[TESSA] So what happens as we get older? What happens to the libido? What about poly people? Do people become more open? Do they just maintain their relationships with multiple partners? Do they become more conservative sexually?

We consider these questions with our guest this week, Kathy Labriola. 

We discuss the practical value of multiple partners later in life, finding your community, and our different views today vs. a generation before about poly lifestyles. Kathy is a wealth of information. Kathy also references a study completed by Jim Fleckenstein who was an early guest on our podcast. You can revisit that episode here: Jim Fleckenstein.

Here are a few links for us as we consider trends and behaviors on elder polyamory:

“Young People More Open to Polyamory”

“It’s a Little Bit Tricky”: Results from the POLYamorous Childbearing and Birth Experiences Study (POLYBABES)

The Most Surprising Monogamy Vs Polyamory Statistics And Trends in 2023

Kathy Labriola is a counselor, nurse, and hypnotherapist in private practice in Berkeley, California. She has written two previous books on relationships and has years of professional experience working with polyamorous singles, couples, and groupings on relationship dynamics. Dossie Easton is the co-author of the bestselling The Ethical Slut. She is also a psychotherapist, relationship counselor, and educator. Since 1969, she has lived and worked in sexual minority cultures and is an authority on polyamory.

Joy Lynn Okoye describes her current work as centered on writing, meditation, and the relationship between relational integrity and grief

David and Veronica’s adventurous spirit shines through as they share their journey transitioning from traditional home life to full-time globetrotting.

No Shame Tackling Sex Taboos. We delve into the rich and intricate world of modern relationships through the lens of our remarkable guests, CJ and Linwood

Dr. Laurie Mintz, a renowned psychologist and sex therapist, brings a wealth of knowledge about women’s sexuality, especially as they navigate aging and menopause.

Today we delve into the transformative journey of navigating midlife, relationships, and the complexities of self-discovery with the insightful Junie Moon.

A New Path to Dating (Season 6 | Episode 231) with special guest, dating and confidence coach Jason McGarva. The Open Nesters Podcast.

Barbara Carrellas, a vital voice in the conversation surrounding sex, aging, and our evolving desires. Ecstasy and Riding Your Horse.

A look at the evolving conversations surrounding sex, aging, and the open nest lifestyle with Suzanne Noble. Sex After 50.

Maria Merloni is a therapist and sex and relationship coach who is redefining what it looks like to turn sixty with vitality, grace, and an open heart.

“Wild Monogamy” serves as a reminder that your primary relationship can be the greatest adventure of your life.

Radical Honesty and the Many Kinds of Love with Jesse Poppick. The Open Nesters Podcast. The Empty Nest is an Open Nest.

Tessa speaks with Laura Silverstein about fostering “flow and connection” through intentional acts of love.

The Open Nesters Podcast, we delve deep into personal transformation with Alia and Hayden.

In this episode, I sit down with Lara and Michael Blackin, visionaries behind Temple in the Trees. Evolution. Intimacy.

With Dr. David Friedman we delve into the transformative journey of open nesting, vitality, spirituality, and sexuality, including BDSM.

We dive deep into the world of open nesting with a returning guest, Vicki Larson, a researcher and writer who is flipping the script on aging for women.

From Engineer to Erotic Healer. Dr. David Freeman has transitioned from a successful engineering career to a life dedicated to sexual well-being.

Relationship Anarchy: With a lens focused on the complexities of open relationships, Tammy and Josh reflect on their journey.

THE PLEASURE MECHANICS | EXPANDING EROTIC PLEASURE AS WE AGE. An encore episode of The Open Nesters Podcast.

Sex and Laughter. We explore the joy and laughter that come with the journey of aging and the phenomenon of open nesting.

Darcy and Gary invite us all to reconsider how we approach this stage of life, emphasizing courage and openness.

Buckle Up and Strap On. This one is not for the kids. Reid Mihalco and Allison Moon, sex therapists, lead us to a sex-positive life.

A compelling conversation with Dr. Tammy Nelson, a prominent sex therapist and author of “Open Monogamy.” Not Your Grandma’s Monogamy.

Aging and Dating. Amir takes the reins to share his personal journey regarding aging and dating. The Open Nesters Podcast.

Dating, Ghosted and Opening after 60 Shakti Sundari shares her transformative experiences as a single mother and conscious dating.

“Open Nest”: Redefining Love After Children Leave Home. Sumati shares her personal journey of ethical non-monogamy.

We delve into the transformative journey of open nesting and the richness of personal relationships with Bella Brooks, a sexuality educator and intimacy coach

How to Celebrate Your Hot Flashes (S5 | E194) | Bridget and Colleen beautifully articulated their personal journeys

Best Sex Ever After Menopause with Dr. Carol Remz. We dive into the journey of aging gracefully while embracing our sexuality and vitality.

Marni and her “Big Ass Calendar,” a visual strategy to intentionally allocate time for family, romance, friendships, and personal growth.

Awakening the Feminine: Moira Cormack on Tantra, Motherhood & Empowerment After 50. The Open Nesters Podcast.

Rediscovering Desire: A Conversation with Sex Educator Pamela Madsen (S5 | E185) The Open Nesters Podcast. One of Our Classics.

Love Relationship & Sexuality Sampler. A look at our best from the past four years. The Open Nesters Podcasts, Season 5.

Your Relationship Superpower – A personal AI coach delivers expert-backed video insights to help you grow. Deepen Your Relationships with AI.

In this episode of Loving Without Boundaries, hosted by Kitty Chambliss, Tessa and Amir return for an enlightening reunion.

Revealing Pleasure – The P.A.R.N. Approach to Play and Intimacy with Steve and Shane | The Open Nesters Podcast

Authenticity & Sensuality. We dive into the vibrant life of Maria DiSalvo, whose journey exemplifies the essence of being an open nester.

Anne More is a returning guest whose insights on aging and eroticism resonate deeply with our journey as Open Nesters.

We dive deep into the vibrant world of open relationships with returning guests CJ, Linwood and their partner April. Your Pleasurespan.

Body Wisdom Aging Sex & Self with Suzanne Noble. The Open Nesters Podcast Season 4. Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast.

Together, Amir and I delve into the thrilling possibilities of adventure, personal growth… open love this week on The Open Nesters.

In this episode with Heather Hundhausen we further explore the concept of Existential Kink for personal growth. The Open Nesters Podcast.

Robyn Vogel from Come Back to Love, is a wise Open Nester offering insights and advice, especially for single women.

Today we deal with jealousy, social media & insecurities, and the importance of gratitude and self-awareness in relationships. Viva Monogamy.

Today we explore open relationships and non-monogamy, emphasizing communication, boundaries and relationship fluidity.

Infidelity and the Empty Nest | In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we hear from Jenn and Gordon: swinging lifestyles to polyamory.

We talk about giving each other space in this short episode. Part 2 of our intimate episode about trust and generosity.

An episode about Trust and the Empty Nest (and generosity!) with Tessa and Amir (S3 | E147) | The Open Nesters Podcast

KINK & POLY | Reflections with Amir. A very special episode on The Open Nesters Podcast. Not to be missed for the curious.

Late Bloomer’s Success (Season 3 | Episode 137) It’s Q&A time with Tessa and Amir. And – I have to say, Amir was amazingly open!!

Monogamish 101 with Dan and Mary | Adults kids, ecstatic dance, non-monogamy. Two people living their own lives… finally!

Open Bi Kinky Over 50 | Meet CJ and Linwood. They met online from across the world. And now are together in a highly unique relationship.

Kevin and Antoinette are a polyamorous couple… with children. Kevin is the author of Love’s Not Color Blind. The Open Nesters Podcast.

The Open Nest Evolving and Revolving Door with Tessa & Amir. We love the chance to do an episode just the two of us. The Open Nesters.

Wild Monogamy – Like when you go to a play party and just play with your partner. Sex and Sensuality on The Open Nesters Podcast.

Junie Moon works in the shadows. Or, rather, she helps us deal with shadows. Demons. Deal with the parts of our lives that require a ‘reckoning.’

Life as Polyamorous Elders | An interview with author Kathy Labriola, Therapist. Kathy has great expertise working with older poly clients.

Becoming Beloveds with Kari and Steven Cardinale (S3 | E112). We have to recently married open nesters this week on the podcast.

Transparency & Micro-Bursts of Connections with Laura Silverstein (S3 | E111). The Open Nesters Podcast with Tessa & Amir.

What is a “polysecure” relationship like? Jessica Fern, Tessa and Amir discuss all ends of the poly spectrum in this highly useful episode.

We bring our friendship series to a close with so so many resources for you. Books, articles, podcasts. The Open Nesters Podcast.

Magic and Mutuality with Jonathan Pillot. The Open Nesters Podcast Friendship Series. Season 3 | Episode 106.

Big Day! In addition to marking my 61st birthday, this is the day that The Open Nesters launches a new initiative that will dominate our 2023.

Open Nesters Season 3. In 2023 we turn our gaze to friendships in all forms. From old to new, sexual or platonic… it is going to be fun!

Part 2 of our conversation with Kenya and Carl about their amazing journey. Progressive Love this week on The Open Nesters Podcast.

Kenya and Carl: While they are a poly couple, the lessons they teach are applicable to us all. They have created something really special with their Progressive Love Academy.

Dr. Ellen: psychologist, registered dietician, National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach, and Reiki master. The Midlife Whisperer.

Our sixth entry in our episodes related to Sensuality, Sexuality and Aging Month on The Open Nesters Podcast. This is Part 2 of our Panel Discussion.

A Wise Women Panel Part 1 (Season 2 | Episode 86). The Open Nesters Podcast honoring Sexuality, Sensuality and Aging Month.

Disability, Aging and Love Potion Number 9 (Season 2 | Episode 85). An interview with Dr. Mitchell Tepper on The Open Nesters Podcast.

Sensual Energy with Christine Marie Mason (Season 2 | Episode 84). We celebrate Sensuality, Sexuality and Health Month.

“Will you have sex with me?” This simple question turns Anne all “squiggly.” If Dan says yes, she blushes with happiness.

Sexuality, Sensuality & Aging with Tessa and Amir (S2 | E82). “Um… is it hot in here?” The Open Nesters Podcast. Sexual Health Month.

Rituals, Adventure and Relationships with Sue Jaye Johnson and Joe Richman. The Pleasure Report on The Open Nesters Podcast.

Mobile, Unattached and Free with Casaundra & Chris (S2 | E80). The Open Nesters Podcast. Weekly. Make the most of your Act III.

Poly Quad with Jahaira, Marvin, Michael & Monique (S2 | E77). Four people in one relationship. How. Does. That. Work?

Intimacy, Attachment, and Relationship Anarchy with Josh and Tammy. A return visit from the “Eroticize Your Jealousy” people.

Giving Pleasure Full Permission with Chris and Charlotte (S2 | E71). Learning how to have the best sex of your life after the kids have left the house.

Deconstructing Motherhood & Divorce with Joy Rose. Building confidence and self love in Act III of your life. The Open Nesters Podcast.

Find great pleasure throughout your day. Soak it in. Be ready to accept the sensuality all around you. Meet Amanda Ananda, The Tantric Mama.

The Humor in Aging, Sex and the Husband Equivalent with Joyce Saltman (Season 2 | Episode 60). The Open Nesters Podcast.

How lucky we are to have Angela Thurston on our show this week. You can reach Angela also at Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Coaching.

Not Your Grandma’s Monogamy. I have known Dr. Tammy Nelson for many years. It is a true pleasure to welcome her voice onto our podcast!

Our Loving Openness with Kitty, Tessa & Amir. We share much about our journey to an open relationship in this episode.

Make Love in the Unknown with Laurie Handlers and Michael Gibson. Celebrating Love and Sex Month on The Open Nesters Podcast.

Buckle Up and Strap On. This one is not for the kids. Reid Mihalco and Allison Moon, sex therapists, lead us to a sex-positive life.

Love in the Third Third of Act III. Meet Kit and Jeff, two people who found each other nearly 10 years ago. The Open Nesters Podcast.

Healing Our Intimacy Wounds. We are so fortunate to have Isha Vela with us this week. We cover some complicated ground in our chat.

Off the Grid Dad. Meet Cort Geraipy… truly one of the most interesting people you will ever encounter.

Reframing Relationships. Twists and Turns. The path that Sabrina and Seth have been on is somewhat mind-boggling.

Rock Your Erotic Boat with Pamela Madsen on The Open Nesters Podcast. This is for men and women who want to develop their sexuality mid-life.

Labeling and Unlabeling. Tessa and Amir interview Jonathan Pillot, founder of UnLabelMe. Meet an enlightened man this week on TON.

Paradoxical Power and Healing with the Dominatrix (Episode 43). An interview with Heather Hundhausen on The Open Nesters Podcast.

Dreaming of Open Nesting: Love and Plant Medicine in Act III. This week we meet Buck and Haven… two people on the verge.

Open Nesting 201 with Tessa and Amir. After 40 podcat episodes Tessa and Amir reflect on what Open Nesting means to them now.

Welcome to Episode 39 of The Open Nesters Podcast. Polyamory is only one of the many topics we discuss on this podcast. As you can imagine it is a polarizing topic. It is not for everyone.

Change Your Noise and Get Curious with Effy Blue. People are curious by nature, but they very well may need a little help pursuing their curiosity. Enter Effy Blue and Curious Fox.

The Book of Life with Esther Russell. This week we explore The Akashic Record with empath and entrepreneur Esther Russell.

Consensual, ethical non-monogamy – delivered in an app… and community. This is about David and Amanda and their lives and program called #open.

Divorce, Dating, and Dreaming with Ava and Dave. The Open Nesters Podcast Episode 30. Tessa interviews two fascinating divorcees.

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti is a poet, public speaker, photographer, and former fundamentalist Christian and cult member. Intersectionality.

Is Ethical Non-Monogamy for You? You may be able to sort that out with this podcast featuring our guest, Sumati Sparks.

Trevor Crow is a Certified Executive Coach, Author, Talk Show Host, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Are You Securely Attached?

Jim has so much to share about how we connect with our partners. He is a highly accomplished author and thinker in the polyamory space.

We want to celebrate 20 episodes!! And we thought this unplugged show would be an opportune moment to share a bit about this journey.

The Bed Hoppers on The Open Nesters Podcast. Meet Mr. and Mrs. H. from the UK. They have a lot to say about swinging.

Barbara Carrellas is a remarkable woman who has achieved so much as an educator, sex life coach, workshop facilitator and lecturer. It was my [Tessa] pleasure to sit down for a long talk with Barbara for the Open Nesters Podcast.

Living Apart Together (LAT). The Open Nesters, Tessa and Amir, interview Vicki Larson about negotiating one’s own space in a relationship.

Jealousy, compersion and how to handle a deep relationship. Kitty Chambliss from Loving without Boundaries is our guest on The Open Nesters.

Laura Campbell helps us look at the spiritual essence of our years after 50 when we have the time and space to be still for a while.

In Episode 11 we meet Jahaira and Marvin, who are swingers, who really never stopped swinging even when they became polyamorous. And we hear about Jahaira’s “I want that” moment.

Dr. Roz discusses the concept of “a second awakening,” particularly after children have gone, noting that we have this urge to wake up, maybe a lot due to our biology… the “midlife crisis.”

Amidst COVID these two open-minded adults found each other. And they found that polyamory could work for them both. Thea and Curt met in early March – just prior to COVID. And then quarantine. Phone calls. Video chats. “It was challenging, I didn’t know if we had physical chemistry,” noted Curt.

Tessa interviews yoga teach and life coach Joy Okoye. Joy is in the middle of a huge life change. She is in “the void.” She is moving from mother to friend with her two teenagers. And she is asking questions of herself… “Who am I?”

Kink. Internet Intimacy. Zoom Threesomes. The Enchantress Shane and the Open Nesters explore the taboos that can accompany adults who go forth and Open Nest.

This week the Open Nesters get into it with Erika Obando. Erika is a self-professed “open nester.”

Mental Physical Emotional Space. Tessa and Amir discuss their own space and touch upon open relationships. Advice from Trevor Mullineaux.

In their premier episode, the original Open Nesters, Tessa & Amir, discuss the concept of Open vs. Empty Nest. We’re so pleased to begin our journey with you on The Open Nesters Podcast.

We want to provide you with support and many resources for your own Open Nesting Journey. Our resource page has so much to offer as does our private discussion group on Facebook about queerness and other topics of interest:

Open Nesters Resource Page

The Open Nesters Private Facebook Group

Tessa Krone is the engine behind and the face of The Open Nesters.

Tessa holds an MA in Consciousness Studies and is a speaker, coach, program and journey facilitator & leader, author and, of course, Podcaster.

Her offerings are based in her mission to help people open to their most self-expressed, loving selves. Tessa’s specialties include embodiment from all the senses and elements of our inner and outer lives, ranging from mindfulness, dance, play, and sensory exploration in nature.  If she had one superpower,    it would be to help people, especially as they age, to live more open hearted lives.

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What do you need to OPEN your NEST? In your LIFE. In your BODY. In your SPIRIT. Do you need MORE…