Kinfolk Unscripted

Chasing Dreams in Motherhood with Brittany Rogers

In This Episode: If you've ever wondered what it means to chase your dreams in motherhood, this episode if for you. Teacher, and acclaimed author and poet, Brittany Rogers, joins Kinfolk Unscripted to talk maintaining creative practices, boundaries, mom guilt, polygamy, and more!

Timestamps:
0:05 | Welcome to Kinfolk Unscripted
0:27 | Media Section
4:18 | Positive Self-Perception
12:27 | Introducing Brittany Rogers
14:42 | Chasing Dreams in Motherhood
23:59 | What Kids Learn From Watching You
31:20 | Intentional Decisions
43:23 | The Village & Built-in Breaks
47:32 | Realizations
1:03:02 | The Cost of Chasing Dreams
1:13:18 | Opening Up the Relationship
1:18:30 | Love & Cultural Norms
1:36:22 | Outro
Resources & Links Mentioned:

Guest:

• Brittany Rogers
• @brittanyerogers 

Books:

• Good Dress by Brittany Rogers
• Nasty Work by Erika Hart 

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Martissa: Instagram @tissaliving 

Chanel: Instagram @chanelcorliss 

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Hosted by Martissa Beard & Chanel McFollins 

Cover Photo by MARS. Beard

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On Preparing for a Baby: Labs, Food, Movement, and Detoxing the House

In This Episode: We're back with part two of our preconception series — this time getting into the physical side of preparing for a baby. We get into labs and functional medicine, why food (not restriction) is the foundation, building strength and pelvic floor health before pregnancy even starts, and detoxing your house of the endocrine disruptors hiding in your cookware, cleaning products, and skincare.

Timestamps:
00:00 Welcome to Kinfolk Unscripted!
00:25 Jumping into the second half!
01:25 Testing + Labs
12:33 Food + Supplementation
29:52 Movement
37:30 Pelvic Floor Health
50:45 Removing Toxins

Resources & Links Mentioned: 

• Preparing your Mind, Spirit, and Relationship for a Baby Episode
• 1st Half of this Episode
• Real Food for Fertility by Lily Nichols + Lisa Hendrickson Jack
• Nourish Dietitian 
• Function Health 
• Divesting from the Grocery Store 
• EWG App (Skincare, Food, Cleaning Products)
• Yuka 
• Martissa's Top Preconception Resources

Follow Your Hosts!

Martissa: Instagram @tissaliving 

Chanel: Instagram @chanelcorliss 

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Hosted by Martissa Beard & Chanel McFollins 

Cover Photo by MARS. Beard

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On Preparing for a Baby: Labs, Food, Movement, and Detoxing the House

In This Episode: We're back with part two of our preconception series — this time getting into the physical side of preparing for a baby. We get into labs and functional medicine, why food (not restriction) is the foundation, building strength and pelvic floor health before pregnancy even starts, and detoxing your house of the endocrine disruptors hiding in your cookware, cleaning products, and skincare. Oh — and we got so deep into it that we had to split this one in two, so come back in two weeks for the rest.

Timestamps:
00:00 Welcome!
00:51 The Gardens @ the Obama Presidential Center
12:53 Justice for Nolan Wells
20:54 Couples Therapy
27:06 Getting that Body Ready for Baby
49:26 Join Us in Two Weeks for Part 2!

Resources & Links Mentioned: 

• Obama Presidential Center Gardens with Epic Garden 
• Marriage Episode
• Preparing your Mind, Spirit, and Relationship Episode

Follow Your Hosts!

Martissa: Instagram @tissaliving 

Chanel: Instagram @chanelcorliss 

Stay Connected:

• ⭐ Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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Credits: 

Hosted by Martissa Beard & Chanel McFollins 

Cover Photo by MARS. Beard

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• (00:00) - Part 1

Let's Talk about Sex(ual Education)!

In This Episode: Welcome back Kin! In this episode we get into the nitty gritty - what did we really learn about sex growing up? We also talk about being a 30 year old teen mom, Planned Parenthood, and the imprinting myth! This is for those us who fumbled along and figured out sex, fertility, and everything in between along the way.

Timestamps:
0:07 | Intro
0:34 | Media Time: Do you sabotage or speak life?
14:15 | What's up Witchu? - Gym & Garden Gripes
25:29 | Sex Ed at Home & School
34:50 | Don't Bring Home no Babies
41:01 | The Myth of Imprinting
45:04 | Bleeding Blind
52:09 | Taking Fertility into our Own Hands
1:02:59 | Hope for the Future
1:05:20 | Sex Education for all & No Place for Shame
1:15:54 | Contraceptive Conversations
1:20:29 | Teaching the Next Generation
1:27:11 | Perimenopause
1:29:29 | Outro

Resources & Links Mentioned: 

Books:

• Woman Code by Alisa Vitti
• Real Food for Fertility by Lili Nichols & Lisa Hendrickson-Jack
• The 5th Vital Sign by Lisa Hendrickson-Jack
• The Whole Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson

Past Episodes:

• Episode 4: Queer Conception w/ Liam Kali

Follow Your Hosts!

Martissa: Instagram @tissaliving 

Chanel: Instagram @chanelcorliss 

Stay Connected:

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Credits: 

Hosted by Martissa Beard & Chanel McFollins 

Cover Photo by MARS. Beard

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• (00:00) - Let's Talk about Sex(ual Education)!

In This Episode: We're joined by Liam Kali — licensed midwife and author of Queer Conception: The Complete Fertility Guide for Queer and Trans Parents-to-Be — for a conversation about the landscape of queer family-building. This one is for folks in the thick of family building, thinking about it, or anyone who loves someone who is.

Chapters: 

00:00 KU Episode 4

00:01 Garden Drama Continues

00:10 Meet Liam Kali

00:11 Welcome Liam!

00:12 Who Is Your Kin?

00:17 Liam's Entry into Midwifery

00:23 Deconstructing Family

00:30 Pathways to Queer Conception

00:38 The Shortage of BIPOC Donors

00:41 Known Donor vs. Sperm Bank

00:53 Psych Evals + Queer Considerations for Clinics

00:58 Navigating Grief in Queer Conception

01:18 Changes in the Landscape

01:29 A Little Bit of Hope

01:31 Find + Work with Liam

Resources Mentioned: 

• Queer Conception: The Complete Fertility Guide for Queer and Trans Parents-to-Be by Liam Kali
• Liam's practice: https://maiamidwifery.com/
• Seed Scout — known donor matching service for queer families
• Inito — hormone tracking monitor
• Mira — hormone tracking monitor
• Reproductive Losses: Challenges to LGBTQ Family-Making by Christa Craven
• LGBTQ Reproductive Loss
• ASRM LGBTQ+ SIG guidelines on fertility care and family building: https://www.asrm.org/news-and-events/podcasts/asrm-today/asrm-today-donor-sperm-and-lgbtq-family-building/

Connect with Liam:
Maia Midwifery

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Martissa: @tissaliving 

Chanel: @chanelcorlisss 

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Find us: 

• kinfolkunscripted.substack.com 
• YouTube @kinfolkunscripted
• Instagram @kinfolkunscripted

Credits: 

Hosted by Martissa Beard & Chanel McFollins 

Cover Photo by MARS. Beard

• (00:00) - On Queer Conception w/ Liam Kali

Preparing for a Baby: Mentally, Spiritually, Relationally

In This Episode:We're back with our first episode on preconception — mentally, spiritually, and relationally preparing for a baby. We get into why we actually want to parent, grief and longing, queer considerations for family-building, prepping your partnership (and yes, choosing Auntie names). Oh — and there's a twin cryptic pregnancy story none of us want to see coming.

Timestamps:
00:00 Welcome!
00:26 Twins Cryptic Pregnancy?
03:43 What's up wit you?
14:31 Preconception Pt 1!
15:55 Choosing Auntie Names
20:20 What is Preconception?
21:47 Queer Considerations for Preconception
22:56 Why do you want to parent?
51:44 Before Becoming Mama
56:17 Grief and Longing
01:01:44 Preparing Your Relationships
01:23:00 Preparing your Partnership for Kids
01:47:53 See You in Two Weeks!

Resources & Links Mentioned: 

• Martissa's previous podcast -- NEKKID Conversations

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Martissa: Instagram @tissaliving 

Chanel: Instagram @chanelcorliss 

Stay Connected:

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Credits: 

Hosted by Martissa Beard & Chanel McFollins 

Cover Photo by MARS. Beard

Find us: kinfolkunscripted.substack.com • YouTube @kinfolkunscripted • Instagram @kinfolkunscripted

• (00:00) - Preconception Podcast Final

 In This Episode: Martissa and Chanel - cousins, best friends, and podcast co-hosts talk about our love stories and how we met our spouses and got engaged. We also delve into what marriage really means in thicks of it - inflation, parenting, different communication styles, balance - you name it. Join us for our takes on marriage!

Timestamps:
00:00 Episode 2: On Love & Marriage

00:05 Media Time - Fibroid Pregnancy

06:20 What's Up With You? - Kiddo Milestones & Gardening

10:16 What is the best part of being married?

13:59 Love stories

14:11 Martissa + Mars love story

28:37 Chanel & Manny love story

40:37 Why did I get married?

44:13 Until the wheels falls off

51:54 Sometimes, we ain't got it

56:46 How the marriages have changed over time - economy, parenting, the universe

01:11:56 There's always more to look forward to - back cracking, honeymoon, and chill time

01:18:04 Until next time!

Resources & Links Mentioned: 

Articles/Research:

• Studies regarding primary caregiver brain changes:
  • https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/features/bne-124-5-695.pdf
  • https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1402569111
  • https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3975665/
  • https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1910666116

Past Episodes:

• Episode 1: Welcome Kin! 

Follow Your Hosts!

Martissa: Instagram @tissaliving 

Chanel: Instagram @chanelcorliss 

Stay Connected:

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Credits: 

Hosted by Martissa Beard & Chanel McFollins 

Cover Photo by MARS. Beard

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• (00:00) - Episode 2: On Love & Marriage Pt. 1

WELCOME KIN!!!

In This Episode: We're Martissa and Chanel — cousins, best friends, and (as of today) podcast co-hosts. In our first episode, we talk about why we made this show, get into some garden drama (a squirrel, a White Castle burger, and a very janky shade situation), and close out with our first hot takes — on dishwashers and the natural hair movement — which, fair warning, might be inflammatory.

Resources Mentioned: 

• Tissa Living
• Greenstalk Garden

Follow Your Hosts!

Martissa: @tissaliving 

Chanel: @chanelcorlisss 

Stay Connected:

• ⭐ Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
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Find us: 

• kinfolkunscripted.substack.com 
• YouTube @kinfolkunscripted
• Instagram @kinfolkunscripted

Credits: 

Hosted by Martissa Beard & Chanel McFollins 

Cover Photo by MARS. Beard

• (00:00) - KU Episode 1