Hey, Friend!

We’ve all been there—sitting in a meeting where the questions feel less like curiosity and more like an interrogation. Even when a leader’s intentions are good, the way questions are asked can leave people defensive, guarded, or even discouraged.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

In this week’s episode of Leadership Becomes Her, I share practical strategies for asking questions that build trust instead of fear. You’ll learn:

✅ Why questions sometimes feel like an inquisition

Whether you lead a team at work, a ministry, or even within your home, the way you ask questions shapes the culture around you.

Let’s commit to asking questions that invite growth—not shut it down.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky

P.S. Forward this email to a fellow leader who could use some encouragement in how they approach conversations!

Hey, Friend,

If you’re a woman in ministry, you already know—friendships can be complicated.

Work friends and church friends are a blessing. They “get it” in ways few others can. But when all your friendships are tied to the same place where you work and worship, life can quickly feel fragile.

That’s what this week’s episode of Leadership Becomes Her is all about:

👉 Work Friends vs. Outside Community: Why Both Matter for Women in Ministry

In the episode, I share:

The benefits and boundaries of friendships within your church

The risks of making work your whole world

The life-giving importance of having community outside your ministry

Practical steps to build friendships that see you—not just your role

You’ll also hear two real-life stories: one where a church friendship fell apart, and another where a friendship thrived because of healthy boundaries.email subject line

Are your friendships too tied to your ministry role?

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friends,

Women need women. Whether it is a daughter leaning on her mom, grandmother, or sister, or neighbors becoming friends, we are hardwired to need each other. Some women have the same friends throughout adulthood; other women continuously seek new friends. And if you work outside of the home, developing work friends is very important to work satisfaction.

But ministry is still largely a man’s world. It is not uncommon for a church to have one female minister on staff. To further complicate matters, it is vital to have relationships outside of your work context. So it often falls on the woman to find or create a community outside of work.

In today’s episode, I talk about the need women have for community outside of their ministry context and what they can do about it.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friend,

We tend to think of leadership as those people who have titles and authority over people who operate under their leadership.

But many people who are leaders, meaning they have significant influence, do not have an official title. In today’s episode, I explore a powerful idea: You don’t need a fancy title to be a leader.

In fact, 70% of influence inside organizations comes from people who aren’t officially in charge. Silent leaders quietly shape their teams and organizations, yet aren’t always recognized for their impact.

Toward the end of today’s episode, I share some ways you can leverage your silent leadership.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky

Hey, Friend!

In today’s episode, I share a little about the story of Barnabas, as recorded in the book of Acts. His nickname, given to him by the Apostles, means Son of Encouragement.

When you look at the Greek word: paraklesis, the meaning goes way beyond what we think of when we think of encourage. This is why Barnabas stood out. His encouragement was bold, visionary, generous, and healing. And your encouragement can be that as well.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky

Hey, Friend,

I probably don’t have to tell you this. Women need women. We need women we can trust, confide in, share our lives with, and bounce ideas off of.

I recently took a survey of women in ministry to find out what they needed and they responded with several answers. But the one answer that every woman gave was this:

I need a community of women in ministry outside of my context.

That’s why I started offering Kairos Cohort. This is a group coaching program whereby we meet 7 times a year via zoom and twice a year in my home (for those in the Dallas-Ft. Worth area). Others meet with us completely on zoom.

In today’s episode, I share with you how it is going.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friend!

Ministers don’t like to talk about ministry as business, but in the U.S. it is in most cases.

If you want church to be just ministry, meet in a home, don’t collect money, and have everyone serve as a volunteer.

The minute you buy or rent space, start paying people and purchase goods, you have become a nonprofit business with all of the benefits and expectations of the IRS that go along with that.

Ministers would do well to fully understand what all of that means so that they can steward their budgets accordingly.

In today’s episode, I give a brief overview as to what church as business means and the gratitude we should feel for those bookkeepers and CPA’s out there who effectively steward the church’s resources.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky

Hey, Friend,

If you have ever been mentored in leadership, or if you have mentored someone else, then you know the value of having someone walking alongside you, answering your questions, showing you how things work at this church that you just started working for.

And, yet, many churches do not provide mentors for their new hires. In today’s episode, I share the benefits of having a mentoring system that will be guaranteed to set up new hires for success.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friend!

Mansplaining is patronizing and condescending. When a man mansplains to a woman he automatically assumes she has no knowledge or experience with the subject. Women can be guilty of this to, although the term womansplaining hasn’t really caught on.

In today’s episode, I share some ways a man can avoid mansplaining, by focusing on being a good listener, being humble in his communication, paying attention to non-verbal cues, and being open to feedback.

If you are guilty of mansplaining or womansplaining, or you have been on the receiving end, this episode is for you.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky

Hey, Friend!

If you have never thought about your fairness as a leader, or if you are convinced that you are fair, then this episode is for you. In it, I suggest a self-assessment that you should do periodically to determine if you are fair or not.

Fairness is more than equitable treatment. As you will hear in the suggested self-assessment questions, you will need to dig deep into various ways you interact with others.

And if you really want to know if you are fair, you will ask some trusted friends, co-workers, or a mentor what they think as well. Then you will get to work celebrating what you do well and working on what needs attention.

I pray this blesses you,

Becky