When you bring the heterosexual male and female perspectives together, of course you have to talk about gender roles. We navigate through some of the stereotypical stuff that society tells us we should do as men and women. We get a little messy in this one. Take a listen as we talk through:
-Women shooting their shot
-Old school, traditional courting
-Relationship dynamics based on how the relationship starts
-The fine line between being persistent, being a creep, and being a stalker
-Does the breadwinner have the right to make all the decisions?
-Ladies, always keep a separate account!!!
-Is it okay to be selfish in relationships and how selfish should you be?
-Whether or not someone’s personality can make them cute
-*dramatic pause*...The male ego

In this episode we take a step back. In order to get to that Dating 101 phase, you have to actually meet someone, right? Dey Dey schools Diara on online dating and blows her mind. Listen to this if you want to hear an online dating expert ;) But in addition to online dating, we’re talking about:
-Whether or not it’s harder to meet people organically the older we get
-The pros and cons of dating apps. Are people really cappin’ on these apps?
-Which dating apps are the best and what’s the difference between them
-Women getting away with being corny lol
-Have dating apps affected the intentionality of dating?
-Letting go of social concepts and stop focusing on how things “should” be based on society
-How our generation is focused on being detached and independent, and how this affects relationships
-Know how to argue respectfully
-Picking up on the energy people give off

We continue our Dating 101 series this week and talk more about navigating the beginning stages of dating. You know how things are all awkward in the beginning and there’s so much pressure? Yeah, we talk about that. We dive right into:

-How people remember your first impression
-Have fun! But talk about important stuff too
-What should a first date look like now?
-Is the honeymoon phase still a thing as we get older?
-Hanging out with your partner’s friends
-How soon should you meet your partner’s friends, family, parents, etc.
-Is there a such thing as sleeping with someone too soon?
-Overlooking red flags because of sex and lust...p*ssy has some power!
-Who’s the prize? High value vs. high value woman
-Asking about someone’s financial situation. Beware of scammers!

In episode 2, we start with the basics, Dating 101. We talk more about what exactly dating is, talking, situationships, etc. Everything’s so complicated these days, right? These are just our opinions, so we don’t have the right answers either. But, in this episode, we navigate through:

-The difference between dating, talking, etc. Is dating intentional and a situationship is something you just fall into?
-Dating exclusively...whatever that is
-Dating and sex with multiple people
-Does sex make or break relationships?
-How to STOP WASTING PEOPLE’S TIME!
-The value in marriage, especially as young Black people
-Learning from past mistakes
-Setting intentions and sticking to those intentions
-Can you even see yourself marrying the people you’re dating?
-How social media has affected our views on dating
-Is romance still a thing???

In our very first episode, we give a little intro and talk about how we came up with the concept of the podcast. Dey Dey thought he was going to play moderator but Diara let him know this is not “The Diara Show.” Everybody has to air a little dirt here. We jump right into Dating 101 and talk about:
-How you know immediately when you like someone and when you don’t
-Deal breakers and red flags
-Basic requirements like good communication, compromise, reciprocity, and respect
-Are we stuck in our ways at this old young age?
-Vulnerability and emotional availability
-Lack of commitment and what “being together” looks like in this weird ass world
-Sticking to your guns
-What women and men do to show we like someone, taking it back to grade school y’all
-Stop worrying about if people like you, focus on whether or not you like them