Leading You

My guest today is Cassandra Goodman, founder of the Centre For Self-Fidelity and the author of two insightful books, including her latest release, "Being True: How to Be Yourself at Work." We’re talking today about being your true self in the workplace, some of the reasons why many people lose their sense of identity and how we can reconnect with our authentic selves. 

 

Cassandra’s mission is truly inspiring. Through coaching, workshops, keynote speaking and her books, she aims to empower busy, big-hearted individuals to rediscover their true selves within the often demanding confines of the workplace.

 

In this conversation, Cassandra shares how, as a child, she attached her self-worth to her achievements rather than her true self, which ultimately caused her to suffer and behave in ways that contradicted her core values. 

 

She explains why people often lose touch with their true nature, trading authenticity for attachment during their formative years. We talk about the fact that these habits and stories need to be challenged so that we can operate out of our authentic nature and not base our identity on external factors. 

 

We also tackle the dilemma of people often feeling compelled to be someone different at work in order to fit in or advance their careers. People are often trapped in this situation due to financial pressures but Cassandra emphasises the importance of evaluating the personal cost and devising a plan to transition to a more compatible workplace.

 

When it comes to self-worth, recognising that we have placed too much emphasis on external factors can be confronting. Shifting from external validation to internal validation requires a leap of faith and Cassandra shares her advice on how to tap into our own energy source through playfulness and self-awareness.

Connect with Cassandra Goodman:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cassandra-goodman/

Website: https://www.self-fidelity.com/

Book: Being True

 

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Today I’m joined by Kathryn Elliott, an inspiring woman who made a bold career change in her forties. Kathryn, who is now one of Australia's leading binge-drinking and alcohol coaches, left her former career in PR and media in 2020 to establish her business, the Alcohol Mindset Coach. In this episode, we delve into Kathryn’s remarkable journey, her motivation for making a career shift, the challenges she faced, and the skills she brought from her previous career to succeed in her new venture.

Kathryn's journey began with a significant moment of self-reflection at the age of 47 when she decided to reassess her relationship with alcohol. She recognised that her drinking habits didn't align with her values, leading her to stop drinking in 2019. However, just six weeks later, she was diagnosed with breast cancer, which further prompted her to question her life's purpose and career choices.

After 25 years in media and PR, Kathryn felt there was more to life than her successful career. She decided to use her personal experience of changing her drinking habits and battling breast cancer as a catalyst for a career change. Kath talks about how this shift led her to become an alcohol coach and her biggest challenge - attracting clients. 

Many women in their forties have a desire to change careers but aren’t sure how they can transfer their knowledge and experience into their new venture. Kath shares how her expertise in communication, writing and media relations, along with a network of contacts, proved beneficial. However, she discovered that her true strength lay in sharing her story personally and vulnerably. This authentic approach allowed her to connect with others, helping them see themselves in her journey and inspiring them to make positive changes in their own lives.

One significant lesson Kathryn learned during her transition was the importance of staying true to herself. She shares her journey of attempting to conform to marketing strategies that didn't align with her values and how she realised the importance of authenticity. For her, the key to success was finding channels that felt genuine and authentic to attract clients and surrounding herself with a supportive network. 

If you are contemplating a career change, I hope this episode inspires you to embrace it with courage and determination. This life stage offers a wealth of experience and wisdom and Kathryn’s story serves as a testament that with the right mindset, support network, and authenticity, anyone can thrive in a new career, regardless of their age. It's never too late to pursue your passions, find your purpose, and make a meaningful impact

 

Connect with Kathryn Elliot:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryn-elliott-630ab532/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealcoholmindsetcoach/

Website: https://www.thealcoholmindsetcoach.com/

 

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Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

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In today's episode, I dive deep into what it truly means to be courageous. Courage isn't just about the grand acts we associate with heroes but the quiet, persistent strength that manifests every day. 

I’ll share a chapter of my corporate journey, where my ambition to climb to a leadership position was met with laughter and skepticism. Other people couldn't see me as a leader because of the persona I portrayed.

One of the boldest things you can do is confront your reflection, especially when you don't like what you see. It was difficult to change my persona into a potential leader but I knew that embracing and exhibiting the qualities of my aspiration was key. I’ll also share how I found the courage to stand firm in my choice, despite not everyone being pleased with my changes. 

Courage comes in various forms. Whether it's the determination to change perceptions, the tenacity to keep moving forward despite setbacks, or the ability to genuinely confront oneself, each one of us possesses a unique brand of courage.

I hope this episode can be a call to action, and encourage you to recognize your inner strength and become a leader in your own life.

Listen in for an uplifting boost of inspiration, and remember, the path to courage starts with the person staring back at you in the mirror.

 

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I’m thrilled to be sharing a conversation about something a little different today as I chat with celebrity journalist and author, Lucy Broadbent, about her latest book, What Would Ted Lasso Do?: How Ted's Positive Approach Can Help You. 

 

If you haven’t seen this hugely popular television series yet, I highly recommend that you do. Ted Lasso offers so many profound leadership lessons for life and business. Today Lucy and I delve into how Ted’s unique leadership style can guide us all towards a better, kinder, and more effective way of leading ourselves and others.

 

In this episode, Lucy shares her inspiration behind writing this book and some of her discoveries after digging deeper into the positive psychology embedded in the show. We talk about one of her key takeaways, which is that our reactions to life's challenges can significantly impact our well-being.

 

A crucial aspect of Ted Lasso's character is his imperfection. He is not a flawless leader, and this is what makes him relatable and authentic. Lucy highlights that the key to Ted's leadership is his vulnerability, and by sharing his flaws and being honest about them, Ted fosters trust among his team members, which is a crucial element in effective leadership.

 

Lucy talks about one of her favourite lessons from Ted Lasso's playbook - kindness. This overarching message has a profound impact on both the characters in the show and its viewers. It serves as a reminder that being kind to oneself and others can create a positive ripple effect in our lives.

 

We also talk about Lucy’s upcoming book, "How to Be a Lioness, Not a Panda", which explores the dynamic between the strong female characters in Ted Lasso and how their mentorship and friendship reflect the importance of women supporting each other in the face of challenges. This book promises to be a refreshing take on leadership and feminism, showcasing how women can lead and empower one another.

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Connect with Lucy Broadbent:

Website: https://www.lucybroadbent.net/

Book: What Would Ted Lasso Do?: How Ted's Positive Approach Can Help You

 

Connect with Julie:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/

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Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

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In today’s episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Ella Zhang, who is a renowned change maker and executive coach. Ella has recently released her book Upgrade: How to Outperform Your Defaults and Gain Your Superpowers and in our conversation, Ella shares her insights on the concept of outperforming your default self in order to tap into your true potential. 

In her work with organisations and individuals, Ella identifies self care as a critical aspect of personal and professional development, which includes understanding one's patterns of thinking, behaving and acting. While many corporate leaders today would equate self care with physical health, Ella emphasises the importance of going beyond that and tuning in to our inner selves. 

When it comes to facing a challenging situation, Ella encourages us to step back and ask ourselves questions to evaluate how we’re navigating it, such as: How is my body responding? How am I speaking to myself? What am I giving my attention to in this situation? 

To help us begin our journey towards becoming stronger and more capable leaders, Ella shares three practical ways we can come back to the body and create the vital self-awareness that leads to positive change:

1. Pay Attention to Your Thoughts: There can be a million different thoughts racing through our minds as we lead others, particularly when we’re faced with a challenging moment. Learning how to capture your thoughts and observe your thinking patterns can give you an understanding as to how you react, and in turn make decisions. Ella gives us some practical strategies on how to sit with our own thoughts and come to a better understanding of where and how we need to change.  
2. Become Aware of Physical Sensations: In the workplace, where intellect and technical know-how is hailed as king, emotions are generally viewed as roadblocks and often suppressed. This can lead to a disconnect between leaders and their team. Ella encourages leaders to notice how their body reacts during strong emotional moments, which can help in regulating emotions, improving emotional intelligence and building stronger relationships with their staff. 
3. Focus on Breathing: Ella emphasises the significance of breathing and its impact on stress and relaxation. Leaders often thrive in high-stress environments, but they need to balance stress with recovery. Controlled breathing techniques, like deep and rhythmic breathing, can help leaders manage stress effectively.

Ella’s wisdom on the mind-body connection and its benefits is truly eye-opening, and I know you’ll gain so much valuable insight on better understanding yourself as a leader, and in turn those you lead.

Enjoy!

 

LINKS

 

Connect with Ella:

Book: Upgrade: How to Outperform Your Default Self to Gain Your Super Powers

LinkedIn: Ella Zhang

 

Connect with Julie:

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Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

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Many people today are grappling with the feeling of overwhelm and if you're one of them, you're not alone. Overwhelm can manifest in various forms, but it's vital to recognise that you have the power to change it. The key is understanding your priorities and that’s exactly what I’m diving into today.

In this solo episode, I share how understanding your priorities will help reduce your overwhelm and shed some of the weight you’ve been carrying, whether it be from obligations, people-pleasing tendencies, or habitual actions. 

Identifying your true priorities is the first step to setting boundaries and living a life aligned with your values. Today I guide you through a practical exercise to help you step back and reevaluate what’s important to you so you can create a life that you love, not just one that you tolerate.

• Limit Your Priorities: If you have more than three priorities, they're not priorities. Take time to identify what truly matters to you.
• Assess Your Current Juggle: List all the balls you're juggling, categorise them into priorities, important tasks, and those you'd like to drop.
• Set Boundaries: Make your life work for you by aligning it with your priorities. This may mean temporarily letting some balls bounce while you focus on others.
• Continual Evaluation: Reassess your priorities as life evolves and new responsibilities arise. Be willing to make bold, courageous decisions to ensure you're living the life you want to live.

Living a life you love is entirely within your reach, but it requires conscious decision-making. Recognise that you don't need to juggle all the balls in your life simultaneously. Prioritise what truly matters, set boundaries, and be willing to adapt as circumstances change. By following these principles, you can escape overwhelm, avoid burnout, and create a life that aligns with your values and aspirations. 

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I'm honoured to introduce Peter Baines (OAM), global speaker, author, board director, business consultant and founder of an incredible charity, Hands Across the Water. With an extraordinary background in both elite forensic services and international disaster relief efforts, Peter's journey has been nothing short of remarkable. In this episode, we explore his recently released book, "Leadership Matters," which encapsulates the essence of authentic leadership gleaned from the heart of crisis and resilience. 

 

As we explore resilience, Peter's insights provide a profound understanding of how leaders can cultivate it in the face of unthinkable challenges. He stresses the power of swift decision-making and the courage to seize opportunities, even in uncertain times. The impact of a leader’s presence cannot be underestimated and Peter expresses how honesty, integrity and the courage to make decisions are attributes that leaders require now and moving into the future. He underscores that leadership's core lies in forging genuine connections, fostering open communication, and wholeheartedly committing to making a positive impact.

 

Leadership Matters beautifully exemplifies the core principles of resilience. He emphasises the significance of embracing risk rather than avoiding it, as challenges are often gateways to growth. He laments the modern tendency to shield individuals from risk, which ultimately hinders their ability to tackle challenges when they arise. Peter also shares an inspiring story about a woman he works with in Thailand who demonstrated extraordinary resilience working with HIV children for 24 years. Peter reflects that her tenacity to keep going under incredibly challenging circumstances was because she didn’t let today be defined by yesterday. 

 

Through Peter’s insights, we discover that leadership isn't confined to theories—it's a living, breathing force born from the crucible of real-life challenges. His journey paints a vivid picture of leadership's evolution, from confronting the unimaginable to nurturing resilience and embracing risks. Peter's stories of courage, hope, and unwavering dedication remind us that leadership truly does matter—it shapes not only our lives but also the lives of those we touch.

LINKS

Connect with Peter Baines

 

Website: https://peterbaines.com.au/

Book: Leadership Matters

Charity: https://www.handsacrossthewater.org.au/

 

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Today I’m joined by Shivani Gopal, the founder and CEO of Elladex, to talk about the importance of inclusion in the workplace. Shivani has won the 2022 New South Wales Excellence in Women's Leadership Award and the Top 50 Small Business Leaders Award. She's recognised as a leading feminist and business thought leader, helping women navigate through their careers, businesses, and financial success.

In our conversation, Shivani talks about the invisible barriers that prevent people from diverse backgrounds from reaching their full potential. She notes that organisations must prioritise inclusion and create a psychologically safe environment where people can speak up, take risks, and innovate.

We discuss the differences between diversity and inclusion, how they are often confused with each other, and why it is important for businesses to have both. Shivani emphasises that diversity and inclusion must go hand-in-hand for organisations to benefit from a diverse workforce. She explains that inclusion is the mechanism that ensures diverse voices are heard and respected, and it is the key to unlocking the potential of diversity.

Shivani also talks about the importance of visibility and representation in leadership roles. She believes that seeing diverse leaders in visible positions creates a greater sense of belonging and permission for others to strive for leadership roles. Shivani asserts that diversity happens from the bottom up, but inclusion must come from the top down, as people in positions of power and authority are crucial to removing barriers to inclusion.

Shivani shares a personal story where she questioned a board member about the company's commitment to inclusion and diversity at the executive and board levels. She highlights the importance of asking these questions respectfully and with a solution-oriented approach.

I absolutely loved talking to Shivani. She is such a passionate advocate for the power of inclusion and works tirelessly to help people succeed in their lives, careers, and finances.

There’s so much wisdom in this episode that I know you’ll love, so sit back, relax, and enjoy! 

 

LINKS

Connect with Shivani Gopal

Elladex:  https://elladex.com/

Get the Elladex App: https://elladex.com/get-the-app-0?hsCtaTracking=24de9d61-bce0-4634-9442-77aad9f950f4%7Ca885e408-b2bb-4f51-9ac6-c0df018cdc7d

Instagram:  @shivani_gopal

 

Connect with Julie:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/

Instagram: @juliehydeleads

Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

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Birthdays have taken on a whole new meaning for me in recent years. I used to dread the numbers creeping up, but then cancer came along and changed everything. Now, I'm all about gratitude and cherishing each birthday that comes my way. Facing life-threatening challenges has a way of reshaping your outlook, trust me. It's not just about surviving; it's about living with intention and appreciating every moment.

To celebrate life on my birthday this year, I’m sharing this solo episode as an update on how things have been going and a reminder that you can’t always choose what life throws at you but you can choose how you respond. 

I share some good news on the health front and how I’ve been tracking throughout my melanoma journey. It has certainly been a time of learning and growth for me and I’m excited to share that I'm working on my second book! It’s been both a challenging and thrilling experience and one that I’m very grateful for. 

Learning is a lifelong journey, and I'm soaking up knowledge from my work, my life challenges, and the incredible people I meet. I also share how this journey has brought me closer to my loved ones and taught me to truly appreciate each day. 

I’m a huge believer in the fact that we have the power to choose how we respond to challenges. Life's obstacles don't define us; our response does. I'm on my 54th birthday now, and I can tell you, I've faced my fair share of challenges but each time, I've emerged stronger and wiser.

I hope this episode gives you a fresh dose of inspiration, perspective, and a reminder to cherish every moment. Life is fleeting, and changes can happen in an instant. So, let's celebrate life together and make the most of each day. 

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Joining me on the podcast today is the incredible Lissy Abrahams, a relationship therapist with a treasure trove of experience. Lissy's work has touched numerous lives, and in our conversation, we delved into the core of relationship dynamics, how they change over time, and the resources available for couples seeking assistance.

The beginning of our conversation focused on how couples view each other. People often look at their partner as someone they're assessing for compatibility, pondering future life together, including potential children. The irony is, as Lissy points out, we often can't predict who our partners will become or who we will become in the relationship. The true essence of a relationship goes beyond the wedding day and the initial impressions.

For couples feeling lost in their relationship, Lissy offers a range of resources, from her book Relationship Reset to more detailed courses designed to dive deeper into understanding one's own mind. She emphasised the shortage of couples therapists available and the importance of resources like these to alleviate the increasing demand. 

We also touch on what it is like to experience these stories from the perspective of the therapist. Lissy candidly shares how she manages the influx of dramatic stories, pain, and conflict she encounters. Her grounding techniques, like spending time in the park and abstaining from news that can "jangle" our nerves, play a crucial role in her self-preservation.

One of the highlights of the conversation was Lissy's emphasis on understanding our mammalian system. We often live lives disconnected from our natural selves, filled with distress and : detatchment. She urges people to do the work needed to enjoy and be in harmony with our inherent nature, creating a ripple effect that benefits everyone around us.

This episode serves as a testament to the profound impact of understanding relationship dynamics and ensuring we align with our true selves. If you've ever felt adrift in your relationship or need strategies to ground yourself amidst life's chaos, Lissy Abrahams is a voice worth listening to.

LINKS

Connect with Lissy Abrahams

Website:  https://www.lissyabrahams.com/

Instagram:  @lissy.abrahams

Her Book: https://www.panmacmillan.com.au/9781760989781/relationship-reset/

 

Connect with Julie:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/

Instagram: @juliehydeleads

Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

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