In this episode, I invite you into a tender yet rebellious conversation about what it truly means to de-center others and reclaim your own emotional, mental, and spiritual bandwidth.

For so many of us—especially women—we were taught to give, give, give.

To self-deprive.

To silence our desires.

To see ourselves only in relation to someone else, especially a man.

But what happens when we consciously choose to break those patterns?

This episode explores the courageous act of rebelling against what is expected and accepted, and choosing instead to build a life rooted in self-nurturing. I share how experimenting with small acts of care—receiving kindness, speaking gently to yourself, doing things simply because they feel good—begins to reprogram the negative thought cycles at the core of self-sacrifice.

Together, we look at how to:

✨ Stop centering your worth around others’ needs

✨ Interrupt the patterns of self-deprivation you were taught

✨ Reclaim the right to receive without guilt

✨ Speak to yourself with softness, generosity, and truth

✨ Choose new desires—ones that come from your body, your spirit, and your joy

This is your reminder that you are allowed to choose yourself.

That you are allowed to want.

And that you can rewrite the script of your life—one act of self-nurturing at a time.

Tune in for a conversation that feels like a deep breath, a warm embrace, and a radical permission slip to center your own joy again.

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Who is the Ultimate Joy Goddess?

Cordelia Gaffar is a transformational leader guiding individuals and organizations to embody joy, deep healing, and authentic connection. 

As the founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. and a private healing practice, she integrates somatic movement, intimacy coaching, and corporate consulting to foster self-mastery and well-being. 

Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation.

A two-time award-winning podcast host, she currently leads What People Miss and previously hosted The Free To Be Show, amplifying conversations on self-discovery and emotional intelligence. 

As a retreat facilitator and best-selling author of eight books, Cordelia curates transformative experiences and thought-provoking insights on pleasure, empowerment, and self-love.

Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation. With a B.S. in Accounting from Strayer University, she transitioned from corporate finance to become a certified sports nutritionist, holistic healer, movement facilitator, and Authentic Consent practitioner. 

She has spent eight years as an emotional wellness coach and three years in intimacy and corporate consulting certifications from The Amina Institute of Somatic Sexology, The College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah Creates.

A veteran homeschooling mother of 20+ years, she infuses her deep knowledge of human development, brain function, and self-nurturing into her work. Globally recognized for her transformational impact, Cordelia helps people reclaim their pleasure, power, and purpose.

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