E88: Belonging and Healing Part-1 – Sense Your Belonging Space
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Let's talk about it. Let's go deep. We all have something to share, KnolShare with Dr. Dave.
Dr. Dave:
So hello and welcome to the Knolshare with Dr. Dave podcast. This is Dr. Dave Cornelius, your host. I am super excited and pleased to announce the law to renew series of my friend, Tracy Treacy. We're going to be talking about belonging and healing over several episodes, starting with one episode each month. We'll see where we go from there, right? Hey Tracy, what's going on?
Tracy:
Good morning, Dr. Dave, how are you?
Dr. Dave:
That's so formal, we know each other too long to be calling well, you can call me Dr. Dave.
Tracy:
Well, I'm looking at your name on the screen and it says Dr. Dave, so I'm calling you Dr. Dave. Okay, I'll call you Cornelius. What's up, Cornelius, how you doing?
Dr. Dave:
I would rather you call me Dr. Dave. So, you know part of our conversation today, we have a few topics that we're going to go over. And since we're talking about belonging and so the four topics would be sensor space for belonging, we'll probably dig into some generative workspace for belonging, don't fake belonging, and then back to your vision, get some ideas around how we could get there. So what do we want, so let's just jump in and let's talk about the importance of belonging for us human beings, right? I mean, this is something that we need, if we don't have it, we go stir crazy, I guess. Or we go and live in cabins out in the bush.
Tracy:
And some people like to do that, because they belong out there, right, if you're talking about belonging. Yeah. You know I was thinking about that belonging thing and what that means in the society that we live in, and how it's, you got to find your people in order to feel like you belong.
Dr. Dave:
Right.
Tracy:
Right. How do you find your people? And then when you find your people and you show up, do you feel like you're part of the people that you think you want to be a part of? So do you really feel like you belong?
Dr. Dave:
Yeah, that is a very insightful view, right, into those relationships, right, that you're trying to build with these individuals that you're part of. So, oftentimes we're looking in to see, hey, do they help us emotionally, right, do they make us happy or spiritually...
Tracy:
Right.
Dr. Dave:
Or even from a physical context, right, are they helping us physically in terms of us being a part of their, that space, how do we sense that, right? Trying to figure that out.
Tracy:
Yeah, and do they make me happy or do they help me find my own happiness, when even in those groups of belonging, there's so much stuff that needs to be healed within those groups in order to feel like they even belong.
Dr. Dave:
Yeah.
Tracy:
I kind of think the sense of belonging comes back to self. Can I accept who I am and all of my stuff in order to show up authentically in a group that I think are my people, and then feel like I belong? And that was a whole lot, but that's kind of the trajectory, right?
Dr. Dave:
Yeah, because I think of it as self love, self respect, self-healing, right, self-esteem. I mean, it all comes, it starts with us because the sensing is from us into the environment with other people that we connect with, so it starts with us.
Tracy:
Yeah. I like using self-efficacy instead of self-esteem, right.
Dr. Dave:
Sure.
Tracy:
Because self-esteem feels to me more externally driven, because I feel good when people respond to me in a certain kind of way, and it can also be internal,