By Alexa Martinez
The podcast currently has 28 episodes available.
On this episode of Kaleidoscope radio, Alexa answers the demand of the Kaleidoscope. She asked, you answered and you told her in alarming numbers that you want to learn about Tantra. Alexa's answer? To welcome the lovely Devi Erickson to the show! Devi has a background immersed in traditional Tantric practice, and authentic teachings that she learned from a man who not only studied Tantra for over 30 years, but also learned Tibetan practices that are barely known, let alone taught.
Devi tells Alexa about her entry into Tantra, and how when she moved to Vancouver, people just thought she gave erotic massages. She described the basis, foundation and tradition of Tantra, and the purpose it's meant to serve. She and Alexa also share a giggle over some of the more “enlightened” terms for genitalia in other cultures.
She takes us along for a quick but intense history lesson and describes Tantra using a river metaphor that paints the most beautiful image possible. She also weaves her own experiences into that history and describes the style of Tantra she is knowledgeable in, and how it's origins differ from the more widely known Tantric practices.
Alexa and Devi discuss the topic of tantra as a trend, and the dangers involved with how many inexperienced practitioners there are. She explains that in order to hold the space for someone to heal, you have a responsibility to be trained, qualified and experienced enough to provide that depth of healing. She also explains the importance of knowing your role, and being prepared with the right people on hand to help in any psychological capacity that may be needed. There's more to Tantra than a weekend seminar.
Alexa asks Devi to describe what a session with her looks like, and what comes next is nothing short of beautiful. She describes the depth of connection that people reach just looking into each others eyes, and how heartbeats even synchronize. She also talks about how sex can be once those levels of connection are felt. Alexa relates back and talks about her experience with shallow encounters, and the different things she's been experiencing within her mind, body and sexuality as she grows as a person.
Quotes
“And the one thing I had never addressed was my sexuality, because I didn't think I needed to”
Links
“Tantra is a path to enlightenment”
“It's not just sex, it's so much more”
“Usually what they're yearning for is connection. That's the missing piece”
“The key to great sex is being present in your body”
If the person does not have a lineage, and does not have a teacher, then they're not practicing or teaching tantra”
“It can be fun without connection, but it's so much better when there is”
Links
More Alexa
www.thevioletbutterfly.com
The Kaleidoscope
Alexa welcomes Jess onto Kaleidoscope Radio after seeing what was easily one of the most exciting and engaged threads she's ever come across on social media. The threads are a play by play recount of Jess' mission yo get her “number” up to 100. Tons of ladies are letting Jess know that they love her mission, that it excites them, inspires them, and gives them life. Why not invite her here, to talk all about it?
Jess talks about the inspiration behind Jess Hits 100, and asks Alexa what thread she caught. Alexa tells her that it was the airport post, and Jess gives her a live breakdown of what went down, and how much fun it was. She shares a lot of insight, and her own thought process during the adventure, and why heels and hard hats can be an awkward combination.
Alexa asks her to share some of the potentially creepy or awkward situations that this has brought on. Her answer is pretty hocking, and also really informative as she discusses the impact of being so open about her sexuality and get goal.
Alexa starts asking Jess about specific numbered encounters. She takes her on a journey to Argentina, a Bus trip to LA, a play party, and so many other places. She also describes the best sex, and the kinkiest sex that this mission is giving her the opportunity to experience. She also talks about the legendary 44.
She tells Alexa about her big #100 and how it went down, as well as the celebration that followed. The ladies then go on to talk about butt stuff, because what else would make this episode even better than it already was?
Jess gets the opportunity to talk about some of the cool things she's planning to do, and what she wants to work on in the present, and what she's got in mind for the future, she also shares a few ways to reach out and connect with her.
Quotes
“I didn't want to be 95 one day and not remember when I was young”
“In my head I heard feint alarm bells, it was fine, I got out of there”
“If they were really rude or something, no thank you.”
“I had to tell a man the other day where his G spot is”
Links
www.readyjessgo.com
www.femaletravelcollective.com
More Alexa
www.thevioletbutterfly.com
Destin Gerek is a transformational empowerment coach who specializes in helping you tap deep into your masculine core, awaken your sexual energy, and harness this newfound power to passionately manifest your biggest visions, and create the life of your dreams. Referred to by the press as Tantra meets Tony Robbins, Destin Gerek is an internationally recognized leading voice in masculinity, sexuality, consciousness, and personal empowerment. Recognizing the need for new role models for men in these changing times, Destin is dedicated to redefining masculinity for the 21st century.
Alexa begins by introducing Destin, and alluding to him as an erotic rock star, before handing over the spotlight. Destin tells her his views on the #metoo campaign, and what he's observed about the behaviors of men since that campaign began. He also explains what Alexa meant by the Erotic Rock Star, and the adventure that it was.
He talks about the two types of guys: the bad boy, and then the anti-bad boy, and how each identity plays a role in a woman's feeling emotionally safe as well as desired. He also tells Alexa about how he shifted himself away from being considered a serious partner, and what happened when he decided he wanted to change that.
Destin talks about what men can do for modern women, and he and Alexa discuss intuition versus logic and reason. The two also get into conscious sexuality, and how Tantric experiences and BDSM experiences can both create a level of consciousness within a person. Destin also gives some insights throughout the show on what makes an Evolved Man, and the benefits of having that awareness.
Quotes
“Previous to three months ago, we've had large scale denial that we even had an issue”
“I challenged myself to become the role model that I wished that I had”
“How ever you present yourself to the world, it's a mask”
“Women aren't seeing me as a potential partner, they're seeing me as a fun ride they want to experience”
“There are things that men need to hear from another man”
Links
http://EvolvedMasculine.com
http://EvolvedMasculine.com/blueprint
http://DestinGerek.com
Social Media
http://facebook.com/destingerekprofile
http://facebook.com/destingerek
http://twitter.com/destingerek
Dr. Susie Gronski is a doctor of physiotherapy, a board certified pelvic rehab practitioner, and simply put, she's a physiotherapist for your private parts. She is the author of Pelvic Pain: The Ultimate Cockblock. She loves the outdoors and snuggling with her boys, her Hubby and fur babies. She's passionate about empowering others to take control of their sexual health, resolving their pelvic pain and fears around pain in general, meditation and spiritual development, education people about their bodies (especially their private parts) and being real... whatever that means!
Dr. Susie kicks off by telling Alexa how she got into the medical field and what inspired her to follow a path into physiotherapy. Pursuing her hunger for knowledge and her thirst for adventure, as well as a shocking moment in which say may (or may not) have peed on herself, she found the field of pelvic health. That covers the hoo hah's, but as for the dangly bits, when guys started coming to her with issues, she decided out of compassion to narrow in and niche down in order to help people with one specific issue: their private parts.
Alexa asks her about the most common issues she faces with Men, and Dr. Susie is more than happy to share the list! She gives quite a few examples of issues that men face, and the role that not only physical health, but also mental health plays in the healing of pelvic issues. She also shares some information about the pain that women experience, and why men aren't looked at with the same eyes women are when it comes to pelvic pain.
She and Alexa talk about the person, place or thing that you keep facing on a daily basis that causes stress, can create and manifest a protective response in the body. It's important to identify the triggers that cause you stress, and work to rectify that issue, as triggers can often lead to bigger health problems if left unchecked. Dr. Susie also mentions that environment plays a role in the healing process.
She gets into the subject of pain, and the fact that it's necessary for survival. She describes that both physically and emotionally, pain is a way to identify something that is wrong for us, or that we shouldn't be doing. She explains that it's a good idea to pay attention to our pain, but also to accept it as well as push beyond it to find a solution. She also talks about pain being a gift because it makes you take action.
Alexa talks about branding, and asks Dr. Susie about her choice of branding and the journey it took to get there. She happily describes the experience of pushing her limits, and taking the plunge to speak her mind within her business and her message. Alexa also talks about authenticity and how important it is to be honest and up front with yourself and your audience. She also accepts and invitation to In Your Pants, Susie's podcast.
Quotes
“They don't have help, they don't know where to go, and no one will listen to them”
“Without awareness of recognition, how can you change anything?”
“If we didn't have pain, we wouldn't have the ability to survive as a species”
“What we feel in our body is because our brain is telling us to feel it”
“It is a conscious experience, but it's constructed in our brain”
Links
www.drsusieg.com
In Your Pants – Podcast
Alexa bears all on this episode of Kaleidoscope Radio, and the result is an emotional one. She explains that her story shared is a current one, one that she's experiencing in real time as it develops, and that leaves an uncertainty and vulnerability that she's not used to sharing with anyone, let alone an audience.
Alexa tells about a relationship that dissipated due to distance and a bleak outlook half a year prior to this recording. She describes her rationale in ending things, and felt that it was the correct thing to do because of distance and disconnect. The something happened that she wasn't quite ready to accept. Alexa has been saying that she doesn't want monogamy or a family for a long time, but recently she found a very deep connection with someone and resisted it. Things grew until both of them stopped, and realized they're not looking for the same things. Alexa was devastated, and surprised by that reaction. She uses this experience to set up her relationship and relevance of her guest, Stef Sifandos
Stef spends his days learning to be open to receiving, creating content and reading material, spending time training and in personal practices. He spends his time with beautiful people, whether that's friends, clients, family or strangers. He and Alexa laugh about how difficult it is to sum up what they do in few words, but the always give it their best shot, and how it often gets understated.
Alexa asks him about his connection to the masculine and feminine and how that appears within his work. He describes how he approaches conversation about the two in a way that's not fractured or fragmented, and that he's mindful of his words because he's come from a place that was negative, and he understands that he can use his language, understanding and experience in a way that can allow us to connect as people. He describes the way people can overdo one or the other, and that's it more about finding that steady state of being, and that patience and understanding is crucial is finding your balanced state.
He talks about receiving, and how he was always in a giving energy, and gave so much all of the time that he wasn't putting himself in a place to be receptive of things. Stef shares some of the driving reason behind why some people give, and that they can come from both healthy and unhealthy places. He also addresses a question Alexa asks about heartbreak, and the journey that it is, and how to properly set yourself up to get what you need out of the experience. He also defines and breaks down negative emotions and why it's important to stay with them and then move beyond them.
Alexa further relates her heartbreak to us, as well as Stef, and describes the emotional journey she went though in order to make sense of it all. She shares the highs and lows of the experience, as well as the ramifications it has on the story she's not only told herself, but the entire Kaleidoscope up to this point.
Quotes
“I'm just good at saying goodbye”
“I hadn't cried that hard in years”
“I help people deal with the issues I was going through at that time, but I didn't have anyone that I could look to that could help me.”
“Ultimately it's about finding that steady state”
“You need to create the space to allow yourself to receive”
“When we take a break from the normality of life, we create space for ourselves”
“Support presents itself in many ways”
“You've been choosing that because it's safe”
Links
www.Stefsifandos.com
Alexa welcomes the producer of Kaleidoscope radio, Scott Doucet onto the show today! Scott a Podcast producer, consultant and host of the show Podcast Bay. His brand, which shares the name of his show, aims to educate people about podcasting and how to get the job done effectively, with quality and purpose at the forefront. When Scott first got into producing podcasts for other business owners, he found it to be rather boring and flavorless, but once Alexa came along with the idea that was Kaleidoscope Radio, a world of sexy and exciting audio possibilities opened up within his production journey and he was more than happy to accept the challenge.
Alexa congratulated Scotty on his soon to be family and they talk back and forth about how freaked out both of them are by children and the concept of having kids. Scott talks to children like they're tiny adults, and the idea of having children scares the crap out of him. He also explains that sex has become a little weird for him since his wife got pregnant because it almost feels like he has a tiny audience at all times.
Scott and Alexa chat back and forth about their different upbringings, and how that impacted their lives and lead them to who they are today. Scott explains that his relationship with both of his parents is very open, and he can talk to them about anything, even if it's sex related.
Scott brings up a jaw dropping moment on Kaleidoscope Radio that led him to learn that he actually has limitations to what he wants to experience sexually. They talked about Alexa's search history, and a talk that she did at a crypto-currency event about sexual deviancy.
The chat leads to censorship within the media, and Scott voices that it was, and continues to be one of his biggest obstacles and concerns for the production aspect of Alexa's show. Even though she can say whatever she wants to on the air, it becomes a little difficult when writing descriptions and titles, because there is a limit to how open these things can be on places like iTunes.
Alexa and Scott circle back to talk about the Kaleidoscope as a community, and how Scott is a little jealous of Alexa for having such an awesome group of supporters behind her. Scott also brings up how he was a bit worried about how his editor was going to adjust to working on Kaleidoscope Radio because of the open approach to subject matter, but that it ended up becoming his source of sexual education. Scott expresses his appreciation for both Alexa and her guests for putting out a show that helps people ease into situations and learn about them before actually having to experience them first hand and potentially have a bad experience.
Scott gets into some of the podcast episodes that he has particularly enjoyed working on and listening to, and why. He also talks about why working on the show has given Scott's job a lot more meaning and purpose than it had in the days before Alexa's show his his desk. Alexa also shares her most nerve wracking interview and why she was so nervous behind the mic while she was talking to that particular guest.
Finally, to close out this episode of the show, Alexa allows Scott to flip the script and ask a question of his own. He decides to ask Alexa if she's as open as she is accepting of others, or are there things she just won't do?
“Every moment of my life whether I knew it or not was leading me up to working in the audio industry”
“Have you ever had that moment when you walk into a room and realize you're the coolest kid there?”
“I was obsessed with my tally-whacker from the moment I knew it existed”
“I did not know I had hard limits until I heard your show”
“The last thing I want to do is censor you”
“we want something that makes us feel like we matter, and that our job matters, and gives us meaning and validation and this show does that for me”
“Acceptance is everything”
Alexa kicks off by sharing how she met Suzie, as well as where this episode will differ from past episodes. She has decided to focus on the dating angle for this show, and therefore helping Kaleidoscope Radio to cover the entire spectrum of Sex, Love and Relationships.
Suzie describes what she does, and how she got into the craziness that is her multifaceted life and career. She explains that everything came about on the tail end of a massive breakup, and accepting ownership over her part what went wrong. She talks about the journey of finding herself again, and how she was able to rebuild herself, and find a purpose that made her truly happy. She shares that once she figured it out, people started to find her as if she was a beacon, because even though she hadn't put anything out there saying that she could coach people through relationship struggles, people started to ask for her help.
Alexa and Suzie chat about the qualities within them that seem to have a magnetic pull that attract certain people who need them into their circle when the timing is just right, and how just being honest, open and expressive has helped them to find the people they love and appreciate in various aspects of their lives. Alexa also shares that she's open to searching for the good in people, and typically will find something she loves within someone. They also talk about self care, balance, and how showing up as your best self actually plays into attraction on every level.
Suzie talks about how important it is to be authentic to yourself, and who you are instead of trying to play into what you believe someone wants. She explains that good looking people often date average looking people because they value things like a big heart and family values more than they value hair extensions and botox. She says that when you allow your inner self to show and radiate outward, you attract the people who are best suited to you and your desires. She talks about some of the things she witnessed while throwing singles events, and how people missed the point of attraction and focused on superficial things, instead of the things that actually matter long term.
Alexa and Suzie discuss why it's so crucial to put effort into getting ready for things, and why taking pride in the way you look, and feel can make a monumental difference in the way things work out for you. Suzie explains that she won't even show up unless she's feeling good because the desired results just won't be there unless she's in the right place physically, emotionally and mentally. She also shares an example of how subconscious habits can impact people far more deeply than they would expect.
Suzie also brings up that the current state of things after the #metoo campaign, men are actually afraid to approach women for fear of being labeled improperly or accidentally misreading a social cue and inadvertently causing a problem. She also stresses that it's so crucial for people to educate themselves on things that they are afraid of in order to create understanding and dispel the fear aspect.
They talk about non negotiable things that they care about, and how being dishonest about what you're into or willing to accept, or settling for something less than you want, almost always fall short or ends badly. Alexa also talks about being open and upfront, and how she doesn't want to get into a relationship and hold back anything about herself, so she feels it's good to lay your cards out on the table and expose your needs, wants, preferences and expectations from a relationship when things start to get serious. They also talk about the difference between lust and love, and how a person's kiss can tell you so much about how they will be in the bedroom.
“We blame the other person all the time, but it takes two to tango”
“When people have had trauma, their empathy and intuition just goes off the charts”
“Are you making sure you're showing up as a well balanced version of you?”
“There are so many hot guys, according to the media, who are with the average girl next door because they don't want high maintenance”
“You can feel when a certain person has walked into the room because they've got that light, and that energy, and that's what people need to find”
“You've got to care about how you wrap the package”
“We show people how we want to be treated”
“Just feel confident in yourself. Own your space.”
“The way they touch you when they're kissing you tells you what they're going to be like in the bedroom”
Links
Meet Your Match - Dating Course
https://meetyourmatch.thinkific.com
30 Day PR Mastery
https://suzie-parkus.thinkific.com/courses/30-Day-PR-Mastery?ref=73f3cd
Monthly Media Planner
https://suzie-parkus.thinkific.com/courses/media-planner?ref=73f3cd
Disclaimer
These links are affiliate links
Jen Oliver is an Author, Podcaster, Core Transformation Coach and Founder of The Love FitMama Way. Through safe fitness, self care and mindfulness she supports new mums to embrace, nurture and enjoy their motherhood journey. What she is most passionate about is supporting women to love their bodies and love their lives.
She enjoys pelvic floor related talk, how connecting to your deep inner core muscles gives you better orgasms, how to do this using core fitness, and how a deeper connection to your own core gives you confidence in the bedroom and the boardroom as a mom and in life.
Alexa introduces Jen to the show and describes her excitement and discomfort surrounding the topic of sex and relationships after motherhood. Jen describes what makes a Fit Mama for her, and how she could tie fitness and nutrition into motherhood, in a way that is both nurturing and enjoyable.
She also discusses the core, and what happens to a woman's core during and after pregnancy. She brings up sex during and after pregnancy as well, and what can potentially happen to both partners during that time in a woman's life.
Jen shares some tips, exercises and insights surrounding pelvic floor recovery, and restoring strength and tenacity to your core. She explains that taking the time to to see a professional can make a massive difference in solving a variety of issues after pregnancy. She also shares what to look for post pregnancy, and when your body will heal itself.
She talks about intentions, expectations and obligations. She relates micromanagement, and stress, and how they can all play in together if left unchecked. Jen shares insights about accepting help, and being able to put ourselves first and not stretching ourselves too thin. She describes a breathing technique that strengthens the bond between your mind, your nervous system and your pelvic floor. She and Alexa also debunk the hormone myths.
Quotes
"I want to gently shock and awe"
"Being a Fit Mama all starts with love"
"These changes don't need to be negative"
"There is so much misinformation and lack of information out there"
"Just because it's common, doesn't mean it's normal"
"When you start with this deep unconditional love for yourself, magic actually starts to happen"
"If anything were possible, what would your ideal situation look like?"
"We live our lives largely by reaction"
"The number one benefit of breathing is calming the nervous system."
Links
http://jenoliver.com
http://facebook.com/jenoliver17
https://www.instagram.com/lovejenoliver/
http://lovefitmama.com/pearlpullups
https://www.youtube.com/lovefitmama
Alexa and Laureen talk about the impact that Laureen is having in the world, and how it means so much to her to hear about the difference she's making by spreading awareness about HSV. Laureen also describes her experience, and the journey from first contracting Herpes, and the decision to share it with the world in order to heal, educate and empower others. She also explains why she went from silence, to blogging, and finally to video.
She talks about the self perception that people who have contracted something have about being judged, and often people have never given anyone the opportunity to be there for them out of fear of judgment. She also describes the various stages that the herpes virus manifests, and the different ways it takes shape and form. She also shares that some doctors won't test unless there is a physical outbreak and the logic they apply to that decision.
Laureen shares that stress and the nervous system can play a massive part in illness and outbreaks. She also breaks down the different experiences people have with their first outbreak. From zero symptoms all the way to flu-like symptoms and genital discomfort, there is a huge spectrum of experiences that people undergo, and it varies from person to person in terms of frequency and severity.
She breaks down different things that can help with outbreak, and which can be controlled, and which can't. Alexa and Laureen talk about the biology behind the virus, and how it occurs on a biological level both within the body, and on the skin itself. Laureen talks about recognizing symptoms, and how learning how to work with your body when it gives warning signs can vastly impact the experience of living with herpes.
They discuss the importance of disclosing the information of having sores with the people who are going to interact with you in a sexual manner. Laureen shares experiences within her life story where disclosure was crucial and understanding from her partner was even more important.
She talks about the medical aspect of herpes, as well as the shift from STD's to STI's. Alexa and Laureen also explain that doctor's often fall short as far as knowledge surrounding sexually transmitted infections. They talk about the government control of the topics surrounding sex, and how they create distance between patients and medical care providers. They also share resources and sources of valuable information for both adults and teens.
Quotes
“I'm not condemned to live with this virus”
“Finally, there's someone I can talk about it with who won't judge me”
“Meditation helps a lot”
“From the moment that you have a sore, wherever that sore is, you have to tell whoever is going to interact with that area”
“usually the times you transmit are right before an outbreak or right after an outbreak”
“You need to provide information but also support”
“You are okay”
Links
https://www.youtube.com/laureenhd
Alexa welcomes Vanessa Cuccia to Kaleidoscope Radio! She shares her New York adventure that led to her finding Sexpo, and ultimately, today's guest of honor. She laughs about emoji shaped vibrators and gushes about the amazing sights and sounds of Sexpo.
Vanessa Cuccia is the creator Creator of Chakrubs, The Original Crystal Sex Toy Company. She's also the Author of "Crystal Healing & Sacred Pleasure" coming out soon! She describes the conditions that created some sexual issues within her life, and the creation of her business that helped heal not only her own life, but others with sexual trauma as well.
She explains spirituality from her perspective, and how the crystals play a role in healing from a sensual place. She describes that crystals have a metaphysical element to them that promotes energy flow and healing, and how pairing that with pleasure is very powerful.
Vanessa breaks down energy a little further and describes how the line is made to compliment energy and accentuate pleasure. She also talks about the crystal types, as well as the various ____ eggs available, and the purpose they serve. She also shares how to use them and describes a practice and the range of motions someone can do.
Alexa asks how to charge the crystals, and how to practice good hygiene. Vanessa talks about cleansing, and how to properly cleanse the crystals and releasing the energy. She also explains the 2 parts of crystal care, and how to properly utilize different methods to cleanse and charge crystals.
Alexa also discloses what crystal she keeps in her bra!
Quotes
"If I'm going to choose a rock for my vagina, it's going to be something she's dealing"
"I needed to reconnect to myself"
"Some people are very sensitive to energy and when they pick up a crystal they'll feel it right away"
"It's symbolic of you taking care of your sexual identity"
"Something doesn't necessarily have to look spiritual for it to be sacred."
"Every part of who you are is sacred and spiritual"
Links
www.chakrubs.com
www.instagram.com/chakrubs
Discount Code: Butterfly
The podcast currently has 28 episodes available.