Dear Selfless Esteem, Why do I get so mad when I see my co-workers slacking off? I feel like I work twice as hard as they do, yet I don’t make as much as they do. They never get in trouble for not doing their job. And I never get any praise for doing more than I need to do. I know it’s not my place to “straighten them out” but how do I manage these strong feelings of anger and resentment towards them? Signed, Not a Slacker

Hi, I’m Gina Leggio. Having been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 20 years, I’ve observed how the mental health field has emphasized self-esteem. I’ve also noticed how this can be counterproductive because it involves self-evaluation, which causes insecurity, anxiety, and more.

I define Selfless Esteem as freedom from self-consciousness by focusing on our Creator, who is “the Beginning and the End” (Revelation 1:8). The result is joy and peace.

For more information go to my website: http://www.selflessesteem.com 

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