Lesson for My Sons

If my sons ever ask me, "Dad, how should I handle pain?" I hope this conversation is one of the first places they turn.

Pain is part of every man's life.

You'll lose people you love. You'll face failure. You'll experience heartbreak, uncertainty, physical pain, and seasons where life feels heavier than you ever imagined.

The question isn't if you'll experience pain.

It's what you'll do with it.

In this episode, my friend John Hemberger and I talk about what it means to carry pain with wisdom instead of letting it define you. We explore when to carry burdens quietly, when to ask for help, why numbing pain often creates even more suffering, and how some of life's hardest seasons can become the very things that shape your character.

This isn't a conversation about pretending to be tough.

It's about becoming the kind of man who lets pain produce compassion, resilience, wisdom, and strength.

 In this episode we discuss:

• Why every man carries pain
• The difference between hiding, sharing, and carrying pain
• When asking for help is a sign of wisdom—not weakness
• Why numbing pain can keep you from growing
• How adversity can build character and resilience
• Lessons from fatherhood, business, health, and life's hardest seasons
• The kind of strength I hope my sons develop

If you're a father, husband, entrepreneur, or simply a man trying to navigate life's challenges, I hope this conversation reminds you that strength isn't found in avoiding pain—it's found in learning how to carry it well.

And boys, if you're watching this years from now...

I hope life has been kind to you.

But when it isn't, I hope this lesson helps you become the man God created you to be.

Love you both.

– Dad

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Key Moments
01:22 - Every Man Carries Pain
28:38 - Hide It, Share It, or Carry It?
54:46 - Pain That Makes You Better

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Winning feels good, but the greatest lessons in my life didn't come from winning—they came from losing.

In this episode, my friend Mike and I talk about why I actually want my sons to experience failure. We discuss how losses shape character, why struggle is necessary for growth, and how the things that don't seem to be working are often quietly working on us.

If my boys ever ask me, "Dad, why would you let me fail?" I hope this conversation helps them understand that many of life's greatest victories are built on the foundation of loss.

https://youtu.be/9hjtf1dHIM4

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Key Moments
03:40 - Chapter 1: How do I train for losses?
36:51 - Chapter 2: Simulating games where loses are common.
49:18- Chapter 3: If the thing your doing is not working, it’s working on you.

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Winning feels good, but the greatest lessons in my life didn't come from winning—they came from losing.

In this episode, my friend Mike and I talk about why I actually want my sons to experience failure. We discuss how losses shape character, why struggle is necessary for growth, and how the things that don't seem to be working are often quietly working on us.

If my boys ever ask me, "Dad, why would you let me fail?" I hope this conversation helps them understand that many of life's greatest victories are built on the foundation of loss.

https://youtu.be/9hjtf1dHIM4

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Website: https://www.nvfitt.com
Email: [email protected]
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Key Moments
03:40 - Chapter 1: How do I train for losses?
36:51 - Chapter 2: Simulating games where loses are common.
49:18- Chapter 3: If the thing your doing is not working, it’s working on you.

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For a long time, I thought caring too much was a weakness.

Now I believe it's often a clue.

A clue to who God created us to be and who He created us to serve.

The problem is that caring makes us vulnerable. You can be misunderstood, rejected, and hurt. That's why many people choose not to care—it's safer.

But I've found that the things worth caring about are often the things worth suffering for.

In this episode, I sit down with my longtime friend James to talk about the foundations of caring, the challenges that come with it, and the rewards on the other side.

If my boys ever ask me, "Dad, why should I care?" I hope this conversation helps answer that question.

Love you guys.

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Key Moments
03:40 - Chapter 1: Why should my sons care?
36:51 - Chapter 2: What are the downsides of caring.
49:18- Chapter 3: What are the upsides of caring.

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To my sons Rory and Lucas — this episode is really a letter to you boys. One day you may look back at these soccer decisions and think I was wise… or completely clueless. But I hope you’ll always know they came from love, thought, prayer, and a deep desire to help you become fully yourselves — not just better athletes.

In this conversation with Coach Hayden Prasad, we talk about youth sports, burnout, joy, pressure, creativity, character, and what actually helps kids thrive long term. More than anything, I hope this reminds you that I never cared most about trophies or status — I cared about our time together, your love for the game, and the men you’re becoming.

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Key Moments
01:07 - Chapter 1: The kids who make it and the kids who don't.
16:15 - Chapter 2: Don't let development steal their joy.
25:31- Chapter 3: The principles guiding my sons.

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To Lucas & Rory,

If you’re watching this someday at a point in your life where you feel lost… I want you to know something first:

That feeling is more normal than you think.

For a long time, I thought success meant growth, numbers, momentum, achievement, and constantly becoming “more.” But somewhere along the way, I slowly lost from myself.

This episode is really about finding your way back.

Not becoming somebody new…
but becoming more of who you are already and what God wanted you to be.

In this episode we talk about:
• Why getting lost is a good thing and also the prerequisite
• Why subtraction is more important than adding things life
• How to know when you’re moving in the right direction in life

I hope this podcast serves you guys someday.

And if you ever reach a season where you don’t know what to do next… I hope this episode helps you two. Remember this.

You’re not behind.
You’re not broken.
You're exactly where you need to be.

Slow down.
Pray.
And listen.

Love Dad.

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Most people try to fix their health by changing their workouts or diet—but never stop to look at what’s happening in their mind. In this episode, we dive into how mental health directly impacts your physical health, energy, and consistency. We talk openly about men’s mental health, the long-term impact of your relationship with your father, and the spiritual side of healing that often gets ignored. If you’ve been doing “all the right things” but still feel stuck, this conversation might explain why—and where real change actually starts.

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KEY MOMENTS

07:10 - The invisible load men carry.
12:37 - Where are emotions stored?
13:30 - What happens when you don't feel your feelings?
19:49 - This is just what my father taught me.
30:10 - The way you view your father is how you view your life.
41:54 - How do I go about fixing this mind issue?
50:05 - What brings you the most anxiety that doesn't like you at all?

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Have you ever noticed how one day you’re fired up to change your life… and the next day you can’t even convince yourself to put your shoes on? One moment you feel unstoppable — the next you feel stuck, exhausted, and wondering what’s wrong with you.

You’re not alone. And nothing is wrong with you.

In today’s episode, we break down exactly why motivation shows up strong one day and completely disappears the next — and what fit parents and founders actually do when that happens. We talk about why relying on motivation keeps people spinning, the hidden factors that quietly drain your drive, and a practical system you can use to stay consistent even on the days you don’t feel like doing anything at all.

Key Moments
00:00 - Intro
04:54 - How do you handle the days when you're not motivated?
10:58 - An alternate way to fix motivation and it's not what you think. 
31:31 - One of the biggest things you can do when your not motivated...

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Have you ever wondered what fit, busy trainers actually eat day-to-day… without the Instagram polish, the perfect meal prep containers, or the 25-ingredient recipes no normal person has time for?

If you’re trying to eat healthier, build consistency, or simplify your nutrition but feel overwhelmed by all the rules, diets, and “do this, not that”… this episode is going to feel like a breath of fresh air.

In this episode, we break down:
✅ Exactly what two real trainers eat in a normal day
✅ How we fuel for energy (not perfection)
✅ How to build an effortless “default day” of eating

KEY MOMENTS
00:00 - Intro
05:19 - What do you eat as trainers?
11:49 - Truth about obsessing about other peoples foods
17:59 - How do you eat when family is in town?
22:36 - The boring diet that works for us were built from extreme experimental diets.

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Have you ever wanted to get healthier, eat better, or get back into a routine… but you freeze before you even start? You think about the gym, the meal prep, the schedule—then suddenly it feels like too much, and you’re exhausted just thinking about it. If that’s you, you’re not alone.

Here’s the truth most people overlook:
It’s not a lack of discipline, motivation, or willpower that keeps you stuck. It’s the mental load you’re carrying. When your brain is overwhelmed, your body can’t follow through.

In this episode, we talk about:

✅ Why anxiety makes consistency feel impossible
✅ The “all-or-nothing” trap and how to escape it
✅ Simple moves to quiet the noise so you can take action again

KEY MOMENTS
00:00 - Intro
02:00 - When was the last time you were anxious?
08:26 - Why is anxiousness holding people back?
29:46 - A practical frame work to use when anxious.
34:41 - Conclusion

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