Legacy Podcast

Between Series 2 and Series 3, we've got three solo episodes.

1. Meet Andy and Stephen
2. The impact of a father – Alf Thompson's story
3. "And he will turn the hearts of fathers" with Willie Paterson

Meet Andy and Stephen

Ever wondered who Andy and Stephen are? what their story is? Nope? - well then you can skip.
But if you want to meet the hosts of the Legacy podcast, dive right in.

0:00 - 16:20 - Meet Stephen
16:20 - 28:05 - Meet Andy
28:05 - 36:44 - Legacy's Story

www.legacyfathers.org

“To have a father who delights in knowing and loving them is one of the greatest blessings any girl can have.”

In the third and final ‘square-table’ conversation, Andy and Stephen are joined by Jonny McKane and Evan Reid, to talk about raising daughters today.

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Reflection from Stephen:

We can sometimes fight against the reality that our daughters will one day become women and will leave home. As Andy says near the end of this episode: “I don’t want my daughter to change!”

Who relates? I know I want my one and half year old daughter to forever stay small, cute and slightly squidgy!

At the heart of this feeling is a mix of love and joy. Yet, what I learned in this conversation was that the loving, joyful relationship between a father and his daughter is foundational and formative in her journey to womanhood.

Of course, there is much we need to think about as we raise our girls (and we cover a lot in this episode), but never underestimate the place of joy.

To have a father who delights in knowing and loving them is one of the greatest blessings any girl can have.

In this conversation we talk about:

• The joys of being a father to a daughter
• How we can exasperate them
• Hopes and fears as your daughter grows from girl to woman
• How a father-daughter relationship changes over time
• Journeying with the emotions of your daughter
• Not being scared to speak
• Cherishing her now while preparing her for the future

Two songs for fathers with Daughters

1. Be kind to yourself - by Andrew Peterson
   A song from a father to a teenage daughter.
   We challenge any father to watch this video and have dry eyes at the end.
   V2
   "I know it’s hard to hear it when the anger in your spirit is pointed like an arrow to your chest.
   When the voices in your mind are anything but kind, and you can’t believe your father knows best.
   I love you just the way that you are, I love the way He made your precious heart.
   Be kind to yourself"
2. Banks - By NEEDTOBREATHE
   A song about caring without controlling.
   Chorus:
   "I want to hold you close, but never hold you back.
   Like the banks of a river"

“Fatherhood is a journey punctuated by moments”. Paul Paynter says that on our podcast - so he does! The journey and the moments. As dads, we need to keep both in mind.

Co-Hosts Andy and Stephen are joined on the Legacy Podcast by David McGinty, David Penney, Paul Paynter, Paul Decock and a young man called Nathaniel to have a round table on Raising Sons Today.

Here’s our summary.

What we do over the long run will greatly influence our sons. They will notice our priorities. They will be shaped by the atmosphere we create. And they will, in large part, follow our model of masculinity.

But moments will also have a defining influence on our sons. Decisions around tech. Trips abroad. A conversation about girls late at night. How we mark key milestones is something intentional fathers think about. All of these moments have the potential of deeply shaping our sons’ lives. Moments, though, can be easily missed. In Jon Tyson’s Book - The Intentional Father he says: “So much of our lives is defined by moments. Moments of wonder, moments of heartache, moments of accomplishment, moments of regret. An intentional father is aware of the power of moments and works hard in advance to create life-changing ones.”

In this episode we cover both the journey and the moments. We hope you enjoy the conversation as much as we did.

This is a wild ride and we talk about:

• raising sons in the digital world
• lies and honesty
• dangers and duties
• seizing moments
• vision and intention
• prioritising worship
• loving your wife
• influencing the atmosphere
• the thousand-mile stare
• working from home
• what boys need
• modelling faith
• challenging boys
• should I give my son a phone?
• what’s the difference between raising a son or a daughter
• words for a father whose son has rebelled

Links:

www.legacyfathers.org
The Intentional Father by Jon Tyson
https://christianheritagelondon.org/walks
https://boysbrigadeni.org/

'Disciple-makers are first of all disciples. They are ordinary people like my mum and dad. My mum was a disciple of Jesus, carefully disguised as a care home assistant. My dad, a caretaker at a primary school.' Jim Brown

For season 2, we have three round tables: 1. Disciple Making Fathers, 2. Raising Sons Today, and 3. Raising Daughters Today. We’re delighted to have Jim Brown, Chris Agnew and Peter Munce kicking off our first episode with - Disciple Making Fathers.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What it means to be a disciple-maker
• Learning from the Ultimate Father
• The 4 roles of a father
• The gift of fatherhood
• Discipling young children
• How the church can support disciple-making fathers
• Where to start?
• What we want our children to know before they are 18

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Legacy is a ministry for fathers from Exodus - we provide programmes for churches to help faith and fatherhood thrive.

“Should I do Catechisms with my children? and what even does that look like?”Join co-hosts Andy Lamberton and Stephen Mullan as they chat with Pete Wright from Growing Young Disciples about Raising Kids for Christ in a Confusion World.

Companion article, by co-host Andy Lamberton - here.

Links

• Growing Young Disciples - Raising Kids for Christ in a Confusing World
• New City Catechism
• Join Legacy’s email list.

“When our children see us wholeheartedly share in their laughter and dances, they will more readily trust us with their tears and concerns.”Join co-hosts Andy Lamberton and Stephen Mullan as they chat with Sam Balmer from Bible Education Services (PBS).

We need to apologise for the audio quality of this episode. The mic settings were off, and we were in the wrong type of room. Forgive us - we’re still learning how to do this! This is no reflection on the content, Sam has nuggets of gold!

Related article, by co-host Stephen Mullan - here.

Links

• Read Jeff Gawn’s Article on Family Worship
• Register your children for Postal Bible School with Bible Education Services
• Join Legacy’s email list.Visit the Legacy website.

“As men, there is a temptation to become either wasters or workaholics. Instead, may we learn to see each day as an opportunity.”

Join co-hosts Andy Lamberton and Stephen Mullan as they chat with Austin Mackintosh - father to six!

Reflection article available here.

Other Links

• Receive inspirational emails for Christian Fathers
• 2 Minute Video explaining Legacy
• The Tail End Blog post

"We can’t prepare our kids for every eventuality. So much about fatherhood is unexpected. There will be challenges our children encounter that we simply can’t forecast. But then again, the job is to be a good parent, not a good prophet."

Join co-hosts Andy Lamberton and Stephen Mullan as they chat with David Smyth and Dawn McAvoy from Evangelical Alliance and Both Lives Matter.

Related article, notes and links here:


https://www.legacyfathers.org/fathers-and-the-unexpected-with-david-smyth-and-dawn-mcavoy-legacy-podcast-s1e3/

In our second episode of the Legacy Podcast, Graeme Thompson talks about how dads can move forward from failure.

Reflection article from the episode written by co-host Stephen Mullan available at www.legacyfathers.org.

While unstable families make for a more dramatic story, ordinary, hard-working dads are not celebrated as they ought to be.

Join Andy Lamberton as he chats with Spud Murphy (director of RUMbLE), about why we need fathers today.

Reflection article from the episode written by co-host Stephen Mullan available here.

Helpful Links

RUMbLE website
Watch a 2 Minute Video explaining Legacy, a ministry for fathers.