You can be Ready. You can be Willing. You can have the cutest profile pictures and the best intentions.

But if you—or your partner—do not have the skills to do the job? The relationship will collapse.

In this episode, we complete the Trinity by asking the hardest question of all: Are You Able?

To answer this, we have to talk about Mr. East Side, the trap of the "Cool Pick Me Girl," and the one roll of toilet paper (or lack thereof) that defined my entire standard for love.

In this episode:

• Capacity vs. Availability: Why being "Able" isn't just about being single—it's about having the emotional capacity to show up.
• The Toilet Paper Reality: How I accepted a stack of newspapers instead of a roll of Charmin, and what that said about my self-worth.
• Retiring the "Cool Pick Me Girl": Why performing "easiness" is actually the hardest job in the world.
• Put Down The Extra Oar: If you stop rowing for two people, does the boat sink? (And why that's actually a good thing).

It’s time to raise the floor. You deserve a clean bathroom. Do not accept the newspaper.

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Most people want the Dream House, but refuse to do the demo.

You’ve done the work to get Ready. You’ve built your sanctuary. But now, you might be finding yourself in a very dangerous, very cozy place: A fortress with no door.

In this episode, we are asking the question that separates the dreamers from the doers. We aren't asking if you Want the relationship. We are asking if you are Willing to endure the renovation.

In this episode:

• The Pinterest House: Why we crave the perfect kitchen but refuse to pick up a hammer to build it.
• The Comfort Trap: How being "too secure" can create a beautiful garden that no one is allowed to visit.
• Pruning For Life: Why you have to risk your current safety—and your Tuesday nights—to make room for new growth.

It’s time to risk it for the biscuit. Open the gate. Take the headphones off.

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Distraction is not healing.

To understand what that actually means, we need to start with the unsexy question that I'm pretty sure no one wants to really answer: Are You Ready? 

I thought I knew the answer to that question and sprinted out of the frying pan into the oven. Hard to build a foundation when my whole house was on fire.

In this debut episode, we are stripping away the "Cool Girl" mask and instead focusing on how to really understand ourselves.

In this episode:

The Sinkhole: Why distraction is not healing and how skipping the work creates a life built on a crack.

The Festival of Sludge: Why the mess isn't just a mood—it's a main event you have to honor to gain clarity.

The Cookie Jar: Are you dating from a place of Overflow, or are you just shaking out Crumbs to feed a stranger? 

Take the time to be Ready. Embrace the Festival of Sludge. Give yourself the time to think. This isn't a sprint. It's a marathon.

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They say the third time is the charm. I say the third time is the PhD.

I’m Lemon Capy—a Global Nomad, a recovering "Cool Girl," and a "Mathlete" (3 marriages, 2 divorces... you do the math).

I am not a therapist with a clipboard. I am a Processed Mess. I have a PhD in "doing it wrong" so that I could finally learn how to build a garden that is truly peaceful.

In this episode, I’m introducing the LCL philosophy:

The Mathlete: Why my "failures" are actually my greatest credentials.

The Method: Why we need Lemon work (acidic truth) to reach Capy energy (unbothered peace).

The Promise: Why this isn't about "Catching a Man"—it's about Building a Self.

I’m asking you to put down the heavy oars, stop rowing for two people, and finally figure out who you are.

Welcome to the garden. Let's get into the Sludge.

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