When I met Joseph San Nicolas a few weeks ago, I was immediately struck by the depth of his presence. Joseph has a remarkable story of self-discovery—one that invites us to reflect deeply on the narratives we create about ourselves and the courage it takes to rewrite them.

From his humble beginnings in Guam, Joseph overcame great odds, navigating a difficult childhood and a pervasive sense of purposelessness. Through perseverance, he managed to retire in his 30s and now lives in Southern California with his beautiful family.

But what truly stands out about Joseph is his from the ashes story. Emerging from a lifelong struggle with self-hatred, Joseph had to unlearn everything he thought he knew, including his faith, in order to rebuild a life defined by freedom, choice, and self-love. In this episode, he shares his raw and honest journey of healing, how he redefined his identity, and why he believes in the power of showing up—even when you're not fully prepared.

Content Advisory: This episode dives into heavy topics like suicide ideation and self-harm and is an honest, explicit, and raw exploration of what it means to rebuild your life from the ground up.

Born and raised on the island of Guam, Joseph San Nicolas spent much of his early life grappling with feelings of purposelessness and self-hatred. He devoted himself to religion, believing it would ease the darkness within, but eventually found himself at a powerful crossroads: questioning everything he thought he knew, including his faith.

Today, Joseph resides in Southern California with his wife and kids. He lives by a simple yet powerful philosophy: life is about the experiences you choose to create. He believes in showing up, ready to take on what comes, and shaping a life defined by freedom and intention.

Valerie Hwang Beck is a holistic wellness coach, personal growth mentor, and board-certified Ayurvedic Practitioner. As the founder of Intrepid Wellness and creator of the year-long mentorship program Club Phoenix, Valerie specializes in guiding individuals through life’s challenges, empowering them to emerge stronger, more resilient, and purpose-driven. Through From the Ashes, Valerie shares dynamic conversations that ignite hope, healing, and transformation.

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