Knowledge For Men

Dean Niewolny spent 23 years in executive roles with three of Wall Street’s largest financial firms, finishing his career in the financial sector as the market manager for Wells Fargo Advisors in Chicago, where he oversaw a $100mm market.

While in Chicago, he and his wife, Lisa, traveled many times to Africa and, seeing the abject needs of widows and orphans, made life changes that enabled them to get involved, such as helping to complete an orphan home and a Hospice home in Durbin, South Africa.

In 2010, Dean traded his marketplace career for Halftime to help more people who, like him, wanted to expand their own “first half” success and skills into passion and purpose for meeting human needs and making a significant difference. Dean joined Halftime as managing director and in 2011 became chief executive officer. He speaks at events around the world, encouraging business leaders to channel

Dean joined Halftime as managing director and in 2011 became chief executive officer. He speaks at events around the world, encouraging business leaders to channel their first-half achievements into a second half defined by joy, impact, and balance.

“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works,which God prepared in advance for us to do.” ~Ephesians 2:1

1. The Pursuit of Money is Empty

So many of us as men tie our identity to the number of 0’s in our checking account. We think that out worth as  a man is determined by how much money we earn and the number of toys that we have without ever realizing that the sole pursuit of money is empty.

Yes, money is important and allows us to have a bigger impact on the world, but pursuing money just for the sake of having more money and bigger and better things is a pursuit that will leave you empty and full of regret for a life lived in vain.

2. Life is About What You Can Give Not What You Get 

The true joy of life is in giving back, it’s in making an impact and helping other people to become all that they can be. If you want to live a full life, a good life, and a life that has true meaning, then you must focus on what you are giving, not what you are getting.

3. You Don’t Need to Leave Your Job to Make an Impact

Many people seem to think that the only way to have true significance is to leave their job and start a nonprofit in the deep Sahara. But the truth of the matter is that you can start having a real impact by just focusing on your local community.

Start a local club for young boys who don’t have fathers and give them a strong male role model, build a park for the inner city, mentor someone who you believe has real potential.

You don’t have to be drastic to make an important difference, start small and you will be amazed where it takes you.

4.  Aim for Success and Significance

Something that many millennials are realizing is that success and significance are not either-or situations, you can have both-and. They are realizing that they can have the 7-figure business, and use that business to enjoy the finer things in life while still changing communities and individuals on a global scale.

They are realizing that they can actually make a money from making a difference, solving real problems and training up the next generation of leaders and world changers while making a profit is something that is completely doable.

Do not settle for one or the other, pursue both.

5. You Have to Operate from Passion and Strength 

If you want to make a real difference in the world, then you have to operate from passion and strength. If you are doing something that you do not enjoy and you are no good at, you will never make a difference in your life or the life of anybody else.

You have to find things that make you come alive, and then find a niche where you can become one of the best. This is the only way that you will be able to make a lasting impact on the world.

Tucker Max received his BA from the University of Chicago in 1998, and his JD from Duke Law School in 2001. He even attended Duke Law School on an academic scholarship, where he neglected to buy any of his textbooks for his final two years and spent part of one semester–while still enrolled in classes–living in Cancun.

His first book, I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell, is a #1 New York Times Best Seller, spent five years on the list, and has over 2 million copies in print. His second book, Assholes Finish First, and his third book,Hilarity Ensues, are also NY Times Best Sellers.

He co-wrote and produced the movie based on his life/book, also titled "I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell." He has also been credited with being the originator and leader of a new literary genre, "fratire," is only the third writer (after Malcolm Gladwell and Michael Lewis) to ever have three books on the NY Times Nonfiction Best Seller List at one time, and was nominated to the Time Magazine 100 Most Influential List in 2009. He currently lives in Austin, Texas.

"Every day write down one example of you working your process and one example of how you are making your life about other people"

1. Life is Not Complicated but it is Difficult

Many people like to make life seem more complicated than it really is. In reality, life is simple, but it is hard as hell and it boils down to two things:

-The relationships you have with the people that you love

-The work you do

If you can master the relationships in your life and you can do work every day that you find personally fulfilling, allows you to have freedom, and adds value to others, than you are about as successful as they come.

2. The Best Way to Make Money is to Help People

If you want to be rich, then you have to help a lot of people. Making money is all about the art of problem solving and helping others improve their lives in a way that they cannot wait to pay you.

Everyone is in pain and everyone is struggling with something in their lives, no matter how rich, good looking, or successful they are, and if you can find that thing and offer them a solution that genuinely works, you will be able to make more money than you ever imagined.

3. Achieving External Success Alone is Unfulfilling

In the interview Tucker talked about how he had all of the external trappings of success. Millions of dollars in income, meet and sleeping with countless beautiful women, a healthy body, and a great career, but still found it ultimately unfulfilling, because he had not done the work on himself.

No matter how much you achieve in your life, if you do not work on yourself and if you do not take care of your emotions and inner world, no amount of outward success will leave you fulfilled.

4. Knowing Is Not Enough

If everyone in the world acted on what they knew, we would live in a society where everyone was happy, healthy, wealthy, and wise.

Think about it…

Everyone knows that to be healthy you should move more and eat less. Everyone knows to be wealthy you should work hard and smart, and spend less than you make. Everyone knows to be wise you should read more and be around smarter people.

So why the hell don't people do this?

They have an action problem, not a knowledge problem. If you want to succeed in life, you have to take the action, knowing is not half of the battle, it's about 10% and massive effing action is the other 90%.

5. You Make Your Own Purpose

Many people have been sold a lie that they have to go on this mystical journey to find their purpose. That if they go and meditate in a dark cave a ball of light will come down from the heavens to reveal to them what they need to do.

This is pure bullshit.

If you are struggling to find a purpose it is because you don't find a purpose you make one!

Pick something that you enjoy and are good at that will allow you to maximize your relationships with the people you love and serve the world, and you have successfully found a purpose worth living for.

Like we said earlier, this is quite simple, but not easy.

But it is also worth it.

Tucker Max received his BA from the University of Chicago in 1998, and his JD from Duke Law School in 2001. He even attended Duke Law School on an academic scholarship, where he neglected to buy any of his textbooks for his final two years and spent part of one semester–while still enrolled in classes–living in Cancun.

His first book, I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell, is a #1 New York Times Best Seller, spent five years on the list, and has over 2 million copies in print. His second book, Assholes Finish First, and his third book,Hilarity Ensues, are also NY Times Best Sellers.

He co-wrote and produced the movie based on his life/book, also titled “I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell.” He has also been credited with being the originator and leader of a new literary genre, “fratire,” is only the third writer (after Malcolm Gladwell and Michael Lewis) to ever have three books on the NY Times Nonfiction Best Seller List at one time, and was nominated to the Time Magazine 100 Most Influential List in 2009. He currently lives in Austin, Texas.

“Every day write down one example of you working your process and one example of how you are making your life about other people”

1. Life is Not Complicated but it is Difficult

Many people like to make life seem more complicated than it really is. In reality, life is simple, but it is hard as hell and it boils down to two things:

-The relationships you have with the people that you love

-The work you do

If you can master the relationships in your life and you can do work every day that you find personally fulfilling, allows you to have freedom, and adds value to others, than you are about as successful as they come.

2. The Best Way to Make Money is to Help People

If you want to be rich, then you have to help a lot of people. Making money is all about the art of problem solving and helping others improve their lives in a way that they cannot wait to pay you.

Everyone is in pain and everyone is struggling with something in their lives, no matter how rich, good looking, or successful they are, and if you can find that thing and offer them a solution that genuinely works, you will be able to make more money than you ever imagined.

3. Achieving External Success Alone is Unfulfilling 

In the interview Tucker talked about how he had all of the external trappings of success. Millions of dollars in income, meet and sleeping with countless beautiful women, a healthy body, and a great career, but still found it ultimately unfulfilling, because he had not done the work on himself.

No matter how much you achieve in your life, if you do not work on yourself and if you do not take care of your emotions and inner world, no amount of outward success will leave you fulfilled.

4. Knowing Is Not Enough 

If everyone in the world acted on what they knew, we would live in a society where everyone was happy, healthy, wealthy, and wise.

Think about it…

Everyone knows that to be healthy you should move more and eat less. Everyone knows to be wealthy you should work hard and smart, and spend less than you make. Everyone knows to be wise you should read more and be around smarter people.

So why the hell don’t people do this?

They have an action problem, not a knowledge problem. If you want to succeed in life, you have to take the action, knowing is not half of the battle, it’s about 10% and massive effing action is the other 90%.

5. You Make Your Own Purpose 

Many people have been sold a lie that they have to go on this mystical journey to find their purpose. That if they go and meditate in a dark cave a ball of light will come down from the heavens to reveal to them what they need to do.

This is pure bullshit.

If you are struggling to find a purpose it is because you don’t find a purpose you make one!

Pick something that you enjoy and are good at that will allow you to maximize your relationships with the people you love and serve the world, and you have successfully found a purpose worth living for.

Like we said earlier, this is quite simple, but not easy.

But it is also worth it.

Babette Hughes, did not start writing until her 80's and has now become a prolific author of books like The Red Scar, The Hat and Lost and Found, and co-author of Why College Students Fail.

Now 93, she writes every day with a fluidity and grace of a woman half her age; her most recent novel is Searching For Vivian. Her earned wisdom has enriched her contributions to the Huffington Post.

"When you accept the events that happen to you, you accept life, and when you accept life, life accepts you"

1. Stop Worrying About the Pressures of Society

As a man, society places tremendous pressure on you to live up to the standards it has unrealistically set.

If you don't drive the fastest car, own the biggest house, have the biggest paycheck, lift the most weight, be the most masculine and classically manly man yet also be the most sensitive and kind hearted lover that you can be then you have failed tremendously.

Men, just stop!

Live your life, love your life and be there for the people who really matter. You will not be on your death bed wishing you had made more money or owned a bigger house, you will wish that you had spent more time doing things you love with people you love.

Life is too darn short to be unhappy.

2. Don't Fear Failure, Embrace It

Mistakes are often looked at as a failure, something that you cannot recover from and something that will permanently tarnish your name.

This isn't true.

Mistakes and failures are how you learn and how you grow into the man you need to be. They teach you valuable lessons about what is truly important and about the kind of person you should aspire to be.

Use failures, don't regret them.

3. Life Takes Time

When you are young, you always want to move faster than necessary and try and get to the next checkpoint in life.

You want to become the man you dream of over night. But life takes time.

And that's the way that it should be. Enjoy the journey and don't rush it.

Babette Hughes, did not start writing until her 80’s and has now become a prolific author of books like The Red Scar, The Hat and Lost and Found, and co-author of Why College Students Fail.

Now 93, she writes every day with a fluidity and grace of a woman half her age; her most recent novel is Searching For Vivian. Her earned wisdom has enriched her contributions to the Huffington Post.

“When you accept the events that happen to you, you accept life, and when you accept life, life accepts you”

1. Stop Worrying About the Pressures of Society 

As a man, society places tremendous pressure on you to live up to the standards it has unrealistically set.

If you don’t drive the fastest car, own the biggest house, have the biggest paycheck, lift the most weight, be the most masculine and classically manly man yet also be the most sensitive and kind hearted lover that you can be then you have failed tremendously.

Men, just stop!

Live your life, love your life and be there for the people who really matter. You will not be on your death bed wishing you had made more money or owned a bigger house, you will wish that you had spent more time doing things you love with people you love.

Life is too darn short to be unhappy.

2. Don’t Fear Failure, Embrace It 

Mistakes are often looked at as a failure, something that you cannot recover from and something that will permanently tarnish your name.

This isn’t true.

Mistakes and failures are how you learn and how you grow into the man you need to be. They teach you valuable lessons about what is truly important and about the kind of person you should aspire to be.

Use failures, don’t regret them.

3. Life Takes Time

When you are young, you always want to move faster than necessary and try and get to the next checkpoint in life.

You want to become the man you dream of over night. But life takes time.

And that’s the way that it should be. Enjoy the journey and don’t rush it.

Sarah Jones is an online entrepreneur and dating coach for men who helps introverted men unleash the power inside of them to attract and date the beautiful women that they desire by expressing themselves openly and authentically, and avoiding the gimmicks of the PUA community.

"Enjoy the hell out of being you"

1. Love Being You

The first step that is essential to becoming a powerful man who can authentically relate with and attract the women he desires is simply to love being you.

Love who you are!

Love your weirdness, your quirky traits, your dreams and goals, your hobbies, your flaws, and your strengths.

Many people suggest that loving yourself often causes people to steer away from personal development, but the opposite is actually true. If you genuinely love yourself and love who you are, what is the more loving thing to do?

To allow yourself to live a mediocre life held back by fear and doubt?

Or to break free and step into the life that you know you can achieve?

2. You Have to Live by Your Values to Truly Attract Women

One of the reasons that many shy guys fail with women whenever attempting "pick up" is that the techniques and tactics taught in the pickup community, even among those who encourage you to be authentic and genuinely relate, are often out of line with the values that you may hold being an introverted male.

If you value genuine conversation and connection and are then told that you have to go to loud bars and clubs start dry humping on the dance floor to attract girls, you will feel disingenuous and it will come across in your interactions.

3. Break the Touch Barrier Quickly

One of the ways that many introverts fail with women is that they are quickly "friend zoned" because they have a difficult time breaking the touch barrier. A woman will never see you in a sexual light if you are not able to comfortable touch her in a respectful way (and quickly)

This does not mean you have to be groping and grab assing, it simply means that being able to initiate a playful touch on the arm or shoulder, or placing your hand on her knee to emphasize a segment of a story you are telling, will go a long way in having her see you as a potential boyfriend and a not a potential friend to cry to when her boyfriend turns out to be an asshole.

4. Your Inner World will be Reflected In Your Approaches

Women have a sixth sense when it comes to how you are showing up in the world. If you are inwardly feeling unconfident, very unsure of yourself, and unworthy of the girl you are trying to spark attraction with. it will come across and she will be able to tell almost immediately.

You have to first develop the inner confidence and put yourself in situations where you can be yourself (for example if you love music, go join a music meet up instead of trying to force going out to night clubs and bars), and then you will be able to meet and attract women easily and naturally.

Sarah Jones is an online entrepreneur and dating coach for men who helps introverted men unleash the power inside of them to attract and date the beautiful women that they desire by expressing themselves openly and authentically, and avoiding the gimmicks of the PUA community.

“Enjoy the hell out of being you”

1. Love Being You 

The first step that is essential to becoming a powerful man who can authentically relate with and attract the women he desires is simply to love being you.

Love who you are!

Love your weirdness, your quirky traits, your dreams and goals, your hobbies, your flaws, and your strengths.

Many people suggest that loving yourself often causes people to steer away from personal development, but the opposite is actually true. If you genuinely love yourself and love who you are, what is the more loving thing to do?

To allow yourself to live a mediocre life held back by fear and doubt?

Or to break free and step into the life that you know you can achieve?

2. You Have to Live by Your Values to Truly Attract Women 

One of the reasons that many shy guys fail with women whenever attempting “pick up” is that the techniques and tactics taught in the pickup community, even among those who encourage you to be authentic and genuinely relate, are often out of line with the values that you may hold being an introverted male.

If you value genuine conversation and connection and are then told that you have to go to loud bars and clubs start dry humping on the dance floor to attract girls, you will feel disingenuous and it will come across in your interactions.

3. Break the Touch Barrier Quickly

One of the ways that many introverts fail with women is that they are quickly “friend zoned” because they have a difficult time breaking the touch barrier. A woman will never see you in a sexual light if you are not able to comfortable touch her in a respectful way (and quickly)

This does not mean you have to be groping and grab assing, it simply means that being able to initiate a playful touch on the arm or shoulder, or placing your hand on her knee to emphasize a segment of a story you are telling, will go a long way in having her see you as a potential boyfriend and a not a potential friend to cry to when her boyfriend turns out to be an asshole.

4. Your Inner World will be Reflected In Your Approaches

Women have a sixth sense when it comes to how you are showing up in the world. If you are inwardly feeling unconfident, very unsure of yourself, and unworthy of the girl you are trying to spark attraction with. it will come across and she will be able to tell almost immediately.

You have to first develop the inner confidence and put yourself in situations where you can be yourself (for example if you love music, go join a music meet up instead of trying to force going out to night clubs and bars), and then you will be able to meet and attract women easily and naturally.

Dale Partridge is a social entrepreneur and founder of Sevenly.org and StartupCamp.com. Described as "a mind who feels the trends before market," Partridge teaches leaders and organizations how to position their brand, love their people, and develop profitable corporate social responsibility programs.

He's a renowned expert on branding, consumer psychology, and marketplace trends. He is an avid speaker and has been featured in various business publications including the cover of Entrepreneur Magazine, Fox News, NBC, INC Magazine, Mashable, MSN Money, Forbes and the Los Angeles Times. Dale resides with his family in Bend, Oregon.

"Never get too busy making a living that you forget to make a life"~Dolly Parton

1. Accountability is Key

On your path to becoming the best man that you can be, there are a couple of key ingredients that, if you are lacking, will cause you to fail miserably.

One of those keys is accountability.

You have to have strong men in your life who are willing to speak truth and push you to become your best self. Men who are willing to call you out on your weaknesses and affirm your strengths. Without a strong support system you will fail. It is essential to your success as a man, in business, marriage, and personal growth that you develop this accountability and stick to it.

2. Men Are Overly Courageous in Business and Fearful in Family

A huge problem with men today is that they are courageous in business and timid in their family lives.

They draw all of this satisfaction from succeeding on the front of business, making millions and achieving their dreams, that they forget to be good fathers, husbands, and sons.

If you want to live up to your full potential as a man, you have to have a balance between both. You have to succeed in business so that you can provide for your family, but you also have to be willing to sacrifice a bigger paycheck to be the man that your family needs.

3. Build Generosity into Your Life

One of the cornerstones of being a good man is being generous. If you want to live a life of purpose and fulfillment, build generosity into your life, don't sprinkle it in as an afterthought.

Give your time, money, and resources to charities that you believe in, be willing to listen to the homeless guy on the street, sit and have a conversation with someone in need. Be generous in all areas of your life and it will come back to you, but more importantly, at the end of the day when you meet your maker, you will have a clean conscience and a full heart.

Dale Partridge is a social entrepreneur and founder of Sevenly.org and StartupCamp.com. Described as “a mind who feels the trends before market,” Partridge teaches leaders and organizations how to position their brand, love their people, and develop profitable corporate social responsibility programs.

He’s a renowned expert on branding, consumer psychology, and marketplace trends. He is an avid speaker and has been featured in various business publications including the cover of Entrepreneur Magazine, Fox News, NBC, INC Magazine, Mashable, MSN Money, Forbes and the Los Angeles Times. Dale resides with his family in Bend, Oregon.

“Never get too busy making a living that you forget to make a life”~Dolly Parton

1. Accountability is Key

On your path to becoming the best man that you can be, there are a couple of key ingredients that, if you are lacking, will cause you to fail miserably.

One of those keys is accountability.

You have to have strong men in your life who are willing to speak truth and push you to become your best self. Men who are willing to call you out on your weaknesses and affirm your strengths. Without a strong support system you will fail. It is essential to your success as a man, in business, marriage, and personal growth that you develop this accountability and stick to it.

2. Men Are Overly Courageous in Business and Fearful in Family

A huge problem with men today is that they are courageous in business and timid in their family lives.

They draw all of this satisfaction from succeeding on the front of business, making millions and achieving their dreams, that they forget to be good fathers, husbands, and sons.

If you want to live up to your full potential as a man, you have to have a balance between both. You have to succeed in business so that you can provide for your family, but you also have to be willing to sacrifice a bigger paycheck to be the man that your family needs.

3. Build Generosity into Your Life

One of the cornerstones of being a good man is being generous. If you want to live a life of purpose and fulfillment, build generosity into your life, don’t sprinkle it in as an afterthought.

Give your time, money, and resources to charities that you believe in, be willing to listen to the homeless guy on the street, sit and have a conversation with someone in need. Be generous in all areas of your life and it will come back to you, but more importantly, at the end of the day when you meet your maker, you will have a clean conscience and a full heart.

Dr. Roberto Canessa., is one of the 16 survivors of the Uruguayan Air Force Flight 571, which crashed in the Andes mountains on October 13, 1972

"Don't wait for the helicopters to rescue you"

1. You Have to Rescue Yourself

In life, no one is coming to save you, there are no helicopters on the way, you have to rescue yourself.

In business, there is no one coming with that promotion you aren't willing to work and ask for, in relationships, there are no beautiful women waiting in line to marry you while you play video games and live a mundane life, there is no magic pill to make you the best version of yourself, you have to choose to be the best, and fight for it every day.

You have to rescue yourself.

2. Know there is Hope

No matter how bleak things look right now, know that there is hope, there is always something better waiting for you if you are willing to have patience and put in the work. No matter how hard it is, no matter how much you want to give up, stay strong and have hope.

3. Take it One Step at a Time

If you want to succeed at anything, just take it one step at a time. Don't think about the massive journey ahead of you, just think about the natural next step, think about the one thing that you need to do today.

If you can have laser focus on the next thing you need to accomplish your success in life and business will skyrocket.

4. Don't Wait for the Plane to Crash

Life is beautiful and we have so much to be grateful for. Don't wait for your plane to crash to realize that. Spend time every day in thanks, thinking about the people, things, and experiences you love.

Just be grateful and allow the world to spin in its own way without worrying about it.