Konversations with Karma

Self-compassion enhances well-being primarily because it deactivates the threat system, activates the self-soothing system, helps us feel more connected, and reduces feelings of isolation. Kristen Neff defined self-compassion as being comprised of three components: self- kindness versus self-judgment, a sense of common humanity versus isolation, and mindfulness versus over-identification when confronting painful self-relevant thoughts and emotions. Self-compassion involves recognizing that all humans are imperfect, that no one is infallible, everyone makes mistakes, and have serious life challenges.

3 Exercises to Improve Self-Compassion

1.     Self-Compassion Meditations- Meditation and other mindfulness practices allow you to observe how you are feeling about your suffering. Remember we cannot change what we are not aware of. 

2.     Self-Compassion Journal- Actually writing your awarenesses and experiences of your pain and suffering can allow you to see how you are responded to yourself. This allows you to write out and practice self-compassionate responses.

3.     Changing your critical self-talk- Practice paying attention to your inner critic when you make a mistake. Many times, I hear people say things like “I’m so stupid” and even though they may be joking, this self-talk reduces our ability to be self-compassionate. 

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I felt guilty putting boundaries or limits in place because I felt like I was keeping people away. I’ve learned that can’t be further from the truth. Boundaries are not about keeping something or someone away but rather protecting something within. Boundaries are a clear limit set based on your own needs. 

·      Start with defining your boundaries

·      Separate the request from the relationship

·      Focus on what you will gain by saying no

·      Recognize the personal cost of saying yes

·      Be clear rather than vague and non-committal 

We also discuss 4 types of boundaries that you may need to set.

 1.     Emotional Boundaries

2.     Time Boundaries

3.     Topic Boundaries

4.     Physical Boundaries

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When you forgive, you don't change the past...You change the future!
Forgiveness is reclaiming your power and has very little to do with the person that is being forgiven.
Steps to forgiveness

1. Ask what is my role in the breakdown and what can I learn from this?
2. Have compassion and empathy
3. Release negative feelings

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Now that we know what a balanced life is, let's talk about how to create your balanced life. I share tools and techniques to create balance in each of your four systems (mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual). Remember balance and harmony has to be intentionally created and is a daily journey not a destination. 

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Balance is a continuous, individual, daily (sometimes moment-to-moment) journey! Depending on your lifestyle and the season of life you are in will determine the steps that you take to move towards balance in your life. Balance and harmony must be intentionally created. We talk about what it looks like to be in and out of balance in all four systems: mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. 
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Let's pull out those vision boards and goal lists for 2020 and recommit to making our dreams happen. 
3 Steps to making your goals a reality
1. Clarify your outcomes
2.Know your purpose (Why)
3. Take inspired action in small steps
We all need self-discipline to accomplish any goal and here's out we can strengthen or develop self-discipline. 
1. Audit how you spend your time
2. Make a list of distractions
3. Plan your time ahead
4. Use technology to your advantage
5. Be patient with yourself
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Even though we are in the midst of uncertain times, we can still thrive. Lets remember to care for ourselves first, shift our mindsets to find what is working, learn a new skill, and audit what information we are taking in. We can't always control what is happening around us but we can always control how we respond. I hope you are all safe and healthy!

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In this episode I share the value of self-care as well 6 steps to help you make self-care a lifestyle. 

1. Know yourself
2. Create habits that rejuvenate you
3. Self-development
4. Set healthy boundaries
5. Listen to yourself 
6. Have fun

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