What happens when your identity clashes with your partner's? Steph and Shellby dive deep into this question as they explore the complexities of dating within the queer community. Steph shares her personal struggle of feeling erased while dating a trans man who wanted to present as completely straight to the world. "I felt like a faker all the time," she reveals, capturing the emotional toll of suppressing one's authentic self for another's comfort.

The conversation shifts to the absurdity of bathroom politics, where both hosts share stories of being confronted simply for entering the "wrong" restroom based on their appearance. "People are so concerned about what's in our pants. It's ridiculous," they agree, highlighting how arbitrary gender policing affects daily life for many in the LGBTQ+ community. Their advocacy for gender-neutral bathrooms comes from practical experience rather than political ideology—a refreshing perspective in today's heated climate.

Trust and independence in relationships take center stage when discussing Pride events. Would they be okay with their partners attending without them? The amusing anecdote about not even wanting to be left behind for a quick trip to buy lettuce ("You're not going without me!") reveals how deeply intertwined their relationships are with their identities. Through humor and vulnerability, Steph and Shellby create a space where difficult conversations become accessible and where listeners might recognize their own experiences or gain new understanding of others'. Join their Discord community to continue the conversation, email your thoughts to [email protected], and don't forget to follow wherever you get your podcasts!

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What happens when two best friends dive into the unspoken truths of queer dating? Pure, unfiltered honesty that's equal parts hilarious and thought-provoking.

Steph and Shellby tackle the question of height preferences in relationships, revealing how their 5'9" and 5'10" statures influence their dating experiences. The conversation uncovers surprising insights about protection dynamics and how heteronormative expectations sometimes infiltrate queer relationships. Both hosts share laughable moments about their partners' reactions to height differences – from tippy-toe kisses to protests when heels make the gap even wider.

The episode takes a serious turn when discussing whether dating someone in the closet is even possible. Drawing from personal experiences, they distinguish between emotional connections with closeted women versus actual dating, concluding that authentic relationships require authenticity from both parties. "Nobody's falling for that," they agree, while acknowledging the legitimate fears that keep people from coming out.

The most controversial segment explores their difficulty understanding bisexuality. With remarkable candor, they admit their limited perspectives while extending an invitation to bisexual listeners to educate them in future episodes. "We're not saying it's not okay, we're saying we don't understand. There's a difference," Shellby clarifies, showcasing their willingness to learn and evolve.

Throughout it all, the rapport between Steph and Shellby creates a uniquely intimate listening experience. Their easy banter and fearless approach to taboo subjects makes you feel like you're eavesdropping on a private conversation between friends – complete with cocktails, curse words, and gut-busting laughter.

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Ever wondered if your dating disasters were uniquely catastrophic? Steph and Shellbz are here to assure you they've been there too—and probably worse. In this unfiltered episode, they dive headfirst into their romantic misadventures that'll make you cringe, laugh, and perhaps feel a little better about your own love life.

From Shellb's tale of being elaborately catfished at a hotel by someone who vanished into thin air, to Steph's confession about ghosting dates and making dramatic exits, these stories expose the messier side of modern dating. The hosts candidly admit to their "villain eras" between relationships—those periods when heartbreak transforms even the most loving people into emotional wrecking balls. "When I'm in a relationship, I'm fucking in it. But when my heart's broken, I stuff down all the emotions and I like to fuck around and find out," Shellbz confesses with characteristic frankness.

What makes this episode particularly powerful is the transformation arc. As they reflect on their current healthy relationships, both hosts acknowledge how far they've come from toxic patterns they once normalized. "I can't even imagine feeling that shitty now," Steph remarks, describing the stark contrast between her past relationship filled with constant demands for "proof" and her current partnership built on trust. Their journey reveals how sometimes the messiest paths lead to the most beautiful destinations—and how self-awareness and healing are prerequisites to finding authentic love.

Whether you're currently swiping through dating apps, healing from heartbreak, or enjoying a healthy relationship, this episode offers both solidarity and hope. Join us for this raw, honest conversation about the human experience of seeking connection, making mistakes, and finally finding relationships where "fights" revolve around who's buying beer rather than dealing with genuine conflict. Subscribe now to LezCommunicate for more unfiltered conversations that make you feel less alone in your own journey.

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"Why do we keep moving in together after just four days when it never works out?" That's the burning question at the heart of this hilarious and honest exploration of U-Hauling in queer relationships. Steph and Shellbz hold nothing back as they dissect their own disastrous experiences with moving in too quickly—from Steph's teenage romance with a woman nine years her senior to Shellb's accidental snapchat mishap that exposed her fuckboi tendencies.

The hosts challenge the stereotype that U-Hauling is exclusively a lesbian phenomenon, though they admit the queer timeline seems ridiculously accelerated: "It's usually lesbians with like four weeks, maybe two... Like four days." They unpack the psychology behind these rushed decisions, revealing how present-focused thinking blinds us to long-term compatibility issues. "You don't even look at the bigger picture," Shellbz points out. "You just look at the right now."

What makes this conversation particularly compelling is the hosts' self-awareness. Steph recognizes how she's shifted from being the reluctant U-Hauler in past relationships to eagerly encouraging her current partner to move in—but with a crucial difference. She now regularly checks in: "Are you sure you actually want to do this?" This growth reflects a deeper understanding of healthy relationship progression. Meanwhile, Shellbz shares her experience of gradually integrating into her partner's space, from leaving a toothbrush to having dedicated dresser space, illustrating that not all cohabitation journeys need to involve a literal U-Haul.

The episode reaches peak entertainment with a listener's dating horror story involving deceptive profile pictures and the shock of discovering her date was dramatically shorter than expected—"Standing next to me was a woman in 10-inch boots... maybe three feet two inches tall."

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Relationships fail. It happens. But why is it so hard to admit when we've played a role in their demise? 

This raw, unfiltered conversation tackles the uncomfortable truth about relationship endings—they're rarely one person's fault. Through candid stories of marriages that crumbled and partnerships that dissolved, we explore the liberating power of admitting "both of us were fucked in that situation." This isn't about blame but about the growth that comes from honest self-reflection.

We dive into anxiety's paradoxical nature in relationships, functioning as both destroyer and potential superpower. For those who've battled relationship anxiety, we offer perspectives on transforming that hypervigilance into something constructive. The conversation meanders through unexpected territory, revealing how embracing your inner child—whether through Batman signal lights, basketball hoops, or Pokemon cards—creates space for authentic connection with partners who accept your whole self.

The discussion takes a serious turn when addressing the prohibitive cost of mental healthcare, with therapy sessions running $250 each and some people needing multiple weekly appointments. We question whether these financial barriers serve as intentional gatekeeping, keeping crucial resources from those who need them most. For listeners struggling with access to mental healthcare, we share alternative resources that have helped us bridge the gaps.

This episode isn't just about our stories—it's an invitation to join a larger conversation. We're asking you to send in your relationship questions, dilemmas, and topics for future discussions. Whether you're healing from relationship trauma or building something new, there's wisdom in collective experience and power in knowing you're not alone in your struggles.

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Ever catch yourself doom-scrolling until 3AM after a breakup? Or suddenly becoming a workaholic when your heart gets broken? You're not alone.

Steph and Shellbz pull back the curtain on the coping mechanisms we develop after relationships end – those unhealthy healing habits we don't even recognize until we're in a better place. From self-isolation to overworking to what they bluntly call "becoming a whore," the hosts share their personal experiences with disarming honesty and plenty of laugh-out-loud moments.

"If I don't know what you went through and the things that bother you and trigger you, I can't fix the things that I'm doing that are upsetting you," Shellbz explains, highlighting why talking about past relationships with current partners is so crucial, even when it's uncomfortable.

The conversation weaves through anxiety medications, finding partners who create safe spaces for vulnerability, and the freedom that comes from acknowledging both the good and bad from previous relationships. You'll find yourself nodding along as they describe the subtle ways we avoid processing emotional pain and how communication becomes the ultimate antidote.

Whether you're healing from heartbreak or building a healthier relationship now, this episode offers both comfort and clarity. Because sometimes the most unhealthy thing we do is pretend we're taking time for ourselves when we're actually running from our feelings.

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Have you ever found yourself caught between the exhilaration of new love and the whispers of your past trauma? In this deeply personal episode, Steph and Shellbz pull back the curtain on what happens when you find someone who loves you exactly as you are—anxieties, insecurities, and all.

The conversation explores that maddening internal voice that tells us we're not enough, with Steph admitting, "I try to convince myself 'you're hot, you're successful, you're a fucking catch'... but my brain doesn't let me think that way." Both hosts share how they've struggled to be vulnerable after relationships where their feelings were dismissed or belittled. The breakthrough comes in finding partners who respond to vulnerability not with judgment but with acceptance: "Just tell me what I need to do."

Perhaps most compelling is their exploration of finding love when you've stopped looking for it. Shellbz confesses, "I never planned on being in a relationship. I was good with being alone," while Steph describes her failed attempt at entering "ho phase" before falling unexpectedly in love. They discuss the significance of merging lives and giving up individual "safe spaces" when moving in together—a particularly profound step for those who've experienced relationship trauma.

The hosts also tackle the well-meaning but sometimes frustrating advice from friends to "slow down" in new relationships. Their message is clear: while caution is understandable, sometimes your heart knows what others can't see. As Steph puts it, "Once I decide to do something, I'm not going to take anyone else's opinion into consideration. You either get on board or get the fuck out of my way."

Join us for this raw, honest conversation about learning to trust again, the courage to be vulnerable, and the indescribable joy of finding someone who makes you feel seen, heard, and cherished. Connect with us at lezcommunicate.com, join our Discord community, or email us at [email protected].

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Nothing says "queer relationship" quite like getting matching face tattoos and looking at houses together within weeks of dating. In this candid episode, we pull back the curtain on what it means to fall hard and fast while still carrying the baggage from past relationships.

The conversation flows naturally from lighthearted tales of relationship milestones – like plans to move to an acreage and potential marriage in the Maldives – to deeper reflections on healing and growth. One of us shares the vulnerable experience of realizing how much unresolved trauma remains when simple misunderstandings trigger disproportionate emotional responses. The other confesses to a social media stalking spiral that led to an important moment of honesty with her partner.

What makes this episode particularly special is our exploration of how communication changes everything. We discuss the revelation of finding partners who think our annoying quirks are endearing, the freedom that comes with being able to express anger without fear, and the courage it takes to admit when insecurity drives us to "go psycho" (we've all been there). 

Most touching is our reflection on how differently we approach conflict now – no more shutting down, no more walking on eggshells, just honest conversations that start with "I don't want to offend you, but..." These moments highlight the beautiful growth that can happen when we find relationships that make us feel safe enough to be fully ourselves.

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What happens when the chaos and drama you've grown accustomed to in relationships suddenly disappears, replaced by something calm, supportive, and—dare we say—"boring"? Steph and Shellbz dive deep into the disorienting transition from toxic relationships to healthy ones, revealing the unexpected challenges that arise when you finally experience genuine love.

The hosts share vulnerable stories about their trauma responses, like apologizing excessively for simply existing. "I didn't even know I was doing it," Shellbz admits, while Steph shares how her partner gently points it out: "knock it off." They explore how previous partners systematically undermined their confidence through seemingly small criticisms—from eyeliner application to t-shirt choices—and the liberation that comes from finally being with someone who builds them up instead.

Perhaps most revealing is their mutual confession of not knowing how to respond when consistently receiving genuine affection and desire. "Yesterday she looked at me like I was a whole fucking snack just while I was trying to do shit around the house and I didn't know what to do with that," Shellbz shares. This leads to a profound discussion about distinguishing between infatuation, obsession, lust, and authentic love—and how past relationships they labeled as "love" were actually more about fixing someone or being needed.

The episode culminates in a powerful realization: healthy relationships feel different because they've finally learned to value themselves first. As Steph puts it, "I feel like at that point in time... I just wanted to show her that there was good in the world. But did I want that? Did I believe that was going to last? I don't think so."

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Ever wondered why it's so hard to cut ties with someone you know isn't right for you? Or felt that strange mix of guilt and relief when you finally find happiness after a toxic relationship?

Steph and Shellbz tackle the emotional rollercoaster that comes with exes discovering new relationships and the complicated feelings that follow. From the surprising support of Shelby's ex-wife to the bitter reactions that leave you questioning yourself, they explore every angle of this universal experience with their signature blend of wisdom and humor.

"I didn't know if other people felt that way as well," Shellbz wonders aloud, as they discuss the anxiety of an ex finding out about a new partner. This vulnerability opens the door to a deeper conversation about why we sometimes fear moving on publicly, even when we're genuinely happy.

The hosts share their personal journeys through toxic relationship cycles, with Steph candidly revealing how she packed her belongings "at least 15 times in the last year" before finally walking away for good. Her powerful realization that staying meant accepting "this feeling of worthlessness for the rest of my life" resonates with anyone who's struggled to leave a situation that no longer serves them.

Perhaps most illuminating is their discussion of trauma bonding - how many relationships form through shared difficult experiences rather than healthy foundations. Both hosts confess to having "savior complexes" in previous relationships, always trying to "fix" their partners, and the disorienting experience of finally finding someone who simply offers love without the drama.

If you've ever questioned whether you deserve happiness after heartbreak, struggled to recognize what healthy love looks like, or wondered why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns, this episode offers both comfort and clarity. Connect with us on Discord through lezcommunicate.com to continue the conversation.

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