What's going on everyone? It is the afternoon of Tuesday, November 5th. I hope everyone is having a great day. Something I was as thinking about today, and I also realized I think about somewhat often. It's interesting because I'll think about what I want to talk or write about on this podcast, then through the day something will naturally pop into my head, and I'll notice it more. Then I'll think oh yeah this is something that comes up quite a bit, why not talk about it.
When we express an opinion or emphasize our point of view in certain instances, it's important not to become too emotionally attached to being right. And to acknowledge it's possible, we may change our stance on it at some point, or we may be flat out wrong. It's important because it will change our tone and how we express our thoughts on the matter, and how we will respond in the instance that we are wrong.
And, it's not a likable quality to act like we're going to be right all the time, especially when it's something you obviously obviously might possibly have wrong.
If we tie our ego and emotional state to being right, it's going to be harder and more painful, or almost impossible, to admit we were wrong, and we'll look rather stupid if we were over-bearing about the point in the first place. If we understand from the beginning that being wrong was a possibility, it's a lot easier to say hey you know what I misjudged this one. I was wrong. I am going to learn from it. I'm glad I was able to see this and get it better the next time.
If I find I'm wrong about something, I'll try to immediately acknowledge it and say that I was wrong, and it automatically feels good to state the truth. And if we're honest and humble, people will see this, and it's excellent quality.
Also, sometimes out of immaturity, or insecurity, or other reasons, people will want to embellish in the fact that we were wrong. Maybe like an I told you so type attitude, or wants to act like the smartest person in the room. Initially, this can rub us the wrong way by the natural reaction. If we instantly and calmly admit to our mistaken thinking and embrace it, it diminishes their ability to do this.
It suffocates their chance to embellish in this by saying yes, I was wrong, and I'm glad I was able to learn so that we can move forward. I'll be better the next time.
In a sense, it's getting out of our way, by recognizing our ego may be slightly bruised, but it's much better than being the person that can't admit they were wrong. Plus, it's an effective way to move on. Especially if it's a business involved thing, we want to be able to acknowledge the situation as fast as possible and move on with whatever the reality is. So the most sophisticated look for the ways they may be wrong so they can correct their thinking as soon as possible. There is not much emotion in it.
Of course, there are things we can take a stance on and not waiver, such as blatant moral or ethical issues, but for the situations where there is potential to be wrong. For instance, projections in the market we're working in, what people will want to buy, how much inventory should we have on hand, what our strategy should be in certain divisions of the business. Tying ourselves to a stance and then not letting ourselves have an out due to the emotional response or damaged ego is not the way to go.
If we leave some flexibility, then we'll be able to say, oh yeah, I thought this, but I was wrong.
People see that you're able to recognize you were wrong, and they will appreciate that and be more likely to want to continue to have a dialogue with you. And again, from a business standpoint, leaders will want to see and work with people that are willing to do whatever is best for the mission and accept the reality even if it means acknowledging we were wrong.
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