Dear Selfless Esteem, Does the “Let Them” theory contradict the Bible? Doesn’t the Bible say that we should motivate each other to do good works? It also says to make disciples all over the world. In my life, I’ve even had people betray me, backstab me, and try to bring me down. Is it Biblical or even reasonable to have a hands-off approach? Signed, Just Wondering   ...To hear the answer, tune in.

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

Here are parenting tips for decreasing defiance and disobedience for parents, who would rather not spank their children. Someone writes the following:   Dear Selfless Esteem, My son is defiant and disobedient. It’s putting a strain on my marriage. My parents tell me to spank him, but I don’t want to do that. Signed, Throwing My Hands Up   ...To hear the answer, tune in.

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

The grieving process is different for each individual, especially children depending on their developmental level. Complicated grief and sources of comfort are discussed in this episode.   Dear Selfless Esteem, My husband died a couple months ago and I’m devastated. I told our kids that he is in Heaven. Still, we are all hurting. My 12yo is irritable, my 9 yo is having stomach aches, and my 4yo is clingy and has nightmares. What else can I do? Signed, Overwhelmed with Grief   ...To hear the answer, tune in.   The following books were designed for youth, who are grieving a loss:

• “Why Do I Feel So Sad?: A Grief Book for Children” by Tracy Lambert, LPC
• “How I Feel: Grief Journal for Kids: Guided Prompts to Explore Your Feelings and Find Peace” by Mia Roldan, LCSW, LCDC
• “I Miss You: A First Look at Death” by Pat Thomas
• “Fire in My Heart, Ice in My Veins: A Journal for Teenagers Experiencing Loss” by Enid Samuel Traisman
• “Understanding Mourning: A Guide for Those Who Grieve” by Glen W. Davidson
• “Straight Talk about Death for Teenagers: How to Cope with Losing Someone You Love” by Earl A. Grollman
• “The Memory Box: A Book about Grief” by Joanna Rowland
• “Charlotte’s Web” by E.B. White
• “Angel Catcher: a Journal of Loss and Remembrance” by Kathy Elden and Amy Elden Turteltaub

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

Torn between a love interest at work and the father of her baby...the options are explored in this episode.   Dear Selfless Esteem, I left an abusive relationship but he wants me back. I love him but when he swung a broomstick at me, it was the last straw (even though he didn’t actually hit me with it). I also like a guy at work, who gives me rides to and from work. Should I get back together with my ex for the sake of our baby or should I give up on him and see if the thing with my coworker goes anywhere? Signed, On the Fence   ...To hear the answer, tune in.

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

Here's the ultimate cheatsheet for aging gracefully. Someone writes the following:

Dear Selfless Esteem, I’m interested in aging gracefully but I’m also dreading sagging skin, wrinkles, and everything else that goes along with aging. I see some crow’s feet forming by my eyes, which I think is a bigger deal for me as a woman than it is for a man. How can I stop focusing on this every time I look in the mirror? Signed, Not Forever Young

....To hear the answer, tune in.

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

Dear Selfless Esteem, I wish I could know what it’s like to be good looking because it seems like those people get special treatment. How can I stop feeling ugly? Signed, Broken Mirror

....To hear the answer, tune in.

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

 

Dear Selfless Esteem, I’ve always had a girlfriend since high school. My most recent relationship just ended. I don’t want to be alone, but I feel like I should take a break. How can I be single without being lonely? Signed, Lonely Ranger   ....To hear the answer, tune in.

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

Dear Selfless Esteem, I have noticed that when I look at one negative aspect of myself, it seems to turn into a downward spiral of looking at ALL my negative traits. How can I stop this cycle and just look and work on one trait at a time?

Signed, Downward Spiraler

....To hear the answer, tune in.

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

Dear Selfless Esteem, Sometimes I get so frustrated with my spouse. I guess that happens in every marriage, but how do I address the problem without starting an argument? Signed, Rather Annoyed   ....To hear the answer, tune in.

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions. 

Dear Selfless Esteem, I’ve been grieving the death of a loved one for years. I feel comforted at church because of my belief that we will be together in Heaven, but other than that, I don’t feel much better. I understand the grieving process lasts a lifetime, but I thought I would have healed a little bit by now. When will the pain decrease? Signed, Stuck in Bereavement

.....Tune in to hear the answer.

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If you're in crisis, call or text the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. Another option is to use the chat feature at Lifeline Chat. There are also suicide hotlines in each state listed on suicide.org. If you’re in imminent danger, call 911. For other countries, see Wikipedia's list of suicide crisis lines.

This podcast episode is meant for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended to amount to professional or specific advice on which reliance should be placed. Submitting a question does not establish any kind of professional-client relationship. Although I strive to provide accurate general information, the information presented here is not a substitute for services of a medical, legal or mental health professional, and you should not rely solely on this information. Always consult a professional in your area prior to making any professional, legal, financial or tax related decisions.