My friend says I do vulnerability very well, but honestly, I only do it once I’ve survived the storm. In the moment, I still disappear and try to fix myself alone. As I get older, I’m realising that the isolation feels like double punishment.

As a result, I’m learning to let my people in even when I don’t feel like my best self, trusting that I’m not a burden and that they don’t only love me when I’m rainbows and sunshine. If, like me, you’re always the strong friend, sister, daughter or partner, this episode is for you. I hope you’ll start to allow others to hold when you hurt.