Kamsije

Thank you to all my listeners who have been patiently waiting for new content. Real life has a way of taking over our best intentions.

On this episode, I share my thoughts on a few of my listener's comments following the last episode. And I have a special guest on at the end too! 

Please don't forget to like, share and subscribe. You can also email me at [email protected] with your comments. 

Until next time...

On this episode, I offer my thoughts/suggestions on things to consider in 2022, for those who are not voluntarily single and who are hoping to find a special someone this year.

I initially was going to tag it finding love, but love sometimes seems so abstract, especially when you can't put a face to it, so let's focus on finding a special someone, and see how those feelings evolve.

All the best in life & love...

'Kemjika

Hello dear listeners! Feels so good to be back here after my long hiatus. 

This is the episode where I talk about boundaries. I hope you enjoy it and it triggers some thought and meaningful conversations. 

Useful resources

Henry Cloud talking about Boundaries
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zjcPkKHZRCg

Henry Cloud's book
https://www.amazon.ca/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Control/dp/0310351804/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Boundaries%3A+When+to+Say+Yes%2C+How+to+Say+No+to+Take+Control+of+Your+Life&qid=1638467308&sr=8-1

And workbook:
https://www.amazon.ca/Boundaries-Workbook-When-Take-Control/dp/0310352770/ref=pd_bxgy_img_1/146-8194900-5217626?pd_rd_w=EMj3S&pf_rd_p=8c482a45-7c0f-409b-937c-741a67b11a67&pf_rd_r=51H9RF4PQ8TY63BY6GN5&pd_rd_r=b1cbe1e1-c76b-4b7c-a31e-fdaec808db2e&pd_rd_wg=9VFk1&pd_rd_i=0310352770&psc=1

This is the conversation where we talk about parenting vis-à-vis shame & guilt.  The episode is much longer than any other I've posted so far, but I couldn't bring myself to cut it short. You're listening to 3 sister-friends talk openly, unscripted & vulnerably about our real life parenting journeys. I hope you enjoy listening to the episode as much as we enjoyed recording it!

Resources:

The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read And Your Children Will Be Glad You Did by Philippa Perry

*If you only buy one parenting book (whether as a parent or a child), please make it this one*

https://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/2017/10/02/552860553/when-children-begin-to-lie-theres-actually-a-positive-takeaway

TED TALK: Little Liars: Insights from Children’s Lies by Kang Lee

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TN8eK24e7KQ

Age by Age Guide to Lying

https://www.parents.com/kids/development/behavioral/age-by-age-guide-to-lying/

Children’s Proneness to Shame and Guilt Predict Risky and Illegal Behaviors in Young Adulthood

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4239200/

This is the episode where I share a very vulnerable subject. You can probably tell from my voice that I was overcome with emotion and I recorded at night! Note my night and day voice!

Epilepsy is a neurological disorder in which brain activity becomes abnormal, causing seizures or periods of unusual behavior, sensations, and sometimes loss of awareness.

70% of people with epilepsy can gain seizure freedom with medication alone.

30% of people have drug-resistant epilepsy. 

1 in 10 people will have a seizure in their lifetime.

Click here to donate to the Epilepsy Foundation of Nigeria. The founder Seyi Aragbada is doing amazing work in Nigeria.

 https://epilepsynigeria.org/donate-now/ re  

On today's episode of the podcast, I have with me, Erin, my very first guest!!! We will be inviting you into a conversation that we bonded over. Our first phone call was supposed to revolve around genealogy and true crime (our shared loves!), but we ended up chatting for almost two hours about grief & loss! It was truly emotional and I'm very honoured to have her share so openly and vulnerably with me. I  wish you all had been flies on the wall for our first conversation which wasn't recorded. Well, you weren't, so this is what you get!

Enjoy and don't forget to like, share and subscribe (in no particular order!).

Recommendation

Dare to Lead by Brene Brown
https://www.amazon.ca/Dare-Lead-Brave-Conversations-Hearts/dp/0399592520

This is the episode where I go on and on about why I think women waiting for marriage proposals are antithetical to feminism & partnership. On this episode, I am not taking on women who are okay with this... that is their prerogative! 

My partner & editor pops on to share his thoughts as well!

Enjoy!

This is the episode where I try to share my frustration, anger and exhaustion at the violence against black people in the United States. Words fail me...

Show mentions:

"Them" - Amazon Prime

The Murder of Daunte Wright 
https://www.nytimes.com/article/daunte-wright-death-minnesota.html

Harassment of US Army officer 2nd Lt. Caron Nazario

https://www.cnn.com/videos/us/2021/04/11/army-officer-pepper-sprayed-by-police-during-traffic-stop-lawsuit-chen-dnt-ndwknd-vpx.cnn

Man who threatens to shoot police

https://www.dispatch.com/story/news/local/2021/04/15/charges-against-man-who-refused-police-orders-ohio-traffic-stop/7235943002/

Driving while black
https://metro.co.uk/2020/02/17/white-cop-pulls-black-driver-going-65mph-70mph-zone-12257359/

This is the episode where I go on a rant about how we all need to be sensible about the virus & the vaccine. Covid could kill you. The vaccine won't!