Last Date

In this episode of Last Date, I sit down with Cailan after meeting her on a trail in Austin, where I asked her one question: What do you wish was different about modern dating?

Her answer: She wishes people would approach each other more in real life. 

So we decided to continue the conversation.

We talk about why so many men are afraid to approach women, whether women really only want attractive guys approaching them, and what actually separates a confident approach from a creepy one. Cailan shares approaches that have worked on her and explains why personality and charisma can matter far more than men realize.

We also discuss:

• How to approach a woman without being creepy

  
  

• What actually creates chemistry on a first date

  
  

• Vulnerability vs. trauma dumping

  
  

• How the “Three Day Rule” is outdated

  
  

• What "long-term, open to short" actually communicates on a dating profile

  
  

This conversation is a practical look at what women actually want from men in modern dating—and why making dating better might require all of us to stop overthinking it and start being a little more willing to make the first move.

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In this episode of Last Date, I sit down with Mandee, who at 42 is navigating dating after divorce while still hoping to start a family.

Mandee was married for more than six years. Early in that relationship, she and her husband both said they wanted three children—but after they married, those conversations never turned into plans. Eventually, Mandee realized that if having a family was still important to her, she needed to give herself the opportunity to find someone who genuinely wanted the same thing.

Now she's dating again with a much clearer understanding of what she wants—and discovering that clarity can make dating both easier and harder.

We discuss:- What it's like dating at 42 when you still want children

- Why she's dating younger men for the first time

- The non-negotiables that dramatically narrow her dating pool

- Opening herself up to dating outside her race after previously dating only Asian men

- Why she's become surprisingly attracted to the "nerdy guys" she once overlooked

- Ghosting, dating apps, singles events, and sliding into someone's DMs

This conversation is about starting over with more self-awareness, expanding what you're open to while becoming more selective about what actually matters, and staying optimistic when the life you want requires you to keep putting yourself out there.

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In this episode of Last Date, I sit down with Adrianna, an entrepreneur who dates both men and women, to talk about dating intentionally in a culture of endless options, love bombing, dating-app fatigue, and people who don't always seem to know what they're looking for.

We get into what Adrianna has learned from years on dating apps, including why she thinks your profile should be designed to filter people out, not simply maximize your number of matches. She explains why prompts should either start conversations or help identify incompatibilities, and why people often build profiles around how they want to be perceived instead of the people they're actually trying to attract.

We also discuss:

- What love bombing actually looks like—and why Adriana now "love bombs the love bombers back"

- How to build a better Hinge profile

- Why your dating profile should eliminate the wrong people

- Dating as a busy entrepreneur

- Why more women she's dated have earned second dates than men

- Why she prefers thoughtful dates over expensive ones

- Why understanding someone's trauma doesn't mean excusing the way they treat you

This conversation is about being more deliberate with dating: knowing the life you actually want, choosing people who fit into it, and realizing that attention, money, and grand gestures aren't substitutes for communication, thoughtfulness, and emotional availability.

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In this episode of Last Date, comedian and content creator Simone shares the wild dating stories that inspired her comedy—and why she's sworn off serious relationships for now.

We talk about being love-bombed, getting ghosted after a romantic trip to Italy, why toxic relationships can feel more exciting than healthy ones, and how heartbreak has become fuel for her social media content.

We also discuss:- Why humor is one of the most attractive qualities in a partner

- What defines a situationship

- Whether casual sex ever stays casual

- Love bombing and mixed signals

- Why dating apps create the paradox of choice

If you've ever wondered why modern dating feels chaotic—or found yourself in a situationship you couldn't explain—this conversation will make you laugh, cringe, and probably feel a little seen.

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Why do so many dating app conversations never turn into actual dates?

In this episode of Last Date, Christian and I unpack one of the biggest frustrations in modern dating: why dating apps feel so exhausting—even when you're matching with people. We talk about why so many conversations become "pen pals," why both men and women feel burned out for completely different reasons, and the surprisingly simple things that make someone stand out on Hinge.

We also discuss:

- Why meeting through friends still beats dating apps

- How long you should message before asking someone out- Whether you should confirm a first date

- Why ghosting says more about the ghoster than the person being ghosted

- How to approach someone in real life without being creepy

- The best first dates (and why simple is usually better)

- How to stop overthinking rejection and start dating with more confidence

Whether you're swiping on Hinge, hoping someone approaches you in person, or just trying to understand modern dating a little better, this conversation is packed with practical advice from both the male and female perspectives.

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Is modern dating actually the problem—or are our expectations?

In this episode of Last Date, Jenni and I unpack what's making dating harder than it needs to be.

We talk about whether confirming the first date is required, the psychology behind some daters needing to feel like is obsessed with them before even meeting in person, why so many people avoid conversations about exclusivity, and how simply checking in can prevent months of confusion.

We also dive into:

- When exclusivity conversations should happen

- Why immediate chemistry over text doesn't matter nearly as much as people think

- Why "high standards, low expectations" might be the healthiest dating philosophy

- Why people should stop treating first dates like job interviews

- The guy who forgot about Jenni inside a weed shop

One of my favorite takeaways from this conversation is Jenni's reminder that dating doesn't have to feel so heavy. Instead of trying to decide whether someone is your future spouse within the first hour, simply enjoy meeting another human being and see what unfolds.

If you've ever found yourself overthinking, stressing over exclusivity, or wondering why dating feels exhausting, this episode is for you.

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In this episode of Last Date, Cristy shares the story of meeting her ex-husband at 22 years old after climbing into a baby blue Lamborghini outside a nightclub—and how that relationship ultimately helped her discover her own self-worth.

After moving to Austin, she entered another relationship that taught her an entirely different lesson: sometimes loving someone's potential isn't enough if they aren't willing to grow alongside you.

We discuss:- The danger of falling in love with someone's potential

- Why women often lose trust when a partner won't take action

- Emotional vulnerability vs. emotional dependence

- What women really mean when they say they want to feel safe

- Why repair matters more than being right

- The qualities that create lasting compatibility

- The difference between wanting to be a parent and building a relationship capable of supporting a family

One of the most powerful moments of the episode comes when Christy explains the moment she knew her relationship was over—when her partner answered the question, "Why do you love me?"

It's a conversation about healing, growth, and what it actually means to build a relationship where both people feel seen for who they are.

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In this episode of Last Date, comedian Galina Ravina joins me to compare dating in Los Angeles vs. Austin, explain why dating apps create the illusion of endless options, and unpack why so many people struggle to follow through after a great first date.

Galina recently moved from Los Angeles to Austin and shares how dramatically her dating experience changed almost overnight. We discuss the psychology behind dating apps, why people often chase perfection instead of compatibility, and how the paradox of choice is making modern dating worse.

We also discuss:
• Why some men stop following through after showing strong interest
• Situationships and avoidant partners
• Why meeting someone in real life still has huge advantages
• How humor affects attraction
• The surprising psychology behind manifestation and partner selection
• Height preferences and what the research actually suggests

If you've ever wondered why dating feels harder than it should—or why someone seemed interested only to disappear—this conversation dives into the psychology behind modern dating with plenty of humor along the way.

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In this episode of Last Date, I sit down with Carrie to talk about one of the most polarizing topics in modern dating: choosing not to have children.

Carrie has known for most of her life that she doesn't want kids, and unlike many people, she's spent years thinking deeply about that decision. We discuss the reactions she receives when she tells dates she doesn't want children, why dating can be more challenging when you choose not to have children, and the pressure many people feel to follow the traditional "life script" of marriage, kids, and settling down.

We also explore:

• Consciously deciding whether to have children rather than treating parenthood as the default

• The social pressure women face around motherhood

• Why some people react so strongly when someone chooses a different path

• Dating while digital nomading

• Why a fulfilling life can take many different forms

Whether you want children, don't want children, or are still figuring it out, this conversation is ultimately about making intentional choices and building a life that feels right for you—not the one other people expect you to live.

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In this episode of Last Date, I sit down with Vic, who reached out on Instagram with a question I couldn't stop thinking about: why do some men make incredible friends — and then fall completely apart the moment things turn romantic?

We get into why men with options refuse to go all in, and why Vic's litmus test for whether a guy actually likes her is devastatingly simple.

We discuss:

- The friendship that turned romantic — and how quickly he became a different person entirely

- Why men with options resist committing (and why that fear of missing out is costing them)

- Good Time Charlies: why the most fun guy in the room may be the last one to settle down

- What it means when a man dumps all his emotional trauma on you within the first hour of a date

- Why not asking questions is a sign that a guy only wants one thing

- The taxi light theory and the avocado theory

Vic also shares the bar approach that actually works on her (hint: it involves a stain on a shirt).

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