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Happy Saturday Sitting ❤️🧘‍♀️ I blooming LOVE meditation - just not in the ways we’re traditionally taught it! 🤪

I have a brain that is pretty unkind to me for a big chunk of the time 😮‍💨

So the idea of sitting silently with my thoughts for hours on end does NOT entice me to meditate.🤢

So I found a Piggyback Hack System™️ where I submerged myself in a sensory experience to love meditation - as I did it went from being “something I should do”, to something I actually WANNA do!

The power builds 🧬⚡️

From micro moments, as often as possible. 

So get your rhubarb reds out ❤️

Take micro second moments today to breathe, EVERY time you see your reds,

And watch the power grow ⚡️🧬🤸‍♀️

In my world world, feelings are a weird one. 

For most of us, we had our feelings rejected so many times by our adults (because they made them feel uncomfortable) that we learned,

“Feeling emotions is bad”. 

Now, feeling emotions is ESSENTIAL for ALL HumanBeans:

When we break-down what emotions actually are; they’re just chemical markers 🧪; that are secreted from glands inside the body; and they feel a certain type-a way. THAT’S IT!!

So we’ve gotta learn that feeling our feelings is just allowing the chemicals to flow up and out of our bodies in the ways they’re made to. 

And that this is a NEUTRAL (not “good” or “bad”, it just IS). 

But THEN we must navigate the doubleness of feelings our feelings without allowing them to engulf us. 

Those who master this art, master their life! 

Happy Feel-it Friday 💙

I define the term “shoulding” as:

“Feeling obliged to do something even though it’s not something you actually WANNA do!”

“Shoulding”, when it comes to Thankful Thursday 💜, is knowing that you have LOTS of lovely things to feel grateful for, maybe it’s:

Only… they just aren’t what you’d hoped they be. They often cause you more agro than you’d like. And, even though you love them and you’re glad they’re yours… the feeling is, “I know I should feel grateful but I don’t”. 

And as more comes in. 

That hole, between receiving and feeling grateful widens with a big wedge of guilt, or maybe it’s shame, or maybe embarrassment to boot too. 😮‍💨

This feeling is what is ruining all the lovely things in our world. 

When I feel this way… looking at ALL the lovely stuff in front of me (and feeling familiar pangs of guilt, for not feeling a certain kinda way about them), I call in Grace. 

Grace is as old as time and as wise as ALL the mystics out together. In these moments, Grace says,

“My sweetheart, you’ve got this.

Right now, you’re replacing the lovely feeling of gratitude with a more familiar feeling of shame and guilt that others inflicted upon you. And now, you’re addicted to feeling this way. 😮‍💨 So be gentle with you,

Watch where these addictions rise. 

And decide… “I am free”. 

If you’d like actions, movements and breath to accompany these words, let me know and I’ll cover this next Thankful Thursday 💜

Remain on the look-out for Grace - she’s waiting for you to invite her back into your world 😇💜

When I was tuned into Anxiety FM 24/7, I believed everything I thought.

Something in my world would trigger me

Today is Wake-Up Wednesday - today's focus is ALL about that third and final element of The Trio of Terror (that's what I call the make-up of The 3 Part Conscious Brain cycle I describe above).

This third part exists because our brain is ALWAYS trying to make sense of this world.

As humans we ALL just want an easy life, which feels lovely. 

Only...that's not what this human experience is.

This experience is a lot; a lot of the time.

So the brain is ALWAYS trying to convert this "lot" into much less (in the hope that it feels much easier for us). 

To do this, the brain wants to put ABSOLUTE Stamps on things;

So it feels like it's in charge

So it feels like it understands

So it feels like it's making our life easier.

It does this with thoughts of:

"This is right"

"This is wrong"

"I am right"

"They are wrong"

"I am wrong"

"They are right"

When we work in these absolutes, we know that it's Francis (the fiend inside our brain) attempting to make us feel safer on this spinning sphere floating in the middle of The Universe; WHICH MAKES NO ACTUAL SENSE!

The "Ideal" Self you (that's led by The Trio of Terror) deals in absolutes.

And it's Francis who has to KNOW absolutely.

NOT Actual You!

So the next time you're driving yourself demented, trying to absolutely KNOW

what to do

where to move

how to do it

Happy Wake-Up Wednesday 💖

Being anxiety free isn't available to normal people. Because being anxiety free, after years of having anxiety, is going AGAINST what feels "normal" for you!

And most of us don't wanna go againt what feels normal to us.

Because, no matter how painful it is, The Human Brain LOVES familar/normal/routine.

It's why 

Above and beyond EVERYTHING, the brain will choose what it already knows.

Because what it knows has gotten us to where we're at right now - and right now we're alive - this is literally the ONLY thing that The Conscious Brain cares about!

So normal people allow their mind to dominate their existance, simply because it's been that way for so long.

Normal people will continue to feel anxiety for forever.

BUT, there is a small amount of people who are DONE being normal; and fitting in.

They've realised that having a life on repeat isn't as good as The Conscious Brain has it made-up to be.

They want More!

And they're willing and brave enough to take action.

My best skill, when it comes to navigatring my own human brain is:

Don't be normal - it's a trap - be ME!!

There’s More Than This 💖🤩

For so many brilliant, busy entrepreneurs, coaches and creatives we can see that time is of the essence.

We're more in touch with the reality of this existance;

with the fact that every breath needs to count;

that our work is a MASSIVE deal and that in order to allow it to reach the heights of everything it's MADE to, it requires our time and dedication.

We use our precious time to:

And we achieve. 

The most glorious results at incomprehensible levels.

We CAN and we DO do it all;

we hold it all together; 

we can get to next-level heights ALL whilst brining-along anxiety for the ride.

I'm WITH each and every one of you who's saying, "I ain't got time to sit in a corner crying about all of my trauma, Emma!"

I tried this way. 

It was MISERABLE! 

And it made me feel worse - like I was "trying" to do the "right thing" but it wasn't working. 

That's when I started to explore alternatives.

I started to learn about stoicism.

I began to learn about quantum physics.

I studied the biology of the human body.

And THIS all blew my mind!!

There IS a way to irradicate Anxiety from our bodies ('cause that's where it lives!).

To disrupt all that repeated neurology ('cause that's how it repeats).

And be FREE! 

And it lives inside brining The Work into The Unconscious - OUTSIDE of Conscious thought!

I use The Piggyback Sensory Hack System to do this:

That power within comes from unlocking the unconscious - and this can ONLY be done from outside of the conscious mind/thought!

There is More. Always

When you've got a Conscious Brain that spends 99.9% of it's life screaming at you (I could hear mine literally SCREAMING at me some days!), sitting 
"silently" was the most horrible idea I could concieve.

Being left alone, with only the chaos inside my brain for company?! "NO THANK YOU!"

Although that didn't stop me from trying...

I hated the way that I was living my life and I felt POWERLESS to do anything about it (despite doing all of the things that "should" have been imporving my life - therapy...meditating for hours...!)

That's when I realised that there was a REALLY different way to do meditation.

A way which 10x results but didn't take time away from my life - I was a new mum to baby twins, my husband worked away and I was a primary school teacher (I had a LOT going on!!).

My meditation was this - to do things for longer than my brain wanted me to. And by this I mean...

When I was rushing to get the bottles steralised, so

I could get my school work done, so

I could get to bed at a decent time

before Groundhog day started all over again,

I TOOK MY TIME!

I washed those bottles like my life depended on it - I traced the outline of the bottles with my fingers and watched the soap bubbles pop on them

I did my school work with clamness and precision

I stopped being so obsessed on what time I was getting into bed, and started feeling grateful to have arrived

In my life, I started to walk slower than I would (I literally RAN through the hallways at school before)

I sat for a minute longer when my brain said to "get up!"

I realised how much of my life my brain was making me rush through - taking my time became a meditation in itself - SO much better than sitting for hours at a time. SO. Much. Better!!

We get given the wrong impression (by well-meaning, but TOTALLY unhelpful adults!!) that we aren't meant to feel strong emotions!🤪😮‍💨

Strong emotions just ARE part of this Human Expereince - there's no denying them or trying to run away from them.

Only, we DO try...

We try to hide🙈

We try to run away from them🙊

In the hope that we'll feel less uncomfortable for it.🙏

What this ACTUALLY does is:

Push those feelings/ emotions/chemicals (which asbolutely occur in ALL of us), deeper into us, THEN we reject them. 😥

This rejection forces them to stay inside our body - they bury themselves ever deeper within.

Trapped, they add unnecessary additional weight and burdon us further.🫠

We feel bad that we're so heavy. 😮‍💨

And that we feel everything so intensely. 🤪😮‍💨

So , as each new/difficult emotion arises, we bury them ever-deeper. 🕳️

So they get even more stuck.

And we feel even heaver.

This continue to happen until, in a moment, we decide we WANT MORE! 🤩🌈🐳🦄

And a big part of us accessing our More

(Accessing who we're here to be⚡️🧬

And what we're here to do 🤸‍♀️)

Comes down to how willing we are to have emotional breakdowns and make them mean NOTHING about us (expect that we're human and having a human experience) ⚡️🤸‍♀️😆🤩

There is More than this.

Always!

Happy Feel-it Friday 💙

Introducing my Spilling the Tea Narwhal mug companion, who only arrived today and I’m in LOVE with!

Upon her arrival, she got me thinking just how colourful my world is - on this cold, and rainy November afternoon ☔️ the warmth of that rainbow road still radiates 🤩🌈

BUT WHY!?

I can summarise in 2 5 word sentences:

1️⃣ I stopped being so serious

2️⃣ There is More Than This

I spent my life trying to be this polished version of me - dedicated to “doing the right thing” and being righteous in everything I did.

- bold colours, crazy ideas, falling flat on my face, and showing-up vulnerably sharing my darkest secrets… NO THANK YOU!! 👋 😮‍💨

Work hard. Get results. Be a good person.

NO space for play!!

So how is this the same person, looking through your screen?

👉Dressed from head to toe in the rainbow

👉Drinking out of my Narwhal

👉Creating a life which feels like make-believe!?

I chose that there was more.

That I was curious enough about this idea of More to go Find it for me.

And now, I teach others how to do it too.

If you find yourself being super serious for a good chunk of time, I feel you!

Notice.

And invite curiosity back into your world…

There is SO much More 🌈⚡️🧬🤩🦄