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Do you find it hard to say no? Do you feel guilty when you disappoint someone, or say yes before you’ve even thought it through? On this episode of the Leading from Wholeness podcast, host Audrey Shelby gets to the heart of people-pleasing. It’s really about a root of rejection.

Audrey shows how rejection shapes how we see ourselves, our relationships, and even God. She talks about why so many Christian women and leaders keep trying to earn love, validation, and belonging they already have in Christ. Then she gives four practical steps to stop people-pleasing and start living from who God says you are.

“Sometimes we just want to be wanted. We want someone to say we’re good enough. I tell you God says you’re more than worthy and more than enough!”

“People-pleasing is like impulse buying. You say yes now because you think it will bring you something. But in the end you regret the purchase, and soon you realize the store doesn’t have a return policy.”

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Have you ever looked at the leader you are today and wondered if real change is possible? In Episode 43 of Leading from Wholeness, I get personal about the leader I used to be: insecure, fearful, and people-pleasing. I also share how God patiently transformed me into someone who leads with strength, compassion, and empathy.

The good news is that God doesn’t rush you, and He doesn’t give up on you. He waits for you. Transformation isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being willing.

“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!”

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”

1. A Willing Heart

2. Honesty Before God, Not Perfection

3. Give Yourself Grace

4. Enjoy the Journey

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Your pain is real, but it doesn’t get the final word on your purpose. In this episode, we explore how unhealed trauma can quietly hijack the calling God placed on your life, and how to move forward in healing so you can walk fully in what He created you to do. Rooted in Psalm 139, Isaiah 61, and the story of Job, this conversation is a reminder that God sees every wound, hates what was done to you, and is faithful to restore what was lost. If you’ve ever felt damaged, disqualified, or stuck in a hard season, this episode is for you.

In This Episode

1. Everyone Has a Calling

2. Don’t Let Your Trauma Become a Stumbling Block

The question to ask yourself: Is what God has for me more important than my pain? You have to make a decision. Come out of agreement with the lie that you are damaged. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

3. Leaders Have a Responsibility to Heal

Three Steps Toward Healing:

Scripture References

Resources Mentioned

Reflection Questions

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Are you worn out from trying to do it all on your own? In this episode of Leading from Wholeness, I share an honest part of my story: I had a vision for my life, and I kept asking God to bless my plans instead of partnering with Him on His. Some of that was pride. Some of it was simply not knowing that God had a plan for me at all. I only knew what I wanted, and I pushed until my body made me stop. But what the enemy meant for evil, God turned for good.

If you're running on empty spiritually and physically, this conversation is for you. We'll talk about where weariness comes from and what it looks like to rest on purpose. We'll also cover how to pursue the peace God promises.

And if you need to hear this today: God is good, His plans for you are good, and He loves you. 

Key Takeaways: 4 Ways to Overcome Weariness

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The battle is coming. It could be a hard diagnosis, a betrayal, a business setback, or a season when everything seems to fall apart at once. The question isn't if the fight will come. It's whether you'll be ready when it does.

In this episode, we walk through Ephesians 6:10–18 and the armor of God. Audrey shows why you should prepare for battle before it arrives. You don't train for the fight in the middle of the fight. Get ready now through daily prayer and time in God's Word, so when the hard day comes, you can stand your ground.

For women who lead in business, ministry, and at home, this episode is a call to stop waiting for a crisis and prioritize your spiritual life. Your strength for tomorrow's battle is built in today's quiet time.

Paul calls believers to be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power, and to put on the full armor of God so they can stand firm when the day of evil comes.

The Armor of God:

1. The battle will come. Scripture doesn't say if the day of evil comes. It says when. Hard seasons are part of life and leadership, and being a believer doesn't exempt you.

2. Preparation happens before the fight. A soldier doesn't learn to use her weapons on the battlefield. If you wait for the crisis to start praying and reading your Bible, you'll be scrambling for armor you never put on.

3. The Word is your weapon. The sword of the Spirit is the only offensive piece of armor. You can't fight back with Scripture you don't know. Reading your Bible daily is how you sharpen your sword.

4. Prayer holds it all together. Paul ends the passage with prayer: in the Spirit, on every occasion, staying alert. Praying without ceasing isn't extra. It's how you stay battle-ready.

5. Stand. The goal isn't to avoid the fight. It's to still be standing when it's over.

For the next seven days, put on your armor before you pick up your phone:

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42.5 million U.S. adults lived with an anxiety disorder in 2025 — and leaders are far from exempt. In this episode of Leading from Wholeness, we explore what it really means to lead from a place of health rather than hustle. Jesus died so we could enjoy the abundant life He promised in John 10:10. So the question is: are you enjoying yours?

Drawing from Ecclesiastes 5:19-20 and Philippians 2:12-13, this episode unpacks why healing and wholeness are a process, not a one-time event — and offers four practical, faith-rooted steps every leader can start applying today.

"When we can truly be content with where we are in life, we can begin to be happy."

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We tell ourselves we've dealt with something — that the therapy session, the training, the self-help book finally closed the loop. Then it shows up again, wearing a different outfit. In this episode, I get honest about a moment when I was running late (again) and realized the real issue wasn't my calendar — it was a pattern of tying my worth to performance and running from what that pressure actually costs me. If you've ever kept yourself so busy there's no margin left for life, this one's for you.

Here's what I uncovered underneath it: I've tied performance to perfection, and perfection to acceptance. And somewhere along the way, "running" became my normal — staying so busy that there's no margin left for actual life.

So come here, my fellow workaholic. We're starting a support group. First question: what are you running from?

Sometimes we think we've dealt with an issue, and then it resurfaces — in a new job, a new relationship, a new season — wearing a slightly different face. Sound familiar? You leave one company because of a conflict, only to find the same conflict waiting for you at the next one.

At some point, wisdom stops looking outward for the cause and starts looking within.

There's no shortage of self-help resources promising to fix our habits — time management systems, organizational hacks, certifications, trainings. And those tools have real value. But if we never shift the mindset underneath the behavior, we won't see lasting change. We'll just get better at managing the symptom.

Shifting a mindset requires awareness and introspection — and Scripture already named this tension long before modern psychology gave it a vocabulary.

"For I do not understand my own actions [I am baffled and bewildered by them]. I do not practice what I want to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate [and yielding to my human nature, my worldliness—my sinful capacity]."

Paul is describing exactly this experience: doing the thing you don't want to do, even after you know better. Awareness alone doesn't change us — but it's the necessary first step toward the introspection that does.

     4. Pray ask God to heal you in this area

"At some point, wisdom starts to look within."

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What happens when the very trait people praise you for — your independence, your resourcefulness, your ability to "figure it out" — is quietly keeping you from a deeper relationship with God? In this episode, Audrey gets honest about a lifelong "I'll figure it out" mindset, and the moment she realized it wasn't strength — it was self-sufficiency standing in for faith. If you've ever prayed about something for years while also trying to fix it yourself, this episode is for you.

"It was totally reliant on me. And when you rely on yourself to make things happen... you eventually get to the point when you hit a ceiling."

Where in your life have you been praying and quietly running the backup plan at the same time? What would it look like to actually tarry instead?

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We've all been there — God puts a calling in front of us, and instead of stepping into it, we start building a case for why we can't. In this episode, we look at Moses in Exodus 3:11–4:11 and the five excuses he gave God during his commissioning. Each excuse sounds reasonable. Each one gets answered. And each answer points to the same truth: it was never about Moses's qualifications — it was about God's presence with him.

If you've been stuck behind an excuse — "I'm not enough," "I don't know enough," "no one will listen to me," "I'm not equipped," "please send someone else" — this episode is for you.

Exodus 3:11–15; Exodus 4:1–11; Acts 17:24

Stop waiting until you feel ready, qualified, or equipped. Take one step today toward the thing you've been making excuses about — and trust that the ability was never supposed to be yours alone to carry.

Leading from Wholeness is a production of Pray Without Ceasing Ministries (PWCM), helping women lead and live from a place of Spiritual, Emotional, Mental, Physical, and Financial wholeness.

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