Tammy shares her divorce from her husband of 25 years and how she's starting over in her 50s. Her husband was leading a secret life, grooming her daughters, addicted to prn and consuming and distributing CP. Even though she stood by him after he got convicted, however after seeing how that put a strain on her relationship with her daughter and grand son, she made the decision to file for divorce and end her 25 year long marriage. She shares what she's learning from this experience and why she believes she stayed in that relationship longer than she should have. She shares how she's starting over in life in her 50s, she's had to get a job to take care of herself and pay mortgage of their home which she got after the divorce. She is open to finding love and getting married again, but will pay more attention to her gut instincts when it comes to dating. One main lesson she learn is that she is good by herself, she doesn't need a man to be happy and content with her life. She also gives advice to women or men that have gone through similar situations.

Tammy's story is very moving story and proof that you can always start over at any age. This is the concluding part of Tammys story from last episode. Hope you enjoyed this episode, pls leave a comment, like, share and subscribe. Thank you #divorce #marriage #toxicmarriage #heartbreak #cheatingspouse

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Tammy shares how she found out her husband of 25 years was living a double life. He pretended to be the perfect Christian husband but behind closed doors, he was addicted to prn which ultimately led to his arrest for charges of consuming child prngry. Tammy shared how she met him after she had just separated and gotten a divorce from her 1st husband. She had 2 kids from the previous marriage and they ended up being a blended family as he also had kids from a previous marriage. On the surface everything looked good. There were no red flags, he wasn't abusive, he was a perfect husband, took care of her and the kids and went to church, however unknown to her, he battled his secret addition to prn for over 20 years. In 2006, Tammy's daughters made a complaint about his inappropriate interaction with them, he was basically grooming his step daughters and CPS got involved. Though no charges was filed, it put a strain on his relationship with her daughters as they were taken out of the house. Finally, in 2018, Tammy's whole marriage came crashing down when the FBI came knocking on their door to arrest him for consuming and distributing child prn. He got charged and was convicted and sentenced to 5 years in a federal prison.

Tammy takes us through her life's story about being deceived and manipulated by a man who claimed to love her but betrayed her and her daughters in the worst way possible. This is a very moving story and is a true lesson that you can never know people's true motives/character. This is the first part of Tammy's story and the concluding part will be up next week. Hope you enjoyed this episode, pls leave a comment, like, share and subscribe. Thank you #divorce #marriage #toxicmarriage #doublelife #heartbreak #betrayal

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I interviewed my sister who shared the brutal reality of her first nurse practitioner job (what no one tells you) & why she quit her first nurse practitioner jo after 6 months . She talked about her nursing school journey, how she started out as an LPN and quickly progressed to get her RN, BSN, Masters in Nursing leadership and finally a post graduate Masters degree in nurse practitioner. She shared how her first year working as a nurse practitioner was very challenging primarily because the very little training she got and very little support from her employer and more experienced colleagues. 6 months into the job, she basically got burnt out and decided to go part time and eventually quit that job to pursue another one. She is at a much better job now and even though the job is still very challenging, it is much better now because she has more support and is more experienced. Talking about pay/salary, she said family nurse practitioners aren't paid enough for the amount of work they out in, they earn about half of what regular physicians even though they are both paneled. Another challenge she faced was finding good preceptor during her training, fortunately she got some very good ones which was instrumental to her success. She finds her nurse practitioner profession very rewarding but wants to share her personal experiences and some challenges she's encountered with the hopes of helping others. This episode is for anyone who is curious to learn more about nursing or is currently in nursing school wanting to get inspiration and motivation. Hope you enjoyed this episode. Pls Like, Share, Comment & Subscribe #nursing #nursingschooljourney #nursepractitioner

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15 years later.... Living in America has changed me as an immigrant. In this episode i reflect on my immigrant journey in America. I have lived in the US for close to 15 years and looking back at how far i've come and all my experiences, I'd say it's been such a delightsome time. Being an African (Nigerian), i was hit with a lot of culture shock moments and experiences that questioned my values and beliefs when i first immigrated but over the years, i have become more open minded to accept new belief systems while maintaining my core value systems. I went from being extremely close minded to being more open minded, America taught me to be more humble, not to take myself too seriously (and be more self deprecating), it thought me to be patient, be more independent & helped me discover myself. I didn't realize i was black or a minority until in moved here and that has shown me parts of myself that i like and some parts i need to work on. As immigrants, whether we like it or not, we're constantly being changed and shaped by the culture and society of the country we live in and there's nothing bad about it. It is however important not to lose yourself completely but to allow a merging of both worlds/culture. In my 15 years in America, i have laughed, cried, being broke, being rich (still waiting for this to happen lol), failed, succeeded, being betrayed and being loved. It's been a whirlwind of a journey but a good one at that.

This episode is for immigrants who are reminiscing about their lives back home or anyone just curious to learn about how living in a foregn country can change you. Hope you enjoyed watching, Pls Like, Comment, Share and Subscribe. Thank you #livingabroad #livinginamerica #nigeriansabroad #livingindiaspora #immigrantexperience #benefitsoflivinginusa

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In this episode, i shared mistakes i made buying my first home in the US. Home buying can be quite a complex process and having all the information you need to make a good decision is very helpful. I share my personal experience and regrets about buying my first home in the US, from unexpected home costs like Insurance, HOA, PMI, etc , I dive into the lessons I've learned and what I would do differently if I had the chance. I shared why I chose to buy a town home instead of a single family home because as a single person, i didn't think i needed a very large space. However, unbeknownst to me, i didn't consider additional costs like HOA (home owners' association) dues and other townhome related expenses which is separate from my mortgage. I also talked about buying vs Renting. Sometimes it is Ok to rent instead of buying especially with the high interest rates. My top advise is not to buy a a townhome and if you did, buy one in a non-HOA community because those HOA dues pile up.

if you're considering purchasing a home in the United States, watch this video to learn from my mistakes and gain valuable insights to help you make a more informed decision. Whether you're a first-time homebuyer or just looking for advice on the home-buying process, this video is for you. Find out what I regret about buying my first home in the US and how you can avoid making the same mistakes.#firsttimehomebuyer #realestate #mortgage #buyingahomeasanimmigrant #homebuying

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In this episode, i reflected on some horrible dating mistakes i made in my 20s that made me miss out on love and kept me single in my 40s. I shared some mistakes, regrets and wrong mindsets i had going into relationships when i was in my 20s. I talked about 2 relationships I had in in my 20s and why i ended them. I was constantly looking for the ideal man, a man that checked off all my lists, I was always quick to quit/move on from relationships because i thought there was a better man out there for me. In my 20s, I thought personality traits like kindness, empathy and thoughtfulness were signs of weakness in a man and wanted a man who was more dominant and aggressive. I subconsciously admired toxic masculinity and thought that was what made a man. Now in my 40s, kindness, empathy and compassion are the key traits I'm looking out for in a man. Time goes by so fast and if you keep on putting off investing in good romantic relationships, you will wake up one day and realize so much time has passed. My advice to young girls in their 20s is to date a lot and get to know what you want or do not want in a partner. And if you find a good man/relationship, appreciate it, cultivate it and get married if that's your goal. This episode is for anyone who is looking for a honest and relatable take on dating and relationships. I shared my highs, lows and regrets on relationships. Hope you enjoyed this episode. pls like, comment, share and subscribe. #lovelife #datingmistakes #singlelife #lifeat40 #datinginyour20s #relationshipmistakes

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Now in our 40s, Things we wish we knew sooner (Life advice for 20y/os). In this concluding episode, we shared life advice/tips for younger people, life lessons and things we wish we knew sooner. Ellie wishes she learned to use her voice more in her 20s and setting stronger boundaries. As a young person, it can be intimidating to use your voice but the sooner you start using it, the better for you. Amanda also shared about using her voice and being careful about what she put in her body, the kind of music she listened to and shows she watched. She talked about how important it is to honor God and find him in your youth. We advised young people to enjoy their 20s, appreciate their skin, their body, their youthfulness, etc. We also talked about not taking life too serious, learn how to enjoy the good things without being overtly focused on the negatives.

This episode us for anyone in their 40s, 20s, 30s or any age wanting to learn more about other people's experience and gain wisdom for life. Hope you enjoed watching this. Please Like, Comment, Share and Subscribe. Thank you #lifeadvice #inyour20s #thingsiwishiknew #lifeat20 #lifeinyour40s

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I didn't think i'd be single with no kids in my 40s. In this episode i am joined by 2 of my best friends, Ellie and Amanda and we shared about our life's experiences, growing older, regrets/mistakes we made in our 20s. Zuki shared about her relationship/dating mistakes which is a deep source of regret- being single, never been married and without kids in her 40s, Amanda shared about divorce from her first husband and end of her 15 year marriage, Ellie shared about her decision to pursue a PhD in Physics and how her career path has evolved. We also shared about our Faith journey and how our walk with God has helped us in our path in life. We also did some rapid fre questions to help know each other better.

If you're someone in your 40s or just looking to learn from other people's experiences , this is a sure good episode for you. Hope you enjoyed it and please Like, Share, Comment and Subscribe. Thank you #relationships #singleat40 #divorce #marriage #liferegrets

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We discuss the dynamics of female friendship in this episode. I am joined back again by my friend Enuma to share the importance and dynamics of female friendships. She shared her experience with her friend groups, what she looks out for in a friend, how she has become a better friend as she's grown older/matured especially around setting and respecting her friend's boundaries. We talked about deal breakers and red flags in friendships and signs of a good or bad friend. Making friends as an adult is particularly difficult especially when you're introverted but can be worth it when you find your tribe. We talked about how friendships can be cultural where different cultures e.g. Americans don't easily warm up to you even though you think they are your friends.

If you are someone looking to make new friends or learn more about female friendship dynamics, this episode is for you. Hope you enjoyed watching it. Pls Like, Comment, Share and Subscribe #friends #friendship #femalefriendships #bestfriends #friendshipchallenges

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Tia is back to share what causes conflict in her American Nigerian intercultural marriage. The main issue she shares is gender roles in marriage and how the cultural difference between her as an American and her Nigerian husband shows up in their marriage. While she takes care of the home, the baby and works, she expects her husband to step up as well and help. She acknowledges that even though her husband grew up in the traditional African culture which grooms men to be providers and not home makers, he is doing his best to support her. She expects 50/50 equal sharing of responsibilities in the home as that is consistent with her American upbringing. She doesn't believe in the traditional gender roles and believes men (husbands) should support their wives and share equal responsibility in the home front as much as they are providing. Culture plays a huge part in how we show up in the world and navigating an intercultural marriage comes with few challenges and lots of benefits of meshing cultures. She appreciates how her husband lead, takes care and provides for the family which is not very typical in American culture.

If you're in an interracial or international marriage, or simply interested in learning more about the dynamics of these relationships, this video is for you. Hope you enjoyed watching! Pls Like, Comment, Share and Subscribe. #marriage #maritalconflict #interculturalmarriage #marriageadvice #husband #marriageadvice #relationship #podcast

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