Why Rage is Required for Your Ultimate Joy! 

This episode is about extreme feelings that are available to open you up to your core for your ultimate joy. How are you using your rage? Are you using it?

I also wrote more about this in my substack. Subscribe, comment and enjoy!

https://open.substack.com/pub/cordeliagaffar/p/why-rage-is-required?r=1z8t8j&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

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• Rage and Joy: The concept of rage as a necessary emotion for ultimate joy, and how to liberate and redirect it through practices like belly dance and somatic movement.
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Sometimes life can be infuriating. You want to throw rocks, scream to the top of your lungs, smash stuff, and all the ways you can possibly express rage. 

But why don’t you?

#rage #joy #theultimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #community #emotional abuse #emotional wellness #sexuality #sensuality #somatichealing #healing #selfnurturing #detachedlove

What if the way you show up in the world—on stage, on camera, or even in your daily life—wasn’t about performing… but about being fully, unapologetically YOU?

In this powerful and soul-nourishing conversation, I sit down with Lucy Devi Hall, a visibility and public speaking coach who helps entrepreneurs fall in love with how they show up. Lucy’s unique approach blends emotional strategy, embodied confidence, and parts work, guiding leaders to be seen without shrinking or shape-shifting to fit expectations.

But Lucy’s story is more than professional expertise—it’s deeply personal. From surviving childhood sexual abuse, losing her parents, navigating eating disorders, and experiencing racism, Lucy learned to hide as a survival strategy. Now, she teaches us that true visibility isn’t just about showing up—it’s about reclaiming your freedom to be who you were born to be.

We talk about:

✨ Why visibility is personal, political, and profoundly liberating

✨ Healing the parts of you that feel too “much” or “not enough”

✨ Shifting from performing for approval to embodying your truth

✨ How to fall in love with your presence—on stage, on camera, and in life

Lucy is also a published author, vegan, animal lover, and music enthusiast who’s sung on three albums—proof that visibility can be both deeply healing and joyfully creative.

If you’ve ever felt invisible or struggled to share your brilliance with the world, this episode is your invitation to step into the light, exactly as you are.

📲 Connect with Lucy Devi Hall:

Instagram: @lucydevihall

Facebook: Lucy Devi Hall

https://lucydevihall.com/ 

🎙️ **"Thank you for listening to What People Miss. If this conversation inspired you to savor your life a little more, I invite you to continue the journey with me.

Visit CordeliaGaffar.com to explore more ways to reclaim your joy and confidence. And if you’re ready to go deeper, join us in the Ultimate Joy Goddess Community—where we practice radical self-nurturing, pleasure, and presence together.

Because you deserve to live free, liberated, and fully alive. I’ll see you there."**

“Joy is a lifestyle, not something you buy.” – Richard Noel

In this week’s What People Miss, we’re talking about how to live joyfully, intentionally, and in alignment with your true self. My guest Richard Noel — sound therapist, musician, and joy advocate — reveals how:

✔ Incantations reprogram your mind faster than affirmations

✔ Your mood is your Wi-Fi (it affects every connection you have)

✔ Emotional baggage blocks your natural state of happiness

✔ Worrying is a form of negative meditation you can stop today

This is more than a conversation — it’s an invitation to choose joy daily, manage your vibration, and give yourself permission to live blissfully.

🎧 Listen now, and then ask yourself: What joy practices can I start today?

 joy, harmony, lifestyle, emotional well-being, personal growth, self-care, mental health

Cordelia Gaffar

The Ultimate Joy Goddess

Cordelia Gaffar — a powerhouse of wisdom, embodiment, and transformation. She is a best-selling author of eight books, award-winning host of What People Miss and The Free to Be Show, and founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. Known globally as the Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia guides women from burnout to bliss by helping them rewire their bodies for pleasure, emotional freedom, and Multi-Orgasmic Living.

Her journey began over two decades ago, transitioning from her role as a corporate CFO to becoming a homeschooling mother and deep student of self-nurturing, somatic movement, and holistic healing. Since then, Cordelia has become an international speaker and leader in intimacy intelligence, tantra, and Somatic embodiment.

Her work has earned her numerous accolades, including Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019), Podcast Host of the Year (2020 and 2022), and Powerhouse Global Woman (2023) and certifications: Authentic Consent with The Amina Institute, Somatic Movement with NoMad Collective, Sports Nutrition, and Holistic Healing with the College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah, Somatic K.A.P. Facilitator.

 Cordelia’s unique approach blends science, soul, and sensuality — inviting women to reclaim their power through radical pleasure, joy-bonding, and deep self-connection.

 Visit https://cordeliagaffar.com/

 "We Can Catch This Healing" – A Conversation on Wholeness, Vulnerability & Black Masculinity 🎙️✨

In this powerful and heartfelt episode, I sit down with Bernard to reflect on my guest-hosting experience at King’s Corner—the virtual sanctuary created by Black Men Heal in Philadelphia. Together, we open the door to raw, liberating dialogue on what it truly means for Black men to feel safe in their bodies, reclaim their dignity, and allow themselves to heal. 💔💫

🛑 We challenge the grind.

🌀 We redefine productivity.

💗 We honor rest, emotional safety, and radical self-care.

💬 We say: "You deserve to be your full self."

This is not just a conversation—it’s a movement toward collective healing. We speak on receiving as sacred, vulnerability as strength, and how community can be the container for transformation.

🎧 Tune in to hear:

👉 “We have to fight for our dignity.”

👉 “We can catch this healing.”

👉 What emotional intimacy, self-love, and reparenting look like in real time.

This is for the brothers walking their path, and for those who love them.

#PersonalGrowth #SelfCare #HealthyMasculinity #VulnerabilityIsStrength #ConsciousRelationships #EmotionalHealing #RedefineProductivity #BlackMenHeal #IntimacyMatters #CommunityCare #MentalHealthAwareness #MenAndEmotions #WholenessJourney

About my guest:

Bernard’s rich background in health, wellness, education, and the arts underscores the creativity and depth we need in this moment of renewal. His expertise shows us we can be set apart for a purpose — not divided — and we can leverage our unique roles to empower ourselves and future generations.

To learn more about his work visit https://transformandthrivesolutions.com

In this deeply nourishing conversation, the Queen and I embark on an intimate exploration of what it truly means for Black women over 50 to reclaim their wholeness. Together, we dive into the rich layers of Black women's sexual liberation, the healing power of community and co-regulation, and the often unspoken impact of colorism on self-identity and desirability.

We unravel the myth that worthiness is something to be earned, instead affirming that self-worth is a radical choice—one Black women must prioritize unapologetically. Our dialogue weaves in the tender integration of grief as a sacred portal to joy, the spiritual practice of multi-orgasmic living, and the beautiful dance of duality in self-compassion.

This episode invites you to release societal distortions, embrace your desires, and remember that your liberation is your birthright. Whether you’re beginning this journey or deep in the work, you’ll walk away feeling seen, supported, and empowered to live fully, sensually, and authentically.

✨ Key Takeaways:

• Sexual liberation is essential at every age.
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• Healing thrives in community and co-regulation.
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• Colorism shapes self-perception and desirability.
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• Self-worth is a choice that fuels empowerment.
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• Grief and joy are both necessary companions.
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• Multi-orgasmic living is a path to spiritual wholeness.
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• Duality in self-compassion is where true growth begins.
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• Social media can distort your sense of self—reclaim it.
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• Your desires are sacred; honoring them is revolutionary.
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• Wholeness is not a destination—it’s a lifelong journey.
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🌸 This episode is a love note to Black women over 50: You are worthy, desirable, and whole—right now.

Chapters

00:00 Celebrating Liberation and Wholeness

05:44 Community and Co-Regulation in Healing

10:12 Navigating Colorism and Self-Identity

18:18 Reclaiming Self-Worth and Desirability

24:26 The Journey of Choice and Emotional Labor

28:50 Navigating Grief and Breath Work

31:41 The Journey Through Discomfort

33:49 Multi-Orgasmic Living and Spiritual Wealth

36:42 Reconnecting to Wholeness

39:23 Embracing Dualities and Shadow Work

42:38 Reclaiming Power and Sexual Agency

46:29 Living in Liberation and Joy

#Blackwomen, #sexualliberation, #community, #self-worth, #colorism, #healing, #empowerment, #spirituality, #joy, #wholeness

Cordelia Gaffar — a powerhouse of wisdom, embodiment, and transformation. She is a best-selling author of eight books, award-winning host of What People Miss and The Free to Be Show, and founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. Known globally as the Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia guides women from burnout to bliss by helping them rewire their bodies for pleasure, emotional freedom, and Multi-Orgasmic Living.

Her journey began over two decades ago, transitioning from her role as a corporate CFO to becoming a homeschooling mother and deep student of self-nurturing, somatic movement, and holistic healing. Since then, Cordelia has become an international speaker and leader in intimacy intelligence, tantra, and Somatic embodiment.

Her work has earned her numerous accolades, including Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019), Podcast Host of the Year (2020 and 2022), and Powerhouse Global Woman (2023) and certifications: Authentic Consent with The Amina Institute, Somatic Movement with NoMad Collective, Sports Nutrition, and Holistic Healing with the College of Medicine and Healing Arts.

 Cordelia’s unique approach blends science, soul, and sensuality — inviting women to reclaim their power through radical pleasure, joy-bonding, and deep self-connection.

Choose joy and always pleasure!

 Visit my website to learn about my programs.

In this powerful and liberating conversation, Cordelia sits down with Mx. Queen, LCSW, M.Ed., a somatic sex therapist and founder of the Erospirituality Centre, to explore the depths of Black sexual liberation, erotic intelligence, and the sacred intersection of spirituality and sexuality. Together, they unpack the critical distinctions between sex, sexuality, and sexual liberation—and why understanding these differences is essential for both personal healing and collective freedom.

This episode dives into how emotional and erotic intelligence shape our ability to experience pleasure, self-trust, and authentic connection. Cordelia and Queen examine how religious conditioning, societal norms, and the politics of desirability have limited sexual expression, especially within Black bodies. They illuminate the path of co-regulation, discipline, and the ongoing work of decolonizing sexuality.

At its core, this conversation is a loving invitation to return to your body, embrace pleasure as a form of resistance, and reclaim your erotic self as a vital aspect of Black liberation.

Key Takeaways:

• The personal always informs professional healing.
• Erotic intelligence guides us through chaos toward clarity.
• Sex, sexuality, and sexual liberation are distinct, vital layers.
• Liberation requires intentional discipline and deep understanding.
• Pleasure is not optional—it is essential for healing and joy.
• Religion often restricts full sexual expression.
• Emotional intelligence and co-regulation are the foundations of healthy relationships.
• Desirability politics deeply shape our experiences of freedom.
• Decolonizing sexuality is a lifelong practice of liberation.

About Mx. Queen:

Mx. Queen (they/Queen) is a licensed somatic sex therapist, certified hypnotherapist, energy worker, and breathwork facilitator. As an erotic liberation author and healing guide, they center Black sexual liberation through their signature program, Healing The Erotic Self (HTES), and the Erospirituality Centre. Their work helps people cultivate embodied safety, self-trust, and intuitive lovership.

Learn more about Queen’s masterclasses and healing experiences at Erospirituality.com.

#WhatsPeopleMissPodcast

#ConsciousConversations

#LiberationTalks

#HealingDialogues #SacredStories

#BlackJoy

#BlackLiberation

#BlackHealing

#QueerHealing #SexPositive

In this powerful and timely episode of Jewels of Juneteenth, I sit down with Coach E., a seasoned Functional Movement Specialist who has helped over 3,000 clients reclaim strength and ease chronic pain. Together, we dive deep into the layered intersections of functional movement, emotional wellness, and the often-overlooked impact of racism on the body.

Coach E. shares his lived experience as a Black man navigating discrimination, and how those encounters leave an imprint—not just on the mind, but deep within the muscles, breath, and posture. We explore how trauma and emotional stress manifest physically, particularly in the shoulders, chest, and gut, and how mindful breathing, nourishing food, and intentional movement can offer profound relief.

This episode is a call to action: to slow down, tune in, and honor what’s still alive in your body. Your healing begins with presence.

🎧 Listen in and savor your return to wholeness.

🌐 Learn more: ElevationHealthErgo.com

✨ Key Takeaways:

• Functional movement is a medicine for the nervous system
• Racism and emotional labor create chronic stress in the body
• Pain is the body’s last language
• Presence, breath, and community are healing tools
• Women often carry invisible emotional loads

Nourishment and movement support emotional freedom

#JewelsOfJuneteenth #LeadershipInWellness #FunctionalHealth #TraumaInformedLeadership #MindfulMovement #EmotionalWellness #RacismAndHealth #HealingThroughPresence #BodyWisdom #Empowerment

 In this episode of Jewels of Juneteenth, I get to discuss segregation, the dreams we lost, and the power we may be missing today with E. Bernard Alexander.

Whilst everyone is up in arms about the future of DEI, we ask a challenging and thought-provoking question: Are we missing the gifts of segregation—the ability to empower ourselves, heal our communities, and align with our divine purpose? Could we pull from history and see what we created on the heels of Emancipation to move forward today in a more purposeful and unified way?

E. Bernard brings a rich blend of expertise and lived experience to this conversation. As a transformational health and wellness professional, counselor, coach, actor, and creative, Bernard highlights the necessity of shifting from a framework of mere “equality” toward true “equity”— honoring the unique roles we all have in rebuilding strong, thriving communities.

Together we explore:

➥ Why we’ve gotten it backwards by focusing on separation instead of unity

➥ How understanding our divine rights can empower us to create lasting change

➥ The roles men and women can play in strengthening their communities

➥ The power of dialogue, understanding, and collaboration across genders

➥ Why local economics and community solidarity matter more than we realize

➥ The importance of transformation, self-discovery, and honoring a higher purpose

Bernard’s rich background in health, wellness, education, and the arts underscores the creativity and depth we need in this moment of renewal. His expertise shows us that we can be set apart for a purpose — not divided — and we can leverage our unique roles to empower ourselves and future generations.

About My Guest:

E. Bernard Alexander is a transformational health and wellness professional specializing in trauma healing, holistic wellness, and empowering individuals and communities to achieve lasting growth. His expertise is grounded in a unique blend of cognitive, behavioral, and spiritual perspectives, supported by his education (Temple University and Biblical Theological Seminary) and lived experience.

Bernard is not just a healer; he’s a storyteller, actor, musician, and former celebrity barber — a creative soul who advocates for unity, transformation, and communal rebirth.

Keywords:

#segregation #equity #divinerights #community #transformation #localeconomies #empowerment #gendercohesion #dialogue #healing

What People Miss is a podcast about living life by noticing the subtleties. Like Mozart said, "The music is not in the notes, but in the space between them". The theme for the month of June is the Jewels of Juneteenth. 

In this interview, I am interviewing Tiffany Wright, the Founder of BOBC, Blacked Owned Business Community.

Highlights:

Why is there a need for BOBC?

How does the Black business community compare to 100 years ago?

What are some of the challenges?

Juneteenth Gala origins

Black Excellence

About my Guest:

Tiffany Wright is the founder of BOBC and Beyond Measure, a non profit for adults with learning difficulties. She is a New Jersey native who moved to the Eastern Panhandle of West Virginia in 2020. Currently located in Hagerstown, MD she is boots on the ground in the origin area of black excellence and booming businesses post JIm Crow.

Get your tickets and join BOBC https://bobcwvmarketing.wixsite.com/bobcevents

Are you wearing your crown and creating your life—or simply waiting to see what life gives you?

Here’s the truth: It is your birthright to choose. To savor—not just survive. To feel—not just function. To rise—not only react.

As we welcome June and prepare to honor Juneteenth, let’s recognize this holiday for more than a moment in time. Let’s use it as a mirror and a map—revealing where we’ve been and where we still must go, especially within.

Juneteenth is not just about the freeing of enslaved people—it’s about the delay of freedom. It marks the moment in 1865 when those in Galveston, Texas finally learned of the Emancipation Proclamation—two and a half years after it was signed.

That delay? It mirrors the emotional delay many of us live with every day. Long after the trauma ends, the nervous system still doesn’t know it’s free. Long after the gaslighting, the heartbreak, the isolation, our bodies still flinch. Our spirits still whisper, “Am I safe yet?”

So, what do we do?

We don’t wait for someone else to give us permission to be free. We choose to be free.

Juneteenth teaches us that truth and freedom are not always delivered—they’re discovered. They’re embodied.

This June, I invite you to explore the Jewels of Juneteenth—lessons hidden inside hardship. Jewels are those moments or memories that once tried to crush us, yet became catalysts for our transformation. That’s what emotional healing is: the art of flipping pain into power.

In this episode, I talk about the history of Juneteenth and connect the dots between emotional healing, wholeness and historical events.

The Emancipation Proclamation

The Reconstruction Era

Harlem Renaissance/ Jim Crow

Self-nurturing

Invitations

Free Experiences

Retreat

And that’s the theme not only for the month of June, but for my podcast What People Miss, and my movement: From Surviving to Savoring.

This isn’t a cute quote or another checklist. This is a somatic shift. This is about activating the parts of you that forgot how to feel good… and reminding them: Pleasure is not a reward. It’s a right.

Starting Tuesday, June 3 at 7 PM ET, I’m leading a 3-day virtual retreat called:

From Surviving to Savoring: How to Rewire Your Body for Pleasure and Emotional Freedom

This is your sacred space to:

🌿 Let your nervous system finally exhale

🌿 Use your emotions as a map, not a mess

🌿 Reconnect your body to joy and truth

🌿 Remember the woman you were before the world told you otherwise

This is the real work. This is the work that ends emotional abuse—not only in your partnerships or past, but in how you treat yourself.

This is your Juneteenth of the soul.

Will you wear your crown?

Will you meet your requirements instead of waiting for crumbs?

Will you transmute pain into purpose?

Because the other side of this work is joy. It’s embodiment. It’s multi-orgasmic living—not just sexually, but spiritually. Orgasm is the electric spark of life from your core, radiating out through every choice, word, and breath.

Let June be different this year. Let it be your liberation.

💫 You get to reclaim your joy.

💫 You get to savor your life.

💫 You get to become the woman you were always meant to be.

🔗 Register Now for the 3-day virtual retreat:

https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/UPcNX0GISWCgjP-oEnNndA

Let’s walk through the Jewels of Juneteenth together.

#sweetwalk #theultimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #emotionalfreedom #jewels #multiorgasmicliving #pleasure