DADDY ISSUES | The Father Wound, Generational Trauma & Breaking the Cycle | kill pride club

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Most men are carrying wounds their fathers never had language for. In this episode of kill pride club, Terrence Smith sits with three men who've built organizations around fatherhood — Rashamod Torrance (founder of Active Dads), Khari Arnold(founder of Library Dads), and Ron Anthony (author, pastor, and thought leader) — for one of the most honest conversations about Black fatherhood, the father wound, and breaking generational cycles you'll find anywhere.

What starts as a question about emotion becomes a full excavation: the emotional armor Black men inherit, what it cost them to become who they are, and what they're choosing to keep — or lay down — for the next generation.

This is not a conversation about absent fathers. It's a conversation about what presence actually looks like, why "be strong" is incomplete advice, and how the men who look the strongest in the room are often the ones carrying the most. If you've ever searched for healing from childhood wounds, wondered what your father didn't teach you, or found yourself parenting from a place of fear instead of freedom — this one is for you.

IN THIS EPISODE

Healing the father wound: what emotion shows up first when you think about your dad's impact?

The one thing each man inherited — good or bad — from his father

What love looked like in Black households (provision, protection, presence)

The real cost of becoming the man you are when nobody taught you how

Breaking generational cycles: are you the dad you needed as a kid?

What parts of your father's legacy are you keeping — and what are you intentionally laying down?

Why the strongest man in the room is often the one struggling the most

Men's mental health, vulnerability, and why Black men don't talk about their feelings — and what happens when they do

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April 24, 2026

July 24, 2026 (Annual Birthday Party & Family Reunion weekend)

October 9, 2026

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kill pride club is an Atlanta-based men's wellness and community organization. It is a space where men practice honest dialogue, self-awareness, and accountability — together. New episodes drop quarterly.

DADDY ISSUES | The Father Wound, Generational Trauma & Breaking the Cycle | kill pride club

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Most men are carrying wounds their fathers never had language for. In this episode of kill pride club, Terrence Smith sits with three men who've built organizations around fatherhood — Rashamod Torrance (founder of Active Dads), Khari Arnold(founder of Library Dads), and Ron Anthony (author, pastor, and thought leader) — for one of the most honest conversations about Black fatherhood, the father wound, and breaking generational cycles you'll find anywhere.

What starts as a question about emotion becomes a full excavation: the emotional armor Black men inherit, what it cost them to become who they are, and what they're choosing to keep — or lay down — for the next generation.

This is not a conversation about absent fathers. It's a conversation about what presence actually looks like, why "be strong" is incomplete advice, and how the men who look the strongest in the room are often the ones carrying the most. If you've ever searched for healing from childhood wounds, wondered what your father didn't teach you, or found yourself parenting from a place of fear instead of freedom — this one is for you.

IN THIS EPISODE

Healing the father wound: what emotion shows up first when you think about your dad's impact?

The one thing each man inherited — good or bad — from his father

What love looked like in Black households (provision, protection, presence)

The real cost of becoming the man you are when nobody taught you how

Breaking generational cycles: are you the dad you needed as a kid?

What parts of your father's legacy are you keeping — and what are you intentionally laying down?

Why the strongest man in the room is often the one struggling the most

Men's mental health, vulnerability, and why Black men don't talk about their feelings — and what happens when they do

IF THIS HIT, YOU MIGHT ALSO BE SEARCHING FOR:

healing father wound | Black men mental health | generational trauma healing | breaking generational curses | Black fatherhood | men's mental health podcast | absent father healing | what my father didn't teach me | first generation man | men and vulnerability | Black men therapy | intentional fatherhood | raising Black boys | men's wellness | overachiever burnout | present father | father son relationship | men's community Atlanta | emotional unavailability | men who don't talk about their feelings

UPCOMING kill pride club DATES

⁠ April 24, 2026⁠

July 24, 2026 (Annual Birthday Party & Family Reunion weekend)

October 9, 2026

CONNECT WITH kill pride club

⁠killpride.com⁠

kill pride club is an Atlanta-based men's wellness and community organization. It is a space where men practice honest dialogue, self-awareness, and accountability — together. New episodes drop quarterly.

Keywords

anxiety, fear, anger, vulnerability, community, mental health, emotional intelligence, leadership, personal growth, Black men

Summary

This conversation delves into the often unspoken issues of anxiety, fear, and anger, particularly among men. It explores personal experiences with these emotions, the societal pressures that contribute to them, and the importance of vulnerability and community in managing mental health. The fellas (Ron Anthony, Andre Walker, Cody Deese and Terrence Smith) share their journeys, emphasizing the need for open dialogue and support systems to navigate the complexities of emotional well-being.

Takeaways

Anxiety is often unspoken among men, leading to isolation.

Vulnerability is essential for connection and healing.

Fear and anger can manifest in physical ways in our bodies.

Community plays a crucial role in managing anxiety and emotional health.

Personal experiences with anxiety can provide language for others.

Understanding the difference between fear and anger can aid in emotional regulation.

Rest and sleep are not the same; both are essential for well-being.

Building connections with others can alleviate feelings of loneliness.

Anticipatory grief can complicate our emotional landscape.

It's important to check in on ourselves and others regularly.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Anxiety in Society

05:56 Personal Experiences with Anxiety

12:50 The Impact of Fear and Anger

18:36 Navigating Emotions: Fear vs. Anger

27:18 The Role of Community in Managing Anxiety

33:35 Vulnerability and Leadership

57:27 Messages to Our Younger Selves

01:03:33 Building Connections and Community

This conversation delves into the complexities of being tired yet present, particularly among black men. It explores themes of burnout, the weight of expectations, the importance of community, and the need for intentional rest. The speakers share personal experiences and insights on navigating relationships, vulnerability, and finding purpose amidst challenges. They emphasize the significance of hope and resilience, and the power of presence in fostering meaningful connections.

Takeaways

Being tired can mean occupying space without truly being present.

Chronic overload and financial strain are significant causes of burnout.

Isolation can amplify feelings of tiredness and pressure.

Intentional rest is crucial for mental and emotional well-being.

Vulnerability in relationships fosters deeper connections.

Hope is essential for resilience in the face of adversity.

Community support can alleviate the weight of expectations.

Purpose can be a guiding force through challenges.

Acknowledging one's struggles is a step towards healing.

Nothing in our experiences is wasted; every moment contributes to our growth.

Sound bites

"I'm tired, but I'm here."

"What does being tired mean to you?"

"We are not allowed to be human."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Conversation

02:04 Understanding Tiredness and Its Implications

09:12 Identifying Causes of Burnout

11:26 Carrying Hidden Burdens

22:22 Establishing Boundaries for Well-being

27:43 The Importance of Safe Spaces and Rest

31:27 The Essence of Rest

36:37 Releasing Expectations and Fear

39:17 The Power of Community and Presence

45:05 Gratitude and Hope in Adversity

57:08 Purpose and Leadership in Challenging Times

59:17 Recognizing Purpose and Showing Up

01:03:07 Transforming Pain into Purpose

01:05:49 The Importance of Being Human

01:07:04 Nothing is Wasted: Embracing Life's Journey

01:09:19 Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability

01:14:59 Breaking Down Stigmas Around Therapy

Some costs don’t show up on receipts. They show up in our bodies, our homes, our souls.We chased the bag.Somewhere along the way, it started chasing us.This episode is an unfiltered look at what “making it” really takes for men—especially for Black men in leadership. We talk about the money lessons (or the silence) we grew up with, the mold we’re told to fit into in corporate America, and the quiet ways success can wear us down.You’ll hear personal stories, hard-earned wisdom, and practical ways to hold onto yourself while climbing the ladder. Because the bag might be worth it—but not if it costs you you.Timestamps:00:00 – Why this conversation matters05:15 – The money talks we grew up with15:30 – Fitting the mold in corporate America25:45 – The hidden toll of the climb35:00 – Can you really balance career and life?46:40 – Staying yourself in the system55:00 – Audience stories & lessons1:05:00 – Closing thoughts: Success on your own termsShare your story: What has the “price of the bag” cost you? Drop it in the comments.#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #atlanta #fun #manhood #leadership #CorporateAmerica #money #pride #brother #brotherhood

the real price paid for being first.

Welcome to the kill pride club, a transformative space dedicated to men seeking deeper connections and greater self-awareness. In this episode we discuss the emotional cost of being a pioneer, the importance of mentorship, and the silent expectations placed on men. Engaging conversations include personal stories on balancing ambition with self-care, the value of rest, and the unparalleled joy and pressure of leadership. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a family man, or someone seeking more from life, this discussion is packed with insights to inspire and guide your journey. Don’t miss out on the powerful reflections and actionable advice shared in this episode.

the real price paid for being first.

Welcome to the kill pride club, a transformative space dedicated to men seeking deeper connections and greater self-awareness. In this episode we discuss the emotional cost of being a pioneer, the importance of mentorship, and the silent expectations placed on men. Engaging conversations include personal stories on balancing ambition with self-care, the value of rest, and the unparalleled joy and pressure of leadership. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a family man, or someone seeking more from life, this discussion is packed with insights to inspire and guide your journey. Don’t miss out on the powerful reflections and actionable advice shared in this episode.

Facing Mortality: Real Talk on Aging, Legacy, and Self-Care

Welcome to kill pride club, where we tackle the tough stuff with authenticity, laughter, and heart. In Episode 7, we’re diving into something we all think about but rarely talk about—our own mortality. Aging, legacy, and self-care are on the table, but we’re keeping it real, relatable, and yes, even a little lighthearted.From personal health scares to grappling with what it means to leave a mark on this world, we’re sharing raw stories, vulnerable moments, and the insights we’ve picked up along the way. Let’s normalize these conversations, find meaning in the mess, and hopefully walk away a little lighter.

Why watch this episode?

🎯 Episode Highlights:Whether you’re in your 20s, 50s, or somewhere in between, this episode has something for everyone. Let’s face the hard truths together—with a little humor and a lot of heart.Hit play, join the club, and let’s keep this conversation going. 👑

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What Men Need from Women: Emotional Needs, Financial Trust, and Relationship Success | kill pride club

What Men Need from Women: Emotional Needs, Financial Trust, and Relationship Success | kill pride club

In this must-watch episode of kill pride club, we dive deep into what men truly seek in relationships and how women can better understand their partners. Our hosts break down the emotional needs of men, exploring how they define themselves outside of relationships and addressing common misconceptions about their desires. From communication tips and love languages to managing societal expectations, this episode is packed with insights on building lasting, healthy relationships.

Key topics include:

Whether you’re looking to enhance your current relationship or gain insights for the future, this episode is packed with practical advice on how women can support and grow with their partners.

Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Welcome to kill pride club
00:46 Defining Ourselves Before Discussing Women
01:09 The Evolution of Self-Identity
03:17 Self-Assessment and Its Role in Relationships
11:19 Qualities Men Seek in a Lifelong Partner
21:11 The Realities of Marriage and Achieving Long-Term Success
37:08 How to Balance Independence and Togetherness
42:24 Men’s Emotional Needs: What You Need to Know
50:32 Breaking Down Media-Driven Misconceptions
59:04 Creating a Safe Space for Emotional Vulnerability
01:11:19 Financial Decisions and Long-Term Planning in Relationships

Watch now to discover how you can nurture emotional connection, financial trust, and long-lasting love. Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more relationship advice!