Questions and Sexgestions Part 1 - Painful Sex and a Religious Upbringing

In this episode of Keeping It Up with the Joneses, hosts welcome Marliett, a social worker and therapist, to answer listeners' questions.The discussion focuses on a listener's dilemma involving painful intercourse and low libido despite attempts through various therapies. The hosts provide professional insights suggesting potential approaches including individual exploration, communicating sexual needs with a partner, and considering the impacts of a religious upbringing. They emphasize the importance of removing pressure, broadening the definition of sex, and introducing mindfulness and somatic techniques. The conversation highlights the necessity of mutual understanding and the role of personalized sexual experiences in relationship satisfaction.

00:00 Welcome and Guest Introduction
00:53 Marliett's Background and Fun Facts
04:55 Listener Question: Painful Sex and Vaginismus
07:25 Exploring Solutions and Therapy
11:42 Religious Context and Navigating Religious Messages About Sex
28:00 Addressing Sexual Conversations and Education
30:44 The Importance of Sexual Knowledge and Therapy
32:32 Final Thoughts and Sexgestions

When Sex Sucks: Understanding Mutual Sexual Dissatisfaction in Relationships

***TRIGGER WARNING*** This episode discusses the topic of sexual coercion at time point 12:41 and the hosts make some follow up comments later in the episode. 

In this episode of 'Keeping it Up with the Joneses,' hosts Adam Jones and Rebecca Lucero Jones discuss the issues of mutual dissatisfaction in sexual relationships among couples. The hosts dive into the challenges couples face when both partners are unhappy with their sex life. Key points include the prevalence of complaining, disengagement, and manipulation in these relationships, as well as the occurrence of coercion. The hosts discuss strategies for improving sexual communication and increasing shared decision-making. They also provide practical advice on how couples can take responsibility for improving their sexual relationship, offering a list of questions that individuals can ask themselves as the self-reflect on their own contribution to the sexual relationship. 

00:00 When Sex Sucks
01:41 Communication Behaviors in Dissatisfied Couples
04:26 Complaining
05:36 Disengagement
07:41 Compromise
09:03 Manipulation
12:41 Coercion
17:51 Gatekeeping
22:06 Outcomes for Dissatisfied Couples
23:23 Arguments
26:36 Sexggestions
40:32 Questions to Ask Yourself

In this episode of Keeping It Up With the Joneses, hosts Rebecca Lucero Jones and Adam Jones delve into their research on heterosexual couples, specifically focusing on couples where women are sexually satisfied but their male partners are not. Titled 'Does Happy Wife Equal Happy Life?', the episode examines the dynamics of sexual communication, mutual enhancement, and the importance of emotional connection for women. The hosts discuss desire discrepancies, communication strategies, and how partners navigate and make decisions about sex. They explore common pitfalls such as complaining and manipulation, and offer insights and tools for couples to improve their sexual relationship. The episode aims to provide listeners with a better understanding of the complexities in sexual satisfaction dynamics and practical advice to foster connection and mutual satisfaction.


00:43 Exploring Sexual Satisfaction Discrepancies
02:36 Communication and Connection in Relationships
05:44 Women's Sexual Satisfaction and the Importance of Emotional Connection
10:24 Complaining and Gatekeeping
24:49 Getting Unstuck

Wham Bam! Did You Like It, Ma'am? 

In this episode of Keeping It Up with the Joneses, hosts Adam Jones and Rebecca Lucero Jones delve into the dynamics of heterosexual couples where men are sexually satisfied and women are not. Building on findings from their research, the hosts explore key factors affecting these relationships. They highlight challenges such as disengagement, gatekeeping, and the rarity of seeking therapy. The episode also offers practical suggestions for improving sexual satisfaction and emphasizes the importance of mutual understanding and communication. 

00:57 Exploring Couples With A Satisfied Man With Dissatisfied Woman
02:00 How Decision-Making Defers When Women Are Dissatistfied
07:51 Do Men Need Connection?
11:26 Challenges and Complaints in Sexual Relationships
15:48 Why Some Couples Talk Less About Sex
18:11 When Women Disengage or Gate keep 
32:26 Therapy and Solutions for Dissatisfied Couples

Verbal Foreplay: Talking Your Way to Better Sex

In this episode of 'Keeping It Up with the Joneses,' hosts Rebecca Lucero Jones and Adam Jones dive into the fascinating world of sexual satisfaction within couples. They share insights from a recent study they conducted, revealing key factors that differentiate highly satisfied couples from those who are not sexually satisfied. The duo discusses the importance of mutual enhancement, sexual relationship building, and effective communication in maintaining a fulfilling sexual relationship. They also explore how societal norms and gender roles impact sexual dynamics and the significance of healthy boundaries. Practical advice for both maintaining and improving sexual satisfaction in relationships is provided, making this episode a must-listen for anyone looking to deepen their intimacy and connection with their partner.

00:00 Episode 4: Verbal Foreplay: Talking Your Way to Better Sex
02:25 Characteristics of Sexually Satistfied Couples
12:39 Mutual Enhancement in Sexual Relationships
24:01 Decision Making in Sexually Satisfied Couples
34:27 Outcomes of Sexual Communication
38:27 Learning to Talk About Sex
41:19 How to be a Mutually, Sexually Satisfied Couple 
46:44 The Role of Novelty and Safety in Sexual Relationships
53:56 Balancing Sexual Contributions in Heterosexual Relationships
57:36 Boundaries and Communication

In this episode of 'Keeping It Up With The Joneses,' hosts Rebecca Lucero Jones and Adam Jones discuss their study on various types of couples and their sexual satisfaction. They explain how they utilized a cluster analysis to identify different groups based on sexual satisfaction, orgasm frequency, and relationship satisfaction. Key findings revealed four distinct couple types, including mutually satisfied couples and those with gender discrepancies in satisfaction levels. The discussion also explores the importance of female orgasm, the pressures on women to satisfy their partners, and the impact of sexual intimacy on overall relationship satisfaction. Additionally, Rebecca and Adam touch on the challenges couples face in prioritizing and achieving mutual sexual fulfillment.

00:00 Introduction and Study Background

09:26 Exploring Couple Types and Sexual Satisfaction

29:58 Orgasm Frequency and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode of 'Keeping It Up With The Joneses,' Rebecca Lucero Jones and Adam Jones dive into the topic of sexual communication within relationships. Adam shares findings from his research, exploring how couples communicate about sex and the impact this has on both sexual and relationship satisfaction. Join us as we discuss the importance of developing a sexual vocabulary, address common misconceptions, and reveal simple ways to improve your sexual connection. 

In the inaugural episode of 'Keeping It Up with the Joneses,' co-hosts and real-life married couple, Dr. Adam Jones and Dr. Rebecca Lucero Jones introduce their new podcast. They discuss their backgrounds as therapists and professors in marriage and family therapy, as well as how they met during their doctoral program. In this episode, the couple provides an overview for the first season of the podcast and highlights the importance of research-based information on sex.
Listen as they discuss what makes 'Keeping It Up with the Joneses,' a podcast worthy of your listening queue.