seasons of Transition). Download it here.

FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/CheriLFletcher INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/cherifletcher TWITTER: https://twitter.com/cherilfletcher

The Bible says: "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life" (Proverbs 13:12 NLT). We know God is not a magic genie that exists simply to fulfill our every wish, desire or longing. But I also know that sometimes when our dreams (the ones we thought God gave us) don't come to fruition, our hearts can become hardened, cold, and unbelieving because we're left hurt and disillusioned. We can't always pinpoint why those dreams never happened, but we can always trust that He knows the bigger picture. His ways are not our ways! If we aren't careful, the disappointments, delays and detours with our dreams give the enemy an open door to build strongholds of doubt and unbelief. A hard heart is not good soil to receive another dream from Him. A sick heart will cause you to:

• Second guess your ability to hear God.
• Not be able to dream again.
• Adopt a "que sera sera" attitude.
• Not pray.
• Pray safe prayers – you know the kind of prayers that if God doesn't come through, it's not that big of a deal
• Not trust God with your heart anymore

Ask me how I know. I've been there!

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT:

• The difference between the pressure of a dream and a weight of a dream.
• We prepare and show up, the outcome is up to God. ("Pressure's off!")
• Faithful over Famous
• Prophetically speaking into someone's life.
• How you hold the tension between AMBITION and knowing this dream is God's dream.
• What God's definition of success is.
• Sometimes God calls you to be a dream supporter.
• Sanctification can be part of God's plan for you with the dream He's given you.
• Slow growth vs. instant gratification.
• How to know when God is asking you to quit or persevere.
• God's "Divine Strategic Plan"
• Sometimes a "failed" dream is really God building into you what you need for the dream.
• Moses' excuses with the dream God gave him.

QUOTES:

• "Our act of obedience isn't really in pursuit of that dream, but our act of obedience is really in pursuit of Christ." (Jenny)
• "Wanting success is fine, but wanting Jesus is greater!" (Jenny)
• "We yearn for maturity and slam dunks even before taking our first steps." (Jenny)
• "It's not just one big dream we're pursuing; it a bunch of little dreams that make up the one big dream of pursuing Him." (Jenny)

CONNECT w/ JENNY:

Jenny Randle went from a career in the heart of Hollywood to a faith-based author, national speaker, and chart-topping podcaster. Her search for meaning in the everyday moments of life has led her to write her newest book Dream Come True, where Jenny encourages readers to dream on for the glory of God and good of others.

Website: www.jennyrandle.com

Facebook Page: www.facebook.com/FreedomCreatives

Instagram: www.instagram.com/jenny.randle

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT:

• What overwhelm is.
• The two different kinds of overwhelm in a calling.
• Practical steps in how to eliminate overwhelm.

QUOTES:

• "Clarity comes from action, and action can be just one simple thing." (Christa)
• "The longer you sit in overwhelm, the more overwhelming in gets. … The only way to make it stop growing is to do something." (Christa)
• "It's very empowering to take one step at a time because you gain confidence with each step that you take." (Julie)

CONNECT w/ CHRISTA:

Christa Hutchins equips busy Christian communicators and leaders with project management and problem solving skills so they can turn their big ideas into a successful ministry or business. She is passionate about teaching women to find practical application of the Bible in their personal, professional and ministry lives. Christa lives in south Louisiana with her husband in their delightfully empty nest.

• FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/doanewthing
• INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/doanewthing
• WEBSITE: https://doanewthing.com

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Heather graciously strips away all pretense and tells us what comparison really is and how to find freedom from it.
• We also answer the question: "Is it wrong to want more or better in life?"
• Women are notorious for comparing ourselves with other women in our marriages, homes, jobs, children, body image. We can also fall into the comparison trap in our God-given dreams and in our calling.
• Comparison doesn't always include other people. We can also struggle when we spend our time comparing ourselves with who we feel we should be and who we used to be.

QUOTES:

• "Comparison is the enemy's way of saying, 'God cheated you!'" (Heather)
• "Idols can be good things in the wrong spot." (Heather)

CONNECT W/ HEATHER:

• WEBSITE: https://comparedtowho.me/
• INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/comparedtowho/
• FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/HeatherCreekmoreblog

CONNECT W/ JULIE:

• WEBSITE: https://stuffofheaven.com
• INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/julie_e_holmquist
• FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/stuffofheaven

On today's episode, I talk with Melissa Dyer about:

• What a dormant dream is.
• What's happening behind the scenes of a dormant dream.
• Seasons of a dream.
• Things to do while waiting on God for the right season.
• The ONE quality a dreamer needs.
• And MORE....

Melissa C. Dyer is a wife, mother, business owner, and Champion of women. She's worked as a corporate executive, in Christian ministry, and as a homeschool mom. Her writing and teachings have inspired, challenged, and educated readers and listeners for more than 20 years. She's the Author of two books, Learning to Roar and Courageous Days. She's the host of the popular podcast The Cost Is Courage and she resides in sunny south Florida with her husband and fur baby Jill. She's now the mother of young adult children and an empty nester.

CONNECT

Website: www.MelissaCDyer.com

Instagram: @melissacdyer_

HER BOOK

https://www.amazon.com/Learning-Roar-lessons-courage-female/dp/1734785500/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=learning+to+roar&qid=1628529553&sr=8-3

WORKBOOKS

This is the first in a set of three workbooks that will help you stay grounded and able to freely run your race with your God-given dream.

DEFINED: Identity in Christ

The other two workbooks are coming soon! They are:

• KNOWN: Intimacy with God
• CALLED: Impact for the Kingdom

***Go to https://stuffofheaven.com to become a Stuff of Heaven Insider. That way you'll stay up to date when the next two workbooks are released.