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Your team is working hard. Putting the hours in, showing up, doing all the things. So why aren't you getting the results you should be?

Most organisations respond by reaching for more productivity training, better time management, or another round of process optimisation. In this episode, Lyndsey and Bryony are here to tell you that's not the answer — and it might actually be making things worse.

The real problem is invisible. It's the daily energy drains nobody's tracking or talking about. The information buried across five different systems. The meeting nobody knows why they're attending. The constant context switching because priorities were never made clear. Individually they feel too small to mention. Collectively they're exhausting your team and killing your results.

This week Lyndsey and Bryony introduce the energy audit — three practical habits to identify what's draining your team so you can strip it back and free up the focus they need to do their best work. Because most teams have around 30% of their time going into low or no value activity. And if you stopped it tomorrow? Nobody would even notice.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

Habit 1 — The Energy Mapping Conversation

A simple 15-minute conversation with each member of your team — built into an existing one-to-one so you're not adding yet another meeting. You're asking two very specific questions, because energy is different from challenge. Something can be hard and energising. Something can be easy and completely soul-destroying.

The two questions to ask:

• What is giving you energy right now in your work?
• What is draining your energy?

Don't try to fix anything in the moment — just listen, take notes, and look for the patterns. When you do this across your whole team, you'll almost always find multiple people are being drained by exactly the same thing. That's your data. That's where you start.

Habit 2 — The Time vs Value Tracker

Get your team to track their time for one week — every meeting, email, and task. Then sort everything into four buckets.

The four categories:

• High value — directly contributes to your goals
• Medium value — necessary but not directly contributing
• Low value — questionable whether it needs to happen at all
• No value — if you stopped it tomorrow, what's the worst that would happen?

One team discovered they were collectively spending 15 hours a week on status reports nobody was reading — a process that had simply never been questioned. Once you see the data, you cannot unsee it. And you finally have the evidence to stop things, not just add more.

Habit 3 — The Energy Killers List

A living document you create and maintain together as a team. Every time something drains your team's energy — big or small — it goes on the list. But this isn't a complaint list. Every item gets an action attached to it, even if that action is simply deciding to accept it for now and manage around it.

How to use it:

• Add it as a standing item in your monthly retrospective or quarterly goal setting — no new meeting needed
• Encourage the whole team to contribute, not just the leader
• Celebrate when you've tackled one — that's a win worth acknowledging
• Review it regularly as energy drains change over time

This is one of the most effective burnout prevention tools a leader can build into their team culture. It makes the invisible visible, gives people a shared language for what's not working, and turns individual frustrations into something you tackle together.

Key Takeaway:

This isn't about working harder or smarter. It's about protecting your team's energy so they can do the work that actually matters. Strip away the noise, stop the low-value stuff, and lead a team that's energised — not just busy.

You care deeply about your team. You've built real trust, genuine psychological safety, and a culture where people feel valued. But what happens when someone keeps missing deadlines, the quality of work slips, or one person's behaviour starts affecting everyone else?

If you're stuck between addressing it and protecting what you've built — this episode is for you.

Lyndsey and Bryony tackle the accountability paradox head-on: why the most human-centred leaders often struggle most with holding people to account, why avoiding difficult conversations is actually a sign of low psychological safety (not high), and how to have those conversations in a way that's direct, honest, and genuinely caring all at once.

Because clarity is kind. And your team deserves a leader who's brave enough to tell them the truth.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:

Tip 1 — Co-Create Clear Agreements

You can't hold people accountable to expectations they don't know exist. Most leaders assume they've been clear — but when you actually ask your team member what they think is expected of them, you often get a completely different answer. This tip is about having a structured conversation with each person on your team to co-create shared expectations together, rather than dictating from the top down. When people have a say in defining what success looks like, they're far more invested in achieving it.

The three questions to work through together:

• What does success look like in your role over the next three months?
• What standards of quality and timeliness do we need to maintain — and what does "done" actually look like?
• How will we check in on progress, and what do we do if we're off track?

That third question is particularly powerful — because it normalises the fact that things will sometimes go off track, and agrees upfront how you'll handle it together before you're ever in a high-stakes moment.

Tip 2 — Radical Candor Check-Ins

Once your agreements are in place, you need a regular rhythm for following up on them. This is where most leaders drop the ball — they set expectations, then wait until there's a crisis, or save feedback for a quarterly review when it's too late for anyone to course correct. Instead, use your existing one-to-ones to have real, honest conversations about how things are actually going — not just status updates.

The questions to ask at every check-in:

• What's going well?
• Where are you struggling?
• What feedback do you have for me?

Then share back what you're observing: what's working, what needs to shift. Give feedback in real time, when it's still relevant and actionable. And when something hasn't gone to plan, lead with curiosity rather than judgment — "I noticed this didn't include the data analysis we discussed. I know you're capable of that level of insight — what got in the way?" No blame. Just an open door.

Tip 3 — The Situation, Behaviour, Impact Framework

Even with clear agreements and regular check-ins, there will be moments when someone isn't meeting expectations. This framework gives you a calm, structured way to address it early — before it becomes a pattern — without coming in too hard or avoiding it altogether.

How to use it:

• Situation — Anchor the conversation in a specific moment. "In yesterday's client call..." or "When the project deadline came up last week..." You're setting the scene, not making it about their character.
• Behaviour — Describe what you observed factually, without interpretation. "You arrived 15 minutes late and the presentation materials weren't ready." Not "you're unreliable" — that's your interpretation, not the facts.
• Impact — Connect the behaviour to a real consequence. "It meant the client had to wait, we lost credibility, and we didn't have time to cover the key points we'd prepared as a team."
• Question — Then open the door. "Help me understand what happened." Or: "What do you think needs to change so this doesn't happen again?"

You're great at leading your team. But who's leading with you?

In this episode, Lyndsey and Bryony challenge one of leadership's biggest blind spots — the belief that you can do it alone. Whether you're a mid-level manager finding your voice or a senior leader carrying more than you should, this one's for you.

They break down exactly how to build a small, high-trust peer squad that advocates for you, accelerates your career, and stops you from burning out trying to hold everything together alone. From running your first peer mastermind session to practising visible advocacy and creating cross-team wins — this is practical, honest, and genuinely different from anything you've heard about networking.

Because you can't pour from an empty cup. And brilliant leaders deserve people in their corner too.

Feeling overwhelmed by competing priorities? Working after bedtime because your strategic work keeps getting pushed to the margins? You’re not alone.

In this episode of Lead the Room, hosts Briony and Lyndsey tackle one of the biggest challenges facing purpose-driven leaders: how to prioritise effectively when everything on your plate feels urgent.

If you’re leading a team turnaround while trying to maintain your human-centered approach in a KPI-focused environment, this episode is for you. Briony and Lyndsey share three practical, research-backed strategies you can implement in 15 minutes or less to shift from reactive firefighting to responsive, strategic leadership.

You’ll learn:

How to use the Impact vs Effort Matrix to identify your high-impact work and eliminate time drains

The crucial difference between being reactive and responsive — and why urgency is a feeling, not a fact

How to implement the Expectations Email: a weekly 10-minute practice that sets boundaries, manages stakeholder expectations, and protects your time for transformational work

Why responding immediately doesn’t demonstrate professionalism — it demonstrates a lack of boundaries

How to make your human-centered, strategic approach visible in environments that prioritise quick wins over sustainable change

This episode is perfect for managers, team leaders, and emerging leaders who are passionate about people-first leadership but struggling with overwhelm, burnout, or the constant pressure to do more with less.

Connection at work gets dismissed as a "soft skill." But here's the truth: human connection is a survival skill. Without it, even the most capable teams burn out during transformation.

⁠Download our 3 habits, 3 weeks, 0 burnout guide here.⁠⁠

In the final episode of our sustainable leadership series, Lyndsey and Briony reveal why burnout isn't caused by hard work - it's caused by feeling alone in that hard work. Learn three connection habits that prevent isolation and build resilient teams:

• The 15-Minute Human Check-In (daily conversations that aren't about tasks)
• The Real Question Practice (specific questions that create real conversations)
• Connection Rituals (weekly team practices purely about connection, not work)

This isn't about forced fun or toxic positivity. It's about intentional practices that help people feel seen, heard, and like they belong - the basic human needs required for high-performing teams.

Perfect for transformation leaders managing distributed teams, navigating burnout risk, or stuck in surface-level status updates when their teams need real support.

Download the free complete 3-part habits workbook covering achievement, joy, and connection.

Complete the series: Listen to Episodes 1 (Achievement) and 2 (Joy) for the full sustainable leadership framework

Think joy at work is a luxury when you're drowning in transformation chaos? Think again. In episode 2 of our sustainable leadership series, Lyndsey and Briony reveal why joy isn't optional - it's the fuel that prevents burnout during long-term change.

⁠Download our 3 habits, 3 weeks, 0 burnout guide here.⁠

Discover why "if it's hard, it should feel miserable" is destroying your team's momentum, and learn three practical joy habits you can implement this week:

• The Joy Audit (15-minute one-time exercise to identify what actually brings you joy)
• Daily Joy Blocks (intentional 15-minute slots for your own enjoyment)
• Bright Spot Team Rituals (weekly wins that shift your team culture)

This isn't toxic positivity. It's intentional, evidence-based practice that reduces burnout and increases performance. Joy doesn't happen by accident - you have to create it.

Perfect for transformation leaders tired of the "just push through" mentality who want to lead change in a way that's both effective and sustainable.

Download the free 3-part habits workbook in the show notes.

Episode 3 coming next week: Connection habits for sustainable transformation leadership

Leading a multi-year transformation? Feeling crushed by the sheer volume of change? You're not alone. In this episode of Lead the Room podcast, Lyndsey and Briony share the first of three essential daily habits that help transformation leaders sustain momentum without burning out.

Download our 3 habits, 3 weeks, 0 burnout guide here.

Discover why "just be more resilient" is terrible advice, and learn three practical, science-backed achievement habits you can implement today:

• The 3 Wins Close Out (4:55pm daily ritual)
• The One Thing Forward technique (morning priority setting)
• The Progress Wall (weekly visual tracker)

These aren't "nice-to-haves" - they're scientifically proven essentials for maintaining the mental and physical stamina needed for long-term change leadership.

Perfect for: Technology transformation leaders, change managers, delivery leads, and anyone responsible for driving complex organizational change over 12-24 months.

Download the free workbook in the show notes to implement all three habits this week.

Next Episode: Joy habits for sustainable transformation leadership

Forget "new year, new you" – this episode is about the reality of coming back to work in January without the energy everyone expects you to have.

Hosts Lyndsey and Bryony get honest about returning from the festive break feeling exhausted rather than refreshed, and why that's completely okay when you're leading transformation. If you're crawling back into the office wondering what your password is, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we share our biggest leadership learnings from 2025 and how we're approaching 2026 differently – with more boundaries, self-compassion, and realistic expectations. Plus, we kick off a new mini-series on building sustainable transformation without burning out.

• Why the "new year, new you" narrative doesn't work for transformation leaders
• How to lead with consistency even when you're feeling isolated or doubted
• The power of setting boundaries and protecting your personal pace
• Why daily habits matter more than January motivation
• How to show yourself compassion as a leader in new roles or situations
• The importance of closing out leadership roles intentionally
• Practical strategies for managing pace and avoiding team burnout

What You'll Learn:

What You'll Learn:

• Why leaders struggle to genuinely switch off during holidays

• How to set up before your break so you can actually disconnect

• The digital detox strategy that removes temptation

• How to return from your break in a sustainable way

• Why role modeling healthy breaks matters for your team culture

Three Key Takeaways:

1. The Pre-Break Handover – About a week before you finish, document: What might come up and how to handle it, what decisions your team can make without you, who's the point person and what authority they have. Share this with your whole team and explicitly tell them you will NOT be checking emails or messages.

2. The Digital Detox Setup – Delete work email and messaging apps from your phone completely. Set a proper out of office that clearly states you're not checking anything and directs people to your point person. Tell your family you've done this so they can hold you accountable. Optionally, set up auto-delete for incoming emails.

3. The Return Ritual – Don't check email the night before you return. Block out your first morning back with no meetings for catch-up time. Scan emails for only urgent/important items. Have a 30-minute check-in with your team. Don't apologize for having been away—thank your team instead. This models healthy boundaries for your whole team.

Resources:

• Download our free "Transform Your Team In 15 Minutes" guide at here.

• Follow us on Instagram: @leadtheroomcoaching

• Email us: [email protected]

How to Set Your Team Up for January Success | Stop the New Year Chaos

Dreading January 2nd when you'll have no idea where to start? You're not alone. The average leader spends the first 3 weeks of January just getting oriented - by which time you're already behind on Q1 goals.

In this episode, Briony and Lyndsey share the 3 counter-cultural strategies that will transform your January. Spend just 3-4 hours in December planning, and come back refreshed, clear, and ready to lead.

Get our 15 minute team transformation guide here.

Get the podsheet here.

You'll learn:✅ The December Download - how to document everything before the break so nothing lives in people's heads✅ The January Energy Map - planning your first 3 weeks based on realistic energy levels (not fantasy productivity)✅ The January Intention Ritual - setting intentions vs resolutions to transform how you show up as a leader

Topics covered: January planning, team leadership, leadership strategies, work energy management, team priorities, leadership intentions, New Year planning for leaders, avoiding January burnout, team alignment strategies

Stop winging it in January. These practical strategies take just hours to implement but transform your entire quarter.