This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about friends with benefits: our experiences, pros and cons, and why they seem so rare in queer Christian circles.

Friends with benefits are very queer, blurring distinctions between platonic and romantic/sexual relationships.

Queerness imagines a world where boundaries we treat as absolute become blurry (or erased), and so both more accurately depicts the world we actually live in and also changes it for the better.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about power: how Christian leaders use and abuse power, how queer Christians have power and don’t, and how we get power back by giving it away.

Jack talks about the power and powerlessness he experiences as a disabled person; Jess talks about desiring the power to take away suffering, and Jack talks about whether he’s compensating for something.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about flirting and seduction: how to hit home runs on the dating apps, how to use all the senses to flirt, and how being queer changes the way we think about flirting.

We talk about flirting with our friends, their partners, and each other. Jess talks about flirting while being married and poly, and Jack talks about the pick-up lines he found popular with the menfolk.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about the names and pronouns we use for God. We talk about the ways American Christians speak about God like a human man, how calling God “Father” can be particularly difficult for queer people, and how the historic Christian tradition is surprisingly progressive on these points.

We explore the ways policing God language has been used to dehumanize (who’s “allowed” to be in God’s image?) and how we can use names/pronouns for God to make room for everyone.

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This week Jess & Jack have another conversation about BDSM, covering some of the topics we missed the first time around, including pain play—from biting and scratching to flogging and recreational electrocution—and breath play and aftercare.

We talk about using BDSM toys can be helpful when one or more partners is disabled, suggest some choking techniques, and Jack shares how to save big on floggers.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about creeds or religious statements of faith: what they are, how they’re weaponized against queer people, and whether we should use them today.

We talk about who counts as a “Christian,” compare notes on creeds or statements of faith from our pasts and presents, Jess talks about the life-changing magic of making your own statement of faith, and Jack talks about finding freedom in submitting to tradition.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about role play: what we like and why we like it, including Jack’s Steel Magnolias fantasy and Jess’s interest in Catholic schoolgirl outfits.

Jack opens up about a relationship with an abuser and explores using role play as exposure therapy to heal.

We end by asking the question, “Is any role play off-limits?” and suggest some boundaries for ethical role play.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about shame: what it is, how it differs from guilt, and what we used to be ashamed of.

Jack talks about being ashamed of growing up in a small town when he moved to LA, and Jess talks about the shame queer Christians feel in both Christian and queer circles.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about foreplay: what we like to do—and like to have done to us—leading up to sex, how long it takes us to get going, and what counts as foreplay when we queer the boundary between sexual and non-sexual.

We talk about how to send and interpret non-verbal cues  that it’s time (or not time) to turn it around while the lights are down, and how foreplay looks different in the context of disability.

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This week Jess & Jack talk about interfaith relationships: Jess talks about being married to a witch, and Jack talks about his relationship with his agnostic fiancé.

We talk about how we grew up thinking you had to date and marry another Christian to avoid being “unequally yoked” and how we came to understand interfaith relationships have the potential to deepen and strengthen our faith rather than threaten it.

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