Why do you snap at small things, get stuck in endless busyness, go numb and disconnected, or find yourself saying yes when you want to say no?

In this episode, we explore the four survival states your nervous system moves into under stress: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn.

I’ll share everyday examples so you can recognise which state feels most familiar to you, and how each one shapes your life.

You’ll learn:✨ How to notice when you’re in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn✨ Why these states aren’t “bad habits” but protective responses from your body✨ The first gentle steps to begin processing and finding safety again

By the end, you’ll see yourself with more compassion, and start to understand the deeper wisdom behind the ways your body has been protecting you.

Resources & Links:

🎧 Free somatic audio for days you feel disconnected

→ https://tr.ee/pjPzCopPeV

📸 Connect with me on Instagram

→ @clara.holds.space

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💌 Download the Nervous System Survival States Cheat Sheet PDF→https://tinyurl.com/NSstates🌿 Want to go deeper?

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Ever wondered why affirmations or “just think positive” advice don't actually work when you’re stressed, anxious, or frozen?

In this episode, I share:✨ Why your nervous system reacts to the unknown as if it’s unsafe.✨ The difference between your conscious mind (5%) and your subconscious (95%).✨ Why mindset tools don’t land when your body is in survival mode.✨ What somatic work does differently — and simple things you can try right now.

Think of it like this: mindset tools are seeds.

But your body has to feel safe for those seeds to grow.

Resources & Links:

🎧 Free somatic audio for days you feel disconnected → linktr.ee/tobehuman.life

📸 Connect with me on Instagram → @clara.holds.space

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Welcome to Season 2 of Letters to the Part of Me: A Podcast on Somatic Healing, Presence, and the Nervous System.

This season, we’re doing things a little differently: blending my personal reflections with clear, compassionate education on the nervous system, so you can better understand your body and what it needs to feel safe.

In this first episode, I share the single piece of knowledge that completely shifted how I see myself and my stress: how the stress cycle works, and why so many of us get stuck in it.

You’ll learn:
✨What your nervous system actually is, explained simply
✨Why our stress response is ancient (and how it’s still reacting to “modern lions”)
✨The real reason tension, fog, and exhaustion linger after the problem is “over”
✨Simple, practical ways to help your body complete the stress cycle
✨Why understanding this process can lead to more self-compassion, not self-blame

I also share a personal story from my years working in tech support — and how sitting still during constant “emergencies” left my body buzzing, even after I went home.

If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t just “think your way calm” or why rest doesn’t always work, this episode will give you the missing piece.

Resources & Links:
🎧 Free somatic audio for days you feel disconnected → linktr.ee/tobehuman.life
📸 Connect with me on Instagram → @clara.holds.space
💌 Share your thoughts on this episode

In this deeply personal letter, I share two pivotal moments — one in a yoga studio surrounded by beauty and softness, and another deep in the Amazon jungle, surrounded by snakes, scorpions, and darkness.

One triggered my nervous system. The other helped it relax.

This episode explores why safety is never about appearances, how neuroception runs the show, and why being told “you’re safe” can sometimes make your body feel the opposite.

Includes somatic cues and breath-based reflection.

You’re ready to feel again.

If you’ve ever wondered, “shouldn’t I be further by now?”
This letter is for you.

In this gentle somatic episode, I speak to the part of you who’s done all the work — the diets, the books, the affirmations — and still feels behind.

This is a reminder:You’re not broken.

You’re becoming.
And healing was never meant to be linear.

Together we’ll explore:

Why urgency isn’t your fault — it’s your nervous system

What healing actually feels like in the body

Somatic pauses to regulate, reflect + reconnect

A prompt for the version of you who’s still trying to “get it right”

Take a breath.
Let your jaw soften.
And let this land where it’s needed most.

✨ Free Quiz: What’s Your Disconnection Flavour?

→ https://to-be-human.kit.com/profile

✨ Follow www.instagram.com/tobehuman.life/ for more somatic rituals + Human Design guidance
✨ New episodes every week

This one is for the overthinkers.

The overachievers.

The ones who flinch at kindness and feel like they have to fix themselves before they’re lovable.

In this tender letter, I speak to the part of you who fears she’s too much… or just too broken.

You’ll hear:

You don’t need fixing.
You need space.
You need breath.
You need someone to whisper:
“You’re not a project. You’re a person.”

Take a breath. Come back home. Let this letter hold the part of you that tried so hard to be okay.

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To go further:
🌿 Take the nervous system quiz — and receive your letter + gentle somatic practices
🎧 Listen to past episodes for more body-based healing

✨ New here? Follow on Instagram @tobehuman.life for daily nervous system reminders.

This letter is for the part of you that’s always doing.
The part that equates stillness with laziness.
The one who believes rest has to be earned.

In this first episode, I write to the overachiever.
The fixer. The one who keeps running — even when she's tired.

We explore how nervous system patterns shape our pace.
Why slowing down feels unsafe.
And how rest is not a reward, but a remembering.

There will be pauses.
There will be breath.
There will be truth spoken gently.

If you've ever felt guilty for resting… this one's for you.

💌 Want to understand why slowing down feels hard?
Take the Nervous System Quiz + receive your free somatic practices:👉 Take the quiz here

🫶 Let’s stay connected:
Follow me on Instagram for more somatic reflections + soft reminders→@tobehuman.life