Kris Wilder

There is a saying that goes, “Letting somebody live rent-free in your head.” That saying means a person has long since left the situation, but you continue to go over what happened. The saying is attributed to Ann Landers who wrote in an advice column for 56 years. They Are Gone The idea is that … Continue reading "Rent Free In Your Head"

Circumstances and Fate in An Active Light. “If only this would be like that,” “If the situation would just break this way.” “What we need to have is the stars align yeah that will make everything right.” Well, there’s the crux of the situation. There’s the crux of the circumstances and fate. Standing around and … Continue reading "Circumstances and Fate in an Active Light"

Two distinct roles in your life. One is the role of citizen the other resident. These two positions result in how you hold yourself in your community. Resident v. Citizen A resident is a person living in a place, that’s pretty much what they do they live in that place. Done. A citizen has rights … Continue reading "Two Distinct Roles in Your Life"

The Menu of Life. Life is likely not going to go as planned. Your life well, it does what it does and as much as you plan, things change. As much as you are an excellent planner, setting out that trajectory, establishing those goals, implementing them one after another successively. As you are moving towards … Continue reading "The Menu of Life"

Learning agenda. Learning with an agenda is predisposing yourself to a conclusion. This type of learning serves a purpose but it also narrows our lives. We create silos of knowledge and the desire to learn and be entertained. We create silos of knowledge. In those silos, we have a predisposition. We have a planned outcome … Continue reading "Learning Agenda"

Light the Lighthouse. Terror, fear, the pain they create confusion and then we go into survival mode. That’s not new the survival mode, but here’s a way to look at survival mode and how you might deal with it as somebody else is experiencing it. The Sub-Personality One way to look at this is as … Continue reading "Light The Lighthouse"

Whispers of defeat and crab pots. The story of the crab pot goes like this. A bunch of captured crabs are in a bucket and as one crab has made it to the rim of the bucket, about to escape it gets pulled back down by the other crabs. The truth is that this is … Continue reading "Whispers of Defeat"

Victim times three. The title sounds like rejection or oddly an acceptance of what is happening, but in a strange and odd way. “This is not happening,” or I am a victim of a certain circumstance is not an attractive look. Business Destroyed Recently my karate dojo got flooded. The dojo was destroyed. The unit … Continue reading "Victim Times Three"

Improve my life. The idea of improvement of getting better is not inherent in all of us. We do what we need to do and not much more. The caveman Grock needed a better smashing rock so what he did was he fashioned a new tool, enter the rock on a stick. The rock on … Continue reading "Improve My Life"

Cultivating a life. Are you a cultivating person or are you something other? Are you seeking change in your life or are you letting it pass by?