In todays episode of our “Let’s Talk Polyamory” series of the podcast, we deep dive into all things fear of abandonment and replacement. Todays topic really hits close to home for both of us, in very different ways. And it seems to hit close to home to many of you as well — next to jealousy, this has been our most requested conversation!

Tune in to todays episode to hear all about:

how we’ve navigated these fears pre polyamory

specifics around how we’ve struggled with these fears in wildly unique ways

how attachment theory plays into this

where this fear really stems from

Amanda gets vulnerable AF about some of her experiences that have led to her feeling more of these feelings in the last year 

why we attract people into our lives that amplify our fears

tools that have supported us while navigating fear of being replaced or abandoned and beyond

Episode #120: Let's Talk Polyamory | A Conversation Around Fear of Replacement with My Husband

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We’re finally doing it — an episode dedicated to all things demisexuality!Understanding demisexuality was the lightbulb I needed in fully understanding myself and how/why my attraction has looked like the way it has. I always felt … weird. Different. And I didn’t understand why I didn’t experience that initial intense physical attraction towards someone, ever. In todays episode, we dive into my personal flavor of demisexuality, how I’ve adapted my dating practices to align with my unique needs and all about the lightbulb switch that has everything to do with my attraction needs.THINGS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:Episode 160 The Podcast InstagramWORK, SUPPORT & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:Amanda’s Instagram | Website | Tik TokAmanda’s book, I Chopped Off My TitsJoin her email list for free curated playlists and very occasional gifts & announcements in your inboxDM or email Amanda for current somatic/embodiment coaching opportunities 

Episode #161: Let's Talk Demisexuality

One of the most common things I get asked by you all is how I’m really doing post / during my divorce, and I get it. I haven’t really talked about how I’m doing in a direct way regarding this particular piece of my story and while that’s been intentional — I realized that not doing so was also a disservice to all of you and to this process.If there’s anything I’ve realized through this experience, it’s that there are not a lot of blueprints out there on how to navigate the process of a divorce. What you might expect. Shit you might face. I thought I could have predicted what the last year and half would look like. And I was wrong. It’s been a rollercoaster. One that I’m finally sharing more about on todays episode. If you are going through a divorce or a de-escalation, please give yourself some grace. This shit is hard. Complicated. Messy. And if you know someone going through either, reach out to them and tell them you’re there. PS: my neighbors downstairs were having what sounded like a rave during the only time I had to record this so, enjoy the weird ambient music LOLWORK, SUPPORT & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:Amanda’s Instagram | Website | Tik TokAmanda’s book, I Chopped Off My TitsJoin her email list for free curated playlists and very occasional gifts & announcements in your inboxDM or email Amanda for current somatic/embodiment coaching opportunities 

Episode #160: How I'm Really Doing | A Divorce Update

Did I ever think I’d have a former partner, a queer platonic partner and a platonic life partner together for an in depth conversation around all things queerness? If you had told me a few years ago, I would have been like hell no. I didn’t even know platonic partnership could be a thing back then. AND to have former partners of mine want to participate in my world and be willing to navigate the nuance and intricacies of de-escalation alongside of me while also witnessing me in partnership? I imagined it — hoped for it — but to have it realized is such a gift.I love these humans. They are some of my most treasured folks in my inner constellation of loved ones. I have learned so much from being in partnership and in sphere with Rach (she/her), Kels (they/them) and Kristen (she/her). And I am just so f*cking excited to share this conversation with one of you.It might just be my favorite episode to date. Things we talk about in todays episode: queer-ness as a celebration of anti-normative living and being the idea of hierarchy and the variety of what commitment can look like in relationshipsromantic, platonic relationships internalized homophobia the difference between bisexuality and pansexualityhow the patriarchy and comp het impacts queer dynamicsand a shit ton of goofy energy and personal stories CONNECT WITH KRISTEN, RACH & KELS:Instagram: Kristen | Rach | Kels LINKS MENTIONED IN TODAYS EPISODE:Fucking Queer Merch  - use code QUEERDO for 15% off Episode 100: This Is Pride (We’re Here And We’re Queer)Rachels previous episodes: Episode 148: Platonic Intimacy & Why We Really Went On A Break | Episode 86 | Episode 64: How Fluid id Sexuality Anyways? | Episode 51: Breaking the Stigma of Therapy | Episode 37: The Truth About Anxiety | Episode 9WORK, SUPPORT & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:Snag one of Amanda’s June somatic embodiment coaching pop up sessions : 60 mins | 90 mins Amanda’s Instagram | Website | Tik TokAmanda’s book, I Chopped Off My TitsJoin her email list for free curated playlists and very occasional gifts & announcements in your inbox

Episode #159: A Conversation on Queerness with My Inner Circle of Queer Bbs Rachel, Kels & Kristen

This is my fifth pride out as a queer person, and I would be lying if I said that I haven’t felt at a loss on how to being to find queer community. Part of queer-ness isn’t just going from thinking you’re straight to knowing you’re queer and then voila, you’ve got the queer life of your dreams. It’s a whirlwind of unpacking comp het, going through queer puberty (I used to scoff at the idea of this but it’s a thing), and finding where you feel the most at home and yourself in your queerness.Not to mention getting your brain unf*cked from the patriarchy.These are conversations I have in my own circles, often, and I’m so grateful to have someone like Rainn in my own life to learn from and converse with. And I’m even more stoked that they agreed to come on the pod for us to have one of these conversations with all of you.If you aren’t familiar with Rainn (She/They), she is a Black lesbian artist and writer living in Chicago. She’s the Host and Co-Organizer of Fruit Salad, a monthly queer open mic. Her writing has appeared in several online publications, and her second poetry chapbook, “In our hands, citrus” will be released later this year. Her artwork has appeared at Co-Prosperity Sphere, The Whistler, The Robin in the Martin, and The Franklin.Things we talk about in todays episode:how the fuck to make queer friendstheir queer timeline and how she’s navigated all things non monogamy, internalized homophobia and de-escalations in their relationships why lesbianism means so much to her how to know where you belong local artist & queer community, and the way she’s personally contributing to it with Fruit Saladall things chosen family, sapphic love, power dynamics in relationships  and beyond ALL THINGS BEDUCATED:Get 40% off yearly pass for Beducated — use code: fuckyes Best part? You can try ALL Beducated courses for 1 Day FREE! You won’t get charged for the first 24 hours so if it’s not for you, you can cancel.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED:Rainn’s Instagram Fruit Salad | Dorothy Downstairs | The Martin Fucking Queer Merch  - use code QUEERDO for 15% off WORK, SUPPORT & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:Snag one of Amanda’s June somatic embodiment coaching pop up sessions : 60 mins | 90 mins Amanda’s Instagram | Website | Tik TokAmanda’s book, I Chopped Off My TitsJoin her email list for free curated playlists and very occasional gifts & announcements in your inbox

Episode #158: Cultivating Queer Community with Rainn Thomas

CW: sexual assault, harassment“Something is wrong with me.” Words I used to think and say out loud all the damn time when I wasn’t feeling turned on enough or when I felt pain during sex or when I started having sex with vulva owners and had no idea what the fuck I was doing. If only I’d known about how trauma and living in a culture rooted in the patriarchy can impact our own body’s (and thus selves) ability to access our own needs for consent, our own voice and access our own desires. In todays very raw and incredibly important episode, I’m so honored to be joined by Mariah Freya (she/her), co-founder and CEO of Beducated — the worlds leading online shame free sex education platform — to deep dive into all of this and more.Things we talk about in todays episode:our shared experience with sexual trauma and how that has impacted our sex lives and capacity for pleasure cultivating safety in sex Mariah’s dangerous experience in the tantric communityhow big tech is intentionally getting in the way of shame free sex education dissociation and PTSD responses during / around sex ways to deepen into your pleasure with intention navigating low libido, pelvic floor pain, cults, punk culture and beyond ALL THINGS BEDUCATED:Get 50% off yearly pass for Beducated — use code: fuckyes Best part? You can try ALL Beducated courses for 1 Day FREE! You won’t get charged for the first 24 hours so if it’s not for you, you can cancel :) ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED:Mariah’s Instagram | Beducated’s Instagram — use code “fuckyes”NXIVM documentary the Vow Fucking Queer Merch  - use code QUEERDO for 15% off WORK, SUPPORT & CONNECT WITH AMANDA:Amanda’s Instagram | Website | Tik TokAmanda’s book, I Chopped Off My TitsPatreon to support the pod Join her email list for free curated playlists and very occasional gifts & announcements in your inboxFucking Queer Merch — 100% of proceeds from now through the end of Pride Month will go towards the LGBTQ+ charity/organization the community chooses 

Episode #120: Let's Talk Polyamory | A Conversation Around Fear of Replacement with My Husband

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