What People Miss with Cordelia Gaffar is a space for women who are done merely surviving and are ready to savor life, even in the midst of grief, transition, and rage. Through intimate, unfiltered conversations, award‑winning podcast host, best‑selling author, and Ultimate Joy Goddess Cordelia Gaffar walks you through the quiet moments most people skip over when they are trying to be “strong” and keep it all together.paste.txt​
What this episode explores
In this powerful episode, Cordelia opens the new solar year by inviting you to create from a place of savoring life instead of repeating old patterns of burnout, silence, and self-abandonment. She shares how her Replenish Me process evolved into Four Mind Alignment—honoring the body, belly, heart, and brain—so you can move from survival mode into continuous moments of joy and pleasure.paste.txt​
A story of grief, rage, and rebirth
Cordelia is joined by her longtime friend and client Maritza, a home‑educating mother of six and blues singer whose life was shattered when her husband was killed in a sudden, preventable accident. Maritza vulnerably describes how grief destroyed her from the inside out—stealing her voice, her music, and her sense of self—until somatic practices, community, and “sweet talk” helped her reclaim wholeness.
Embodiment, hips, and healing
Rooted in Afro‑Latina and Caribbean traditions, Cordelia and Maritza share how moving their hips, somatic breathwork, and kundalini‑based practices became portals for healing rage, grief, and exhaustion stored in the body. Cordelia weaves in her training in somatic movement, Tantra, and somatic sexology to show how sensation, breath, and rhythm can restore your nervous system and even transform your relationship with your own aging body.
Voice, rage, and the throat chakra
This episode dives into what people miss about the throat chakra, especially for Black and Brown women who are taught to fear the “angry Black woman” stereotype. You will hear how singing pulled rage out of Maritza’s locked throat, how redirected rage became art and therapy, and why refusing to hold emotions to make others comfortable is a radical act of self‑nurturing.
Why you should listen
If you have ever lost a partner, a role, your voice, or your sense of who you are, this conversation offers a living example of moving from shattered to stage—literally—from a grieving widow who is now performing at the International Blues Challenge. You will walk away with a felt sense of what it means to prioritize yourself, honor your emotions, and choose joy and pleasure without pretending your pain does not exist.
Tune in if you are ready to reclaim your body, your voice, and your life—and to discover what you have been missing about truly savoring your existence.
To work with Cordelia go to https://cordeliagaffar.com
