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Letting Go of Control: Why Perfectionism Won't Work in Motherhood (and What Will)

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You love your baby. You want to do it right. But perfectionism — the same strategy that helped you succeed before motherhood — might be leaving you overwhelmed, anxious, and disconnected. In this episode, Dina shares why control feels so tempting in early motherhood, how perfectionism takes hold, and what actually helps you soften and reconnect with yourself and your baby. Plus, a deeply vulnerable story about breastfeeding, shame, and surrender.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • Why perfectionism feels like safety — and how it backfires in motherhood

  • What your “control part” is trying to protect you from

  • Dina’s personal story of letting go during one of her hardest moments as a new mom

  • The real emotional cost of trying to “do it all right”

  • What actually helps: self-compassion, flexibility, presence, and letting go of the “shoulds”

    • If you’ve ever thought:

    • “I just need to figure this out and stay ahead of it…”

    • “If I can’t do this perfectly, I’m failing.”

    • “Why do I feel so out of control even though I’m trying so hard?”

      • This episode will help you breathe, soften, and feel less alone.

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      If you’re ready to finally feel supported emotionally in motherhood — and learn how to quiet your inner critic, release the pressure of perfectionism, and reconnect with yourself — the Here With You, Mama course is for you.

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      Here with You, MamaBy Dina Tamres