Intimate Breath

Lessons from an Elder: David Cates on Slowness, Sexuality, and Death


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What do sex and death have in common? According to David Cates, quite a lot. In this episode, we dive into the deep end—exploring how slowing down changes everything, from intimacy to the tender process of dying. David, a lifelong seeker and teacher of embodiment, shares his thoughts on what it means to truly let go.

David Cates is known for his pioneering work in intimacy, embodied connection, and somatic practices like Belly2Belly. With decades of experience, he’s been a guide for many seeking deeper presence, richer relationships, and a more grounded approach to love and sexuality. Now in his 70s, he embraces his role as an elder, reflecting on the cycles of life, the wisdom of slowing down, and the opportunities for growth in our most vulnerable moments.

In this conversation we explore the raw parallels between orgasm and death, the liberation of dropping masks, and the surprising gifts that loss can bring. David also shares how his curiosity about the dying process has shaped his perspective on living fully and loving deeply.

This episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and reconnect—with yourself, others, and the beauty of life’s fleeting moments. Whether you're drawn to topics of intimacy, mortality, or the quiet magic of slowing down, this conversation might leave you touched, inspired, and curious.

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Intimate BreathBy Lore Blancke