With an end now possibly in sight, Kate feels she's letting Holly down. Her painful mobility issues are causing real problems for her this week - she desperately wants to play with the kids but having Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome means that even cuddles are a bit too much sometimes.
 
Home-schooling a four-year-old and entertaining a one-year-old leaves Kate physically and emotionally exhausted, but doesn't her wife deserve some attention too?
 
Produced by Amy Elizabeth.
 
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The government has published its consultation on changes to the Personal Independence Payment benefit, PIP. Emma Tracey asks Scope's Head of Policy James Taylor for his analysis.
 
With GCSEs, A-levels and other exams starting this month, Emma speaks to one of the people responsible for working out exam access arrangements for students who need it. Here's where you get the lowdown on extended time, breaks, alternative quiet exam rooms, prompters etc that you or your child may be given, from someone on the ground right now fixing it all - Martine Chapman Special Literacy Teacher at Dorothy Stringer School in Brighton.
And, How To Do Life with a Chronic Illness is the title of Pippa Stacey's new book. Pippa has ME / Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and she tells Emma that she
likes to focus on things you CAN do and how you can do them, rather than concentrating on medical matters.
 
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Access All was made by: Niamh Hughes, Drew Hyndman and Alex Collins. 
The editor is Damon Rose, senior editor Sam Bonham, the presenter is Emma Tracey.
It was recorded and mixed by Dave O'Neill.

PIP Consultation: Vouchers instead of money?

Emma Tracey speaks to the mother of a 35 year old woman with learning disabilities who has been living in a mental health facility “unnecessarily” for
three years. She says there is no reason for her to be living there and that it's due to lack of appropriate housing and care in the community. We
also hear from autistic author Alexis Quinn who feels let down by the system but is living in her own home now.
Mencap's analysis shows over 2,000 learning disabled or autistic people are inappropriately leading restricted lives in hospital. Dan Scorer from the charity shines some light on the situation as the government again misses its own target to bring down the numbers.
 
Last week prime minister Rishi Sunak outlined the Conservative's plans to change work and Personal Independent Payments (PIP) benefits if they win the pending general election. Talk of benefits change is always concerning and Drew Hyndman from the Access All team combs through what he said and puts it in perspective.
 
Activist Shani Dhanda is presently the number one most influential disabled person in the UK according to Shaw Trust's Power 100 list. As the proud Brummy starts a new programme on the BBC's Asian Network, she talks to us about her journey to understanding what being disabled means.
 
Access All was made by Niamh Hughes, Alex Collins, Drew Hyndman, and edited by Damon Rose and Alex Lewis. Recorded and mixed by Dave O'Neill. The Senior Editor is Sam Bonham.
 
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Life in a mental health unit when you shouldn't be there

It's Access All's 100th edition! To mark the occasion we’ve provided a bumper episode – including an interview with Rose Ayling-Ellis talking about how she is changing the conversation around British Sign Language. Also on the show:  A glimpse behind the scenes – what really goes on when making Access All.  Plus celebs give their advice on how to live your best disabled life. Presenter Emma Tracey. The episode was made by Drew Hyndman, Niamh Hughes and Alex Collins
Recorded and mixed by Dave O’Neill 
The editors were Damon Rose and Alex Lewis.  To get in touch with the team email accessall@bbc.co.uk or find us on X, @bbcaccessall. Don’t forget to subscribe by finding us on BBC Sounds.

Access All’s 100th episode

Disability activist and commentator Samantha Renke says the law on disability hate speech needs to be strengthened after a podcast discussion about dating someone in a wheelchair goes viral.
 
Also on the show: Actress and comedian Ashley Storrie talks about the autistic character she plays in the new BBC Three comedy drama Dinosaur.
 
The episode was made by Daniel Gordon with Drew Hyndman and Alexander Collins 
Recorded and mixed by Michael Regaard
The editor is Alex Lewis

Outrage at ableist ‘prejudice’

Tom Shakespeare is Access All presenter Emma Tracey's special guest for an Easter spectacular edition of the podcast. He talks about becoming a novelist for the first time in his 50s, and why he created a disabled character to be the hero of his first non-fiction book.  He also discusses the work he is better known for - a lifetime of disability activism and research - and his profile as a commentator on issues that affect disabled people.  The episode was made by Daniel Gordon, with Niamh Hughes and Emma Tracey. The editor is Alex Lewis. Recorded and mixed by Dave O'Neill. To get in touch with the team, email accessall@bbc.co.uk or find us on X, @bbcaccessall .

Let’s add partner guilt to disability lockdown woes

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