This is a touchy topic here. Kevin Samuels is the one who gave this term and definition to the public. Now, I do feel like there is a such thing as a High Value Man and High Value Woman. Listen as I give my explaination of what this type of individual is. You maybe surprised at what you hear me say!!!!

Chile, this topic right here! We often argue about the value of Women and Men through submission and 50/50 conversations. The value of each sex has been reduced to money, clout, and sex. That's it, there is no substance for anything beyond those I just named. We have been so accustomed to living in chaos that anything less than chaos or anything more than chaos will have folks' panties in a bunch. We HATE being found out, we want to seem like the smarter one, more knowledgeable, etc. Listen as I breakdown why both or necessary in this world and which I feel is more valuable.

LAWD LAWD LAWD!!! It's a lot of Queens but none really doing queen-type shit. It's a lot of women pretending to heal by saying the phrases and affirmations, however, ain't doing a lick of work to heal. Healing is a daily practice that requires no days off. It's a painful road because it's one filled with truth and transparency. We are easily able to point fingers at someone else for their wrongs, HOWEVER, we not pointing fingers at ourselves. We aren't able to see the wrong in ourselves and if someone points them out, we snap and call them a hater. I see women doing photoshoots with women surrounding them as if they are the Queen of Africa or some shit thinking that makes them "look" like a healed individual. What that really shows, is your dictatorship, your inability to sit along side women. Listen as I break this shit down on my BIRTHDAY!!!!!

I needed to touch on this topic. I experienced this space and sometimes I still hit the wall and have to work my way out. Mental health in black folks shows up differently than it does with white folks. We don't "act out" the same. The reality is, we honestly don't know what it looks like in us because the textbook description is based on white folks. We don't know how to recognize when our own is suffering. We will watch them suffer and not know that's what's happening. This is one HUGE reason why black men and black women can't get on one accord, we don't know what the fuck we are looking at, and we don't know how to help each other because we do not know what mental health really looks like in the average human being that's up functioning in life daily. We believe that mental health is a person who has the basic signs, ready to be carted off to the nut house n shit.

Chile, y’all may feel a way about what I feel about this BUT!!! Idc, 😂🤣 listen as I give my perspective on 2 magazine covers that many feel have feminized black men!

Whew I know I will ruffle feathers here as well, however, IDC!!! My interpretation of an Alpha Masculine male is discussed in this episode. It's many that claim to be, but there are only a few that can be and will be. There are OG's that I've seen exude this behavior which is why I am convinced that we are truly confused about what this individual should represent and look like. We've really gotten away from what this is supposed to be, rather than created some fairytale of what this could be. We live a lot in fairytales instead of what the higher power says.

Baby listen here, we live so damn poorly. We move with no real intentions. We are the most externally pretty yet physically & mentally unhealthy society. We spend the most time self-sabotaging to gain the bag. We will cause ourselves physical and mental anguish to catch the bag. Our relationships are built on what we can gain from someone rather than how we can build with someone.  Nothing is really authentic, we are hustling each other and finding ways to gain clout so we can secure more bags. We forget about the relationships and the love of the people, we lost that shit.

Ok, I know some will come for me and it's ok. TRUST ME. This wouldn't be the first time. I stand on this, hygiene can not be confused with mental health treatment. It's not, it's not even self-care. Self-care is things you do that heal the mind, body, and spirit. The only thing you gain from the hairdresser, nail salon, concerts, drugs, and sex are short bouts of relief from reality. After that, you're back in the swing of what your reality is. Did those actions give you anything more to relieve the tension you constantly experience and feel? Did it gift you anything that could be used long-term to grow past these struggles? 

To be clear, I am not saying to do these things, I am simply saying don't place them in the category as a healing tool for mental health. Those are not the tools you reach for when life gets rough and challenging.

This Valentine's Day edition which will air later discusses why I choose not to date. Dating isn't complicated it's just not for me right now. The men I desire are not what's in front of me and until that narrative changes, my ass will be out of the way. 

I've tried dating, but it just doesn't suit me and the space I am in right now. I really thoroughly enjoy rolling solo and dating myself. This is a space I have always wanted to explore and damnit that's what I am doing. Being freely me and meeting dope ass individuals along the way that can respect one's stance and perspectives without it hindering the growth of a relationship.

I never took the time to really speak from an understanding space when it came to this situation. I would speak from a place of hatred, words drowned out by my bitterness and disbelief of what happened. I removed the understanding I had for people to be angry at him. I am now able to speak about this from a different mindset, one that's in therapy,  and practicing meditation. Giving him grace as I give myself grace offers me the ability to tell this story from what I believe is a fair perspective.