Embark with us on a journey that challenges the very core of belief and identity, as Lynn Smith Gregory, a direct descendant of Joseph Smith, shares her profound transition from the Mormon Church to atheism. Our conversation reveals Lynn's confrontation with historical facts and the deep-seated questions that arose from her encounter with an atheist professor, shaking her lifelong beliefs to the core. It's not often we delve into such intimate revelations of faith and its unraveling; Lynn's forthcoming memoir, "We Were Smiths: Escaping the Shadow of Joseph Smith's Mormon Legacy," promises even deeper insights into her transformative experience.

The path of self-discovery and rebuilding one's life outside the familiar structures of religious communities can be tumultuous, marked by exclusion and the intense redefining of one’s identity. Our guests candidly discuss their personal stories, highlighting the critical role of therapeutic support and the courage it takes to forge new connections beyond the church's boundaries. As they share, we're reminded of the complexities that arise when leaving a faith, from the impact on family dynamics to the inner conflict one must navigate. The resilience and growth that emerge from such profound change are both inspiring and instructive for anyone on a similar journey.

In our final exploration, Lynn brings us into her world of navigating spiritual identity post-faith, demonstrating that life can be richer and more authentic when embracing the uncertainty of life's mysteries. From redefining family relationships to discovering a spirituality unbound by dogmatic beliefs, this episode is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the power of intentional living. For those who've walked this path, or for the curious minds seeking to understand the resilience it requires, Lynn's story serves as a beacon of hope in the quest for personal truth and fulfillment.

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When the chains of a toxic faith fall away, what truths emerge from the shadows? This is the question at the heart of our latest episode, featuring the courageous and insightful Janai Oman. Her odyssey from a church staff member to a staunch advocate for a faith that heals and liberates is a testament to the strength of the human spirit. Together, we navigate the treacherous waters of spiritual abuse and gender discrimination she faced within the church, shining a light on the often unseen disparity between public teaching and private practice. Janai's resolve to speak truth to power, despite personal cost, offers a powerful narrative about the intricate dynamics of church leadership and the profound emotional journey of leaving one's faith community.

The path to loving oneself can be as intricate and fraught as untangling a knotted necklace, a metaphor we explore in depth through personal stories of healing and self-discovery. Janai and I dissect the pervasive issue of 'othering'—be it within the Filipino-American community or a church setting—and its profound impact on one's sense of belonging and identity. As we peel back the layers of her story, Janai's experience forcefully reminds us of the high price of authenticity, and yet, her transformation into a writer provides a beacon for those seeking liberation from the shackles of oppressive environments.

Concluding our deep and heartfelt discussions, we share how retreat and spiritual renewal are not signs of weakness but acts of profound self-care. Janai's journey is not just about the struggle; it's about the reclamation of joy, love, and personal faith, outside the rigid expectations of religious conformity. Her story, interwoven with wisdom and a call for compassionate belief systems, serves as a guide for anyone grappling with their place within a potentially toxic church environment. Join us as we celebrate the resilience and transformative power of embracing one's truth and the quiet strength found in moments of retreat.

You can follow Janai's journey on Instagram @janaiauman or at Janaiauman.com

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Discovering community can be an unexpected journey—one that leads us far from the steepled silhouettes of our familiar churches. I found myself enveloped by the 'ohana' spirit in Maui, where traditions are reshaped, and bonds are forged on the foundation of shared values, not just shared pews. In this heartfelt episode, I peel back the layers of my life to show you the vibrant tapestry of connection that exists beyond the church doors. Through tales of our Taco Tuesday tribe and non-church Easter festivities, I celebrate the myriad ways in which community reveals itself, offering a haven for anyone seeking solace or celebration amidst life's tumultuous tides.

When the world seemed to crumble under the weight of a pandemic, the true essence of community shone like a lighthouse through my fog of long COVID and personal loss. This episode isn't just a recounting of personal trials, but a beacon of hope, demonstrating the incredible strength found in the arms of those around us. I share stories of unwavering support, from friends rallying during times of grief to neighbors banding together in the face of local emergencies. Join me in honoring the resilience and warmth of human connection that persists, even when the church bells fall silent. Let's cherish the shared stories that remind us, we're never truly alone.

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Marla's courageous tale of departing from the church and deconstructing her faith is a beacon for anyone navigating the murky waters of spiritual uncertainty. Her voice resonates with raw authenticity as she peels back the layers of dogma to reveal the systemic issues that plague organized religion. Through her eyes, we witness the personal cost of challenging the status quo, and we're invited to explore the intersection of faith and politics against the backdrop of Sarah McCammon's insights on "Exvangelicals." Marla's story is not just hers alone; it echoes the experiences of many who grapple with poverty, racial justice, and LGBTQ+ acceptance within the confines of their spiritual communities.

Our episode transcends Marla's personal journey, tapping into the collective pulse of a society wrestling with its own identity. I share anecdotes about bridging political divides, confronting the motives behind missionary work, and the sobering reality of Christian nationalism. This narrative invites you to consider the profound shifts within American religion and politics, as we uncover the implications these changes have on our personal relationships and societal constructs. Our discourse challenges the listener to question long-held beliefs, and recognizes the potential for growth and understanding when we step beyond the familiar.

Finally, we turn to the alchemy of transformation, where pain and struggle are the catalysts for growth and the search for authenticity in spiritual exploration. Marla's experiences are mirrored in the powerful verses of her poetry trilogy, offering solace and inspiration to those on a similar path. Our conversation extends an open hand to anyone yearning to reclaim their identity, to those healing from shame, and to all who dare to embrace the full spectrum of human diversity. Join us as we celebrate the journey of shedding old skins, standing in our truth, and fostering a world where every voice has the freedom to sing its unique song.

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Sometimes, the key to unlocking true happiness and well-being is as simple as recalling the unbridled joy of childhood play. On my latest podcast adventure, I reveal the magic that unfolded over my personal 90 Days of Play project, where I embraced my inner child with everything from dancing in my living room to building forts with my neighbor's daughter, Naya. This journey wasn't just about rediscovering fun; it became a structured pathway to emotional healing and a powerful testament to the ways spontaneous 'joy breaks' can enrich our lives. 

As we navigate the waves of adulthood, the concept of play often slips away, buried under the weight of responsibilities. Yet, this episode is a heartfelt invitation to push back against the hustle, to lean into the laughter, and to prioritize joy in its purest form. I intertwine insights from the podcast 'We Can Do Hard Things,' along with compelling medical research on stress reduction, to paint a vivid picture of how integrating play into our daily lives can do wonders for our mental and physical health. It's an exploration of how these moments of whimsy can elevate our spirits and productivity in ways we never anticipated.

By the end of this episode, you'll feel inspired to carve out pockets of play in your own schedule. I extend an open call to join me in the "90 Days of Play Challenge," hoping to spark a ripple effect of joy and laughter across our communities. With weekly play ideas shared on my website and Instagram, I aim to connect us all in a collective celebration of life's simplest pleasures. So, whether you're rolling down hills or skipping down the street, let's transform our collective vibration, one playful moment at a time. Join me, and let's rediscover the profound joy that comes from playing without reservations.

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Have you ever felt the ground shift beneath your feet as your beliefs and the world you knew began to unravel? Liz Coolidge Jenkins, a powerhouse of thought on faith and feminism, joins us to recount her extraordinary evolution from conservative evangelicalism to a champion of LGBTQ affirming theology. Her book "Nice Churchy Patriarchy: Reclaiming Women's Humanity from Evangelicalism," serves as a backdrop for our rich dialogue on the profound moments that redefine one's understanding of gender roles and spiritual inclusivity. Together, we peel back the layers of traditional interpretations that have long confined women's roles in the church, urging a return to the equity exemplified by Jesus himself.

Navigating the murky waters of gender inequality in church leadership, this episode casts a revealing light on the plight of women within 'soft complementarian' communities. Liz's experiences expose the gaps between responsibility and authority, and the consequent struggles of women leaders who are often seen but not heard. We question the restrictive readings of Paul's letters and entertain the possibility of a church where women's voices are amplified, and their leadership is both welcomed and respected. It's a moving testament to the pursuit of a faith practice that honors every member's contribution, irrespective of gender.

Finally, we venture into the progressive church landscape, seeking sanctuaries that resonate with our deepest values, especially in the realm of LGBTQ affirmation. Liz underscores the significance of fostering spaces that permit independent belief formation, free from the heavy hand of indoctrination. We touch upon the wisdom gleaned from "Braiding Sweetgrass" by Robin Wall Kimmerer and contemplate how embracing diverse perspectives and lessons from nature can lead to a more holistic and equitable spiritual journey. It's a call to explore the intersection of faith, nature, and diversity, and to embrace the beauty of a truly inclusive religious experience.

You can find Liz on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/lizcoolj and https://www.instagram.com/postevangelicalprayers

You can find more about Liz and her book Nice Churchy Patriarchy at https://www.lizcooledgejenkins.com

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Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads between the identity you were raised to believe in and the one that resonates with who you truly are? Mike Maeshiro knows that tension all too well, and in our latest episode, he invites us into his courageous journey of self-discovery and the reclamation of his faith. As a guiding light for the LGBTQ+ community and those healing from the wounds of religious toxicity, Mike's story is not just one of struggle, but of profound liberation and authenticity.

Navigating the waters of evangelical beliefs while embracing one's true self can be treacherous, but Mike has charted that course with grace. We discuss the emotional upheaval of leaving behind a community that feels like home, the complexity of family dynamics when worldviews clash, and the ultimate quest for self-acceptance. Mike's candid reflections offer solace and understanding for anyone facing the isolation that often accompanies such a transformative journey.

Our conversation culminates with a reminder that even in the face of loss, there's a community and a spiritual home for everyone. Mike shares his experiences with Grace Point Church in Nashville, where inclusivity isn't just preached—it's practiced. His role in fostering a safe space for all, especially within the online campus, echoes a powerful call to action for embracing one's identity with pride. Tune in and be inspired by the resilience and hope that shine through Mike’s story—a beacon for anyone seeking to align their truth with their life.

Find Mike and His work at www.mikemaeshiro.com
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Dr. Christena Cleveland, a beacon of insight in the realms of social psychology, theology, and activism joins us in this episode. Our heartfelt conversation traverses the complex intersections of faith, gender, and justice, unraveling the tapestry of institutional Christianity and the exclusive 'white Jesus' narrative. Dr. Cleveland shares her raw experiences of alienation and sexism within the church and lays bare the systemic issues that have been magnified by movements like #MeToo and #ChurchToo. As we dissect the rise of Trump and the exposure of racism in Christian America, this episode is a testament to the urgency of Dr. Cleveland's mission to dismantle oppressive structures.

Have you ever felt the magnetic pull of liminal spaces, those thresholds where the known gives way to the unknown? In this episode, I recount my spiritual evolution, the courage it took to step away from the evangelical church, and how embracing the enigmatic Black Madonna led to a profound reimagining of the sacred within Black womanhood. As I deconstruct the 'white male God' image that pervades our society, I invite you to join me in reflecting on how this symbol upholds systemic inequalities and shapes our perceptions. The journey toward embracing the vibrant cultural lessons and leadership narratives that Black women offer is both a path of self-affirmation and a celebration of inherent sacredness.

Together with Dr. Cleveland, we delve into the power of confronting shame and the liberating journey towards self-healing and growth. We explore the nuances of identity, privilege, and the resilience embedded in cultural practices, spotlighting the audacious spirit of Black women. Through anecdotes and personal revelations, this conversation illuminates the importance of continually seeking out spaces that affirm our worth and the North Star that guides us toward sacredness and liberation. As you listen, may you find connection, inspiration, and encouragement on your own path of discovery and transformation.

Books and Resources mentioned in this episode are:
www.christenacleveland.com
www.theblacktransprayerbook.org

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Remember that art project you worked so hard on, only to deem it unworthy and hide it away? I too have felt the crushing weight of perfectionism, especially within the realm of faith. Our latest episode tackles this silent struggle, opening with a story from my high school days—a sculpture, a symbol of the perfection we often chase, and its unexpected demise.

Journey with me as we question the notion of flawlessness that's deeply embedded in religious teachings. We bring to light the often misconstrued interpretation of being "like Jesus," suggesting that perhaps his message was not about achieving perfection but about embodying love and acceptance. As we peel away the layers of societal and religious expectations, we discover the transformative power of self-compassion. This candid exploration isn't just about faith; it extends to our everyday lives, challenging us to embrace our imperfections and find beauty in our authentic selves.

We close our heartfelt conversation by daring to question the traditional religious beliefs that may have confined us. Through my personal reflections, we ponder a God of love and acceptance, rather than a divine judge marking our every flaw. This episode is an open invitation to listeners to break free from the chains of perfectionism, and instead, create a life filled with freedom, growth, and genuine love. Whether you're questioning your faith or simply seeking a more compassionate way of living, you'll find an ally in this discussion, as we support one another in our shared journey toward understanding and acceptance.

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When I sat down with environmental activist Derek Jensen, it felt like we were perched on the precipice of a new understanding, one that bridges the gap between the spiritual and the ecological. This episode takes you through Derek's personal metamorphosis from a faithful Seventh Day Adventist to a tenacious defender of our Earth. Our conversation is a journey through the landscapes of conviction and contradiction, exploring how the values of community and a deep moral compass can coexist with legalism and hypocrisy within religious structures. We peel back the layers of how these experiences have shaped his environmental advocacy, recognizing the sacredness in all forms of life.

As we meander through the ideological wilds, Derek and I confront the historical shift in perspectives toward our planet—from a living, breathing entity to a mere exploitable resource. This shift is profound, touching on the dichotomy of religion's role in both fostering a moral framework and yet often contributing to environmental degradation. We unpack the stories of how indigenous cultures embody a symbiotic relationship with nature, a stark contrast to the narratives that have driven modern society's detachment. It's a call to reforge a connection to the earth, one that respects its agency and intrinsic value.

The crescendo of our dialogue bridges the personal to the collective, the individual to the ecosystem. We discuss finding one’s own path within the grander narrative of activism, harnessing personal talents, and committing to causes that ignite passion. The episode is a homage to the mutual relationships we can cultivate with the natural world, understanding its rhythms and respecting its needs. By the end, we're not just contemplating environmental stewardship: we're envisioning a future where our actions and spirituality are intertwined, where we stand up for the world that sustains us, and where every voice, human or otherwise, is heard and honored. Join us for a conversation that is as much an introspective quest as it is a call to arms for the planet we call home.

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