Kiya Kahe Ga Kazi

JOKHAY is the producer and one of the founding members of The Young Stunners, we speak about how his journey into music started with Metallica and Megadeath, how he transitioned to hip-hop production, met Talha Anjum and Talhah Younus and went on to create some of the most powerful contemporary music ever witnessed in Pakistan, his need to stay rooted to his past, and how he remembers his days of difficult fondly.

Irfan Junejo is a storyteller! we speak about his recent foray into short-form video creation, his return to the style of content creation that has been both the best and the worst thing to happen to him, where we might want to spend the rest of our lives, about the great love we have for Karachi, and a lot more.

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Segments 

0:00 Absences and Mic Stands 

1:44 Requests for free copy editing services  

2:22 Rant about entitlement  

3:30 The Philosophy of Kant introduced in the rant 

3:48 How to learn new words and better your vocabulary  

4:20 A genius speaks about betrayal and breakups  

5:40 Trying to get into an IVY league school after a loss 

6:38 Escaping the loop of hate  

7:00 'Love,' at 17  

7:50 The Betrayal, she loves me but not really  

8:28 Art from heartbreak, powerful lyrics  

9:02 5 A*s and 4 As 

10:00 Where hate comes from  

14:15 Love is love  

15:40 It's meant to hurt, so let it  

16:48 DO NOT make light of your problems  

18:23 Process your hurt through your hobbies  

18:45 Releasing a song about your breakup  

21:51 My teenage breakup at 18  

23:03 Porn and masturbation ruining it for this person 

24:40 The philosophical ramifications of watching porn  

31:06 'Depression, Hollowness, Deep Question' 

35:25 'I want to start vlogging, does equipment matter?' 

36:25 Self-esteem issues  

40:04 'I need sukoon.' 

46:00 My insecurities   

Find the podcast on all audio streaming platforms here: https://linktr.ee/kaziakber  

Speak to Kazi: [email protected]   

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Segments 

0:00 Celebrating the new year 

1:06 using headphones while podcasting for the first time 

2:23 Is an unmarried 29-year-old woman a failure?  

4:21 Defining failure  6:08 Are we generally a cold people? 

7:50 Respecting the reality shaping power of the context 

10:26 Only fail when you stop trying  

12:13 A 16-year-old asks me about self-rewarding behaviors  

15:32 Why self-care is essential 

16:55 My first experience with a therapist 

18:30 The concept of 'earning' self-love  

20:06 The Stanford dopamine study  

22:43 Doing the work needs to become its own reward 

24:12 The dangers of associating dopamine with the outcome 

24:55 The best way to avoid burnout  

26:10 A person searching for happiness will always be unhappy  

28:01 Ryan Holiday on speaking about and doing a certain thing 

29:23 My problem is a man who won't admit his feelings toward me 

30:27 Using the word 'depression,' properly  

31:07 Whose fault is this unrequited love 

34:01 The key to your destruction rests with your loved ones  

35:21 Maya Angelou on believing people 

36:19 The cognitive tax of unrequited love 

37:15 I get invited to IBA as a guest of honor 

39:36 I wonder why they would invite me 

42:40 An anon lover concerned with how a person looks 

46:04 What is empathy  

47:31 The cure for unrequited love? 

50:35 Who is really my friend?  

53:04 Are you really becoming ruthless?  

54:00 The temporal quality of memories  

55:04 Are friendships a form of passing the time?  

57:13 Entitlement isn't fair to anyone  

59:30 The different kinds of friends 

01:01 The story of Hot Spot in Karachi  

01:04 Feelings connected to time more than space  

01:05 Thoughts and prayers on 2022 and 2023   

Find the podcast on all audio streaming platforms here: https://linktr.ee/kaziakber  

Speak to Kazi: [email protected]  

I respond to questions about betrayal, loss, education, and friendship.

 Timecodes 

0:00 Won't mention your names until you tell me I can 

0:55 Made friends at university, and now they're spreading rumors about you 

6:10 Why are women hell-bent on hurting women?  

7:45 Best bakery biscuits in Karachi  

8:21 You're from Bangladesh and are studying and living in London 

12:42 When is it okay to quit university? 

18:28 We need to decide what we're going to suck at 

20:34 Book recommendations  

21:20 You couldn't make it in the Air Force, and now you want to go abroad 

24:02 The truth about an undergrad degree  

26:13 The truth about the concept of a home once you go abroad  

26:55 Friendships change over time, this is inescapable 

28:40 About my journey from Hyderabad to Toronto and back  

32:00 Unpacking empathy 

33:15 Using 70% of your savings on an undergraduate degree  

36:08 The stifling amount of student debt in North America  

38:52 You had a best friend, and now she wants nothing to do with you 

40:48 Can't force someone to be in your life  

42:45 Developing a malleable worldview  

43:51 People need to not have access to you, to value you  

45:33 Diminishing marginal utility of friends    

Find me everywhere here: https://linktr.ee/kaziakber  

Speak to Kazi: [email protected]

It's been six months since the last podcast was uploaded. Here's everything that's happened, and five lessons I've learned from it.   

Timecodes 

0:00: Your guest today is me 

1:16: The situation with the Karachi studio  

3:31: The podcast must evolve  

5:45: Coming to Hyderabad  

7:08: Dancing with the idea of doing the podcast in someone else's space 

8:01: Why I can't go mobile with the podcast 

9:49: The switch to short-form content  

11:47: For the people who know me just from the short-form content  

13:28: ARKG merch  

14:34: The problem with renting space for the podcast 

15:38: The Podcast with Mehrub for which I got flack  

18:20: The story of the live podcasts  

19:25: Segway into what I've learned in 2022 

19:42: 1 - The danger of exceeding a person's concept of you and why I felt I owed Irfan bhai an apology 

26:20: 2 - The kindness of great people  

28:05: 3 - Pakistan's masculinity problem, my five steps for solving it 

33:17: 4 - Our inability to put our money where our mouth is 

36:57: 5a - Protecting your cognitive capital is important and uncomfortable 

39:42: 5b - Admitting that you don't know something is liberating.  

41:29: We will try to speak to each other more often.  Speak to Kazi: [email protected]  

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Faisal Sheikh is the founder and CEO of 'Jack of Digital,'  the exclusive advertising and data sales partner for TikTok, Eskimi, SHAREit, and SpiderAF in Pakistan. We speak about the ability to endure hardships because of a principle-oriented stance, the evolution of short-form video content, slowing down in an environment that is sped up due to the high rate of technological development, and the timeless nature of certain societal imperatives.

Rayan Khan is a crypto trader who hopes to launch his own NFT project. We speak about the taboos around cryptocurrency, wealth generation, and management, and what he hopes will be a paradigm-shifting community predicated upon his work in the Metaverse.

Abid Saleem is part of the old guard of photographers in Pakistan with a career spanning over 30 years. We speak about what started his career in his teenage years, the pursuit of prominence that Pakistani society seems to be taken by, his deep respect for the craft of acting, what makes one a successful fashion model, the fundamental difference between working in the content creation space in Pakistan as opposed to anywhere else in the world, and about how he's kept up with the technological advancements in camera gear, and content creation more generally. Towards the latter part of the podcast, we also speak about what drives his pursuit of excellence despite having experienced tremendous success in his long-standing career.

Asteria is a singer, songwriter, producer, and guitarist. We speak about the power of discovering one's calling, the courage required to dream, the immutable engine of trauma, about growing up with resentment toward Pakistani society, moving abroad, and realizing that the resentment was predicated upon something more immediate, about coming back and coming to terms with her heritage and her home.