Are you wearing your crown and creating your life—or simply waiting to see what life gives you?

Here’s the truth: It is your birthright to choose. To savor—not just survive. To feel—not just function. To rise—not only react.

As we welcome June and prepare to honor Juneteenth, let’s recognize this holiday for more than a moment in time. Let’s use it as a mirror and a map—revealing where we’ve been and where we still must go, especially within.

Juneteenth is not just about the freeing of enslaved people—it’s about the delay of freedom. It marks the moment in 1865 when those in Galveston, Texas finally learned of the Emancipation Proclamation—two and a half years after it was signed.

That delay? It mirrors the emotional delay many of us live with every day. Long after the trauma ends, the nervous system still doesn’t know it’s free. Long after the gaslighting, the heartbreak, the isolation, our bodies still flinch. Our spirits still whisper, “Am I safe yet?”

So, what do we do?

We don’t wait for someone else to give us permission to be free. We choose to be free.

Juneteenth teaches us that truth and freedom are not always delivered—they’re discovered. They’re embodied.

This June, I invite you to explore the Jewels of Juneteenth—lessons hidden inside hardship. Jewels are those moments or memories that once tried to crush us, yet became catalysts for our transformation. That’s what emotional healing is: the art of flipping pain into power.

In this episode, I talk about the history of Juneteenth and connect the dots between emotional healing, wholeness and historical events.

The Emancipation Proclamation

The Reconstruction Era

Harlem Renaissance/ Jim Crow

Self-nurturing

Invitations

Free Experiences

Retreat

And that’s the theme not only for the month of June, but for my podcast What People Miss, and my movement: From Surviving to Savoring.

This isn’t a cute quote or another checklist. This is a somatic shift. This is about activating the parts of you that forgot how to feel good… and reminding them: Pleasure is not a reward. It’s a right.

Starting Tuesday, June 3 at 7 PM ET, I’m leading a 3-day virtual retreat called:

From Surviving to Savoring: How to Rewire Your Body for Pleasure and Emotional Freedom

This is your sacred space to:

🌿 Let your nervous system finally exhale

🌿 Use your emotions as a map, not a mess

🌿 Reconnect your body to joy and truth

🌿 Remember the woman you were before the world told you otherwise

This is the real work. This is the work that ends emotional abuse—not only in your partnerships or past, but in how you treat yourself.

This is your Juneteenth of the soul.

Will you wear your crown?

Will you meet your requirements instead of waiting for crumbs?

Will you transmute pain into purpose?

Because the other side of this work is joy. It’s embodiment. It’s multi-orgasmic living—not just sexually, but spiritually. Orgasm is the electric spark of life from your core, radiating out through every choice, word, and breath.

Let June be different this year. Let it be your liberation.

💫 You get to reclaim your joy.

💫 You get to savor your life.

💫 You get to become the woman you were always meant to be.

🔗 Register Now for the 3-day virtual retreat:

https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/UPcNX0GISWCgjP-oEnNndA

Let’s walk through the Jewels of Juneteenth together.

#sweetwalk #theultimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #emotionalfreedom #jewels #multiorgasmicliving #pleasure

In this conversation, Abeo Noel and I explore the multifaceted concept of self-care, emphasizing its importance in personal well-being and relationships. We discuss the necessity of recognizing one's own needs, the role of retreats in self-discovery, and the connection between self-care and pleasure. We also touch on cultural perspectives of self-care and practical tips for integrating it into daily life, ultimately advocating for a more mindful approach to personal health and emotional awareness.

We also discuss different forms of retreats:

• Virtual
• Hybrid
• Within
• Domestic
• International

My next virtual retreat From Surviving to Savoring June 3-5 register here https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/UPcNX0GISWCgjP-oEnNndA

Takeaways

• Self-care is essential for emotional well-being.
• Women often lose themselves in relationships and need to reclaim their identity.
• Taking time for self-care is not selfish; it's necessary.
• Retreats can provide valuable space for self-reflection and growth.
• Listening to the body's signals is crucial for self-care.
• Self-care practices can be simple and accessible.
• Cultural perspectives shape our understanding of self-care.
• Self-pleasure is an important aspect of self-care.
• Carving out time for self-care is vital in a busy life.
• Self-care should be a natural part of daily living.

About My Guest:

https://www.diagnosis2desires.com/

Abeo Noel, The Intimacy Coach

With 24 years of experience as a Nurse Practitioner at NYU Langone Health, Abeo Noel has identified a crucial gap in healthcare: the lack of integration of sex education and pleasure into treatment plans. Driven to bridge this divide, she has expanded her practice to include holistic and pleasure-centered care.

Originally from Trinidad and Tobago and raised between there and the U.S., Abeo brings a rich cultural perspective that deeply informs her work. As an Erosomatic Touch Practitioner and Sex Doula, she offers a unique blend of clinical expertise and somatic healing, addressing the full spectrum of physical, emotional, and sexual well-being.

Her work is rooted in the values of family, community, happiness, peace, pleasure, and loyalty. With a deep understanding of how these elements contribute to holistic health, she empowers her clients to embrace pleasure as a vital part of their healing and overall happiness.

#self-care #emotionalawareness #relationships #retreats #wellness #health #pleasure #culturalperspectives #mindfulness #personalgrowth

Think of this episode as a blend of how you consciously and unconsciously make choices. Zai Miztiq and I were talking one day and this came up. 

You get to hear our thoughts and the psychology behind why beautiful women choose ugly men. That means behavior as well as looks. I am bringing levity to mental health awareness whether you are a beautiful woman or ugly man join us 😂🥰🎉

According to Zai Miztiq, it is an A.R.T. Watch and find out how to magnetize the higher version of yourself!

#romance #relationships #mentalhealthawareness 

She is the Founder of Step Up Journey and author, Speaker and coach living in Dubai.

Summary

In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar discusses the often-overlooked challenges that mothers face in balancing work and family life. She highlights the emotional labor involved, the impact on self-worth, and offers practical solutions for reclaiming joy and nurturing oneself amidst the chaos of motherhood. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care, breathing techniques, and the need for mothers to honor themselves and their contributions.

Takeaways

• Mothers face unique work stress that is often overlooked.
• Emotional labor significantly impacts a mother's mental and physical health.
• Self-worth can be diminished by workplace expectations and judgments.
• Mothers should not be penalized for being late due to family responsibilities.
• Overachieving in the workplace can lead to physical stress and anxiety.
• Breathing techniques can help mothers reclaim their joy and reduce stress.
• Delegating tasks at home and work is essential for self-care.
• Mothers should prioritize their own needs and desires.
• Choosing joy and pleasure is vital for mental well-being.
• Every day should be a celebration of motherhood.

If you would like support with your work stress and need a safe space to reclaim your joy, connect with me by scheduling here.

My series on Mothers and Motherhood begins Monday on What People Miss.

This week let’s be honest about Mothers and Divorce.

Some women don’t want it.

Some women do want it.

Both groups sometimes stay bondage to the emotions of their decision and the circumstances which created it for years.

What if you could not only be free of it but use the emotions as the fuel for liberation?

What if you could be divorced and free of attachment?

1 - Choosing Cartwheels over hurtle

2 - Get Comfortable with being curious (wonder and wander)

3 - Co-parenting with Ex

4 - Somatic Healing

If my words resonate, let's talk https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddess/apply-for-reveal-your-erotic-self-clone

#hashtagshortsfeed #theultimatejoygoddess #divorcedmoms #cordeliagaffar #mscorporateamerica #play

In this heartfelt conversation, Renee Miller and I explore the profound themes of love, accountability, and the beauty of life. We discuss the importance of integral love, which emphasizes responsibility and empathy in our interactions. The conversation delves into the barriers that prevent a loving world, including personal struggles and societal issues. Ultimately, they highlight the power of choice and self-love as essential components in creating a more beautiful and connected existence.

Takeaways

If people came from a place of love, we would see more integral energy.

Integral love keeps you accountable and honors others.

We don't want to be honest about our contributions to the world's issues.

We have more power than we think in creating change.

The beauty of life comes from having integral love with ourselves first.

Practicing self-love can transform our relationships with others.

We are all connected, and our actions impact those around us.

The power of choice is essential in overcoming victim mentality.

Aiming for the frequency of joy can change our perspective on life.

We need love at the cornerstone of everything we do.

Connect with Renee @thelovecampofficial and https://www.thelovecamp.co/

Connect with Cordelia @cordeliagaffar and https://cordeliagaffar.com/

#beauty of life #integral love #accountability #self-love #choice #humanity #emotional connection #personal growth #love energy #empowerment

In this engaging conversation, Cordelia Gaffar and Renee Miller explore the multifaceted nature of love, relationships, and personal growth. They discuss the importance of shadow work, effective communication in new relationships, and the role of compassion in leadership. The dialogue emphasizes the need for emotional intelligence and the impact of love blockages on personal and professional interactions. Ultimately, the conversation highlights the transformative power of love and joy in both personal and corporate settings.

#love #relationships #shadow work #communication #compassion #leadership #emotionalintelligence #joy #loveblockages #personalgrowth

About my guest:

Meet Renee Miller, the Founder of the Love Camp, best selling author and creator of the 7 Steps of Compassionate Leadership and Unblock Your Love as well as podcast host of Love Notes with Renee Miller.

https://www.thelovecamp.co/

In this enlightening conversation, Cordelia Gaffar and Dr. Neema Moore delve into the often-overlooked aspects of menopause, discussing its beauty, the challenges of perimenopause, and the impact of hormonal changes on women's health. They explore the significance of community support, the effects of fibroids, and the positive transformations that can occur during this life stage. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-care, confidence, and the opportunity for women to reassess their lives and make meaningful connections as they navigate this transition.

Takeaways

• Menopause can be a time of joy and self-discovery.
• Perimenopause can start as early as 35 years old.
• Women often lack information about menopause from healthcare providers.
• Fibroids are influenced by estrogen and can improve during menopause.
• Menopause can lead to a sexual awakening for some women.
• Community support is crucial for women navigating menopause.
• Confidence often increases during menopause as women prioritize their needs.
• Self-care practices are essential for managing menopause symptoms.
• Exploring new friendships can enrich life during menopause.
• Women should seek alternative therapies for managing fibroids. 

Sound Bites

"Fibroids are fed by estrogen."

"Menopause is great for fibroids!"

"You need to be a part of something."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Menopause and Joy

07:41 Understanding Perimenopause and Menopause

08:59 The Role of Healthcare Providers

13:31 Exploring Alternatives to Hysterectomy

21:38 Impact of Fibroids on Women's Health

25:17 Understanding Menopause and Fibroids

27:48 The Transition to Menopause

30:58 Embracing Change and Confidence

32:57 Creating Community and Support

35:58 Exploring New Friendships and Opportunities

38:50 The Importance of Self-Care and Nurturing

43:37 Curiosity and Exploration in Midlife

45:42 Outro.mp4

About My Guest:

Dr. Neema Tillery Moore is a dynamic Chiropractor, Amazon best-selling author of the empowering book "Confidence NOW!", and a business owner. With a fervent dedication to championing professional women, she is deeply committed to helping them cultivate confidence, enhance their well-being, and step into their full potential. Dr. Moore's educational background includes degrees in Biology Secondary Education and a Doctor of Chiropractic from the esteemed Palmer College of Chiropractic.

Through her multifaceted approach encompassing Chiropractic, Functional Medicine, Global health initiatives, and luxurious wellness retreats, Dr. Moore provides women with transformative experiences to reconnect, prioritize self-care, and manifest their dream lives. Engage with her across various platforms by connecting @drneemadc

Summary

In this conversation, Cordelia Gaffar explores the critical differences between equity and equality, emphasizing the importance of focusing on equity to achieve fairness and justice. She discusses cultural transformation, the need to value all forms of work, the significance of financial inclusion for women, and the empowerment that comes from self-care and joy. Gaffar encourages listeners to recognize their own worth and the worth of others, advocating for a shift in perspective that prioritizes equity over equality.

Takeaways

Equity focuses on fairness and justice, while equality means providing the same to all.

Cultural transformation is essential for changing perceptions of women.

Valuing all forms of work is crucial for achieving equity.

Financial inclusion must be accessible and educational for women.

Women need to prioritize their own desires and well-being.

Self-care and joy are forms of empowerment.

Emotions are guides to understanding justice and fairness.

Recognizing systemic barriers is key to achieving equity.

The way we talk about ourselves influences our self-worth.

Focusing on solutions rather than problems leads to progress.

Sound Bites

"Focus on equity, not equality."

"Women have to want for themselves."

"Equity focuses on the solution."

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Equity vs. Equality

05:27 Cultural Transformation and Its Importance

13:48 Valuing All Forms of Work

16:50 Financial Inclusion for Women

20:36 Empowerment Through Self-Awareness and Pleasure

28:01 Outro.mp4

, "Aging has a wonderful beauty, and we should have respect for that."

Have you questioned your looks? Felt judged for them? Or even avoided discussing them for fear of (fill in the blank)? Let's talk about what beauty is and is not.

self awareness, 

self love, 

rediscovery and 

the importance of recognizing the beauty within us.

Introducing Dr. Chi Quita Mack, MSW: distinguished social worker, accomplished author, and revered healing coach. Driven by an unyielding commitment to excellence, she stands as a beacon of inspiration and empowerment to all who cross her path.

With a profound dedication to knowledge and service, Dr. Chi Quita Mack holds the highest academic accolades, including a Doctor of Philosophy in Entrepreneurship & Business Administration, a Master of Social Work, and a Bachelor of Science in Biology with a minor in Military Science. Her academic prowess is matched only by her unwavering determination to effect positive change in the lives of others.

As the visionary owner and founder of The Chi Quita Mack, LLC and the owner and Founder of the non-profit Rediscovery, Dr. Mack has crafted a sanctuary for women, a haven where healing thrives, inspiration ignites, and the resounding echo of resilience reverberates. Her mission is clear: to remind every woman of her inherent strength, to guide her towards rediscovery, and to empower her to reclaim her essence.

Dr. Chi Quita Mack's transformative journey commenced in the hills of West Virginia, where she navigated early motherhood at the tender age of 21. Confronted with profound challenges, she grappled with the elusive pursuit of purpose, happiness, and peace. It was amidst this crucible of self-discovery that she unearthed the profound depths of self-love and the transformative power of introspection. In her quest to illuminate the path to healing, Dr. Mack authored "The Beauty in You" Workbook, a seminal guide designed to usher women through the seven realms of rediscovery: from self-love to goal setting, each step a testament to the resilience of the human spirit.

An impassioned advocate for women's empowerment, Dr. Mack lends her voice to "The Beauty in You Podcast," where she amplifies the narratives of women worldwide as they navigate their own journeys of rediscovery. 

With a multitude of certifications as a Certified Life, Mindfulness, Business, and Entrepreneurship Coach, Dr. Chi Quita Mack embodies the essence of resilience, compassion, and unwavering determination. Her roots may lie in Columbus, GA, but her indomitable spirit knows no bounds, touching lives and igniting transformation in the hallowed halls of Washington DC and beyond. Dr. Chi Quita Mack stands as a testament to the boundless potential that resides within each of us a luminous force of inspiration, empowerment, and unyielding grace.