Life For Experts

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "Are there any tips for better eye health?” Having a clear vision of things is surely something we desire. But just like a vehicle that we use every single day and every single minute that we are awake, it is easy to wear this organ out if it's not being maintained properly. Especially during this pandemic situation where we are all working from home. Realize it or not, for most of us this situation has increased our screen time, simply because of the limitation of outdoor activities that has simultaneously increase our digital activities. But luckily, this is a pretty well-acknowledged issue, not just now but even before the pandemic. That is why, you can easily type in on a search engine and find lots of ways to improve your eye health. At the same time, that makes it harder to find out which one is working for each of us. I, too, was struggling with the same issue. I have tried almost every practical tips to improve my eye health, until I came to a realization that it is actually not that complicated. Basically, all of these tips are pointing towards a few main ideas, and that is what I want to share with you right now.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "Do we really have time to listen to other people’s opinions?” We have heard a lot of this: you are the owner of your life. People should not dictate your life. It’s all up to you, live your life the way you want it to be! But hey, we are still living on earth, within a society. At times, our lives actually depend on other people. Like it or not, other people play a role in shaping our life path. In certain situations, the situation is much more serious that we wouldn’t have survived without the interventions from other people. So, is it really true that we control our own lives? Is it true that we should not have to worry about other people and what they have to say?

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "Can I ask my parents to be less involved?” Let's face it, no matter how old and independent we are, parents will always see us as their child who knows less than them and needs to be protected. In most circumstances, they want to be involved in our life. And it is becoming more and more common. A study by Fingerman in 2017 shows that parents are considerably more involved with their grown children aged 18–34 than it was the case 40 years ago. Moreover, parents engage in more frequent contact, give more support, and are more likely to live with a grown child.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "How can I tell my mind to be quiet?” Are you one of those people who has an active brain that is always in thinking mode? Have you ever felt like you can always hear your mind talking, even though it doesn’t have its own ear? Yes, it is a real problem, and I can say that because I’m a living proof. I am not proud of the fact that I have wasted tremendous time overthinking a situation or decision, and I think you can agree that is not a good feeling to have. Overthinking is uncomfortable; but moreover, it can be a serious problem when it’s ignored. Besides the inability to have a quiet mind, overthinking has been proven to also produce some other negative effects, and it is all backed by multiple scientific research. But, like everything else, there is always a solution.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "How to account for everybody in making a decision?" Whether it be at work meetings or when you are planning a travel itinerary with friends, life occasionally presents situations when we need to make decisions. Depending on the circumstances, making decisions can be easy, but it can also be a head scratcher. Now even decisions that we need to make for ourselves are already hard enough, ranging from what clothes to wear, into deciding whether it is time to have a baby or not. So how about a decision that we need to make as a group? Of course, it is a lot trickier.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is “How to avoid having unhealthy assumptions towards others?” Before we go on to the discussion, I would like to call out the fact that the word assumptions are widely deemed to have a negative stigma that comes with it. So, does it really? No, I don't think so. Assumptions are normal - in some way, it can be seen as one of humans survival mechanisms. For humans, knowledge is power. Assumptions happen during a lack of knowledge, simply our body's mechanism to create the illusion of power. So, assumptions are good. Unhealthy assumptions, are not. When our assumptions bring a mostly negative impact to our lives, or get in the way of a good relationship, then it might be a good time to make a change. After all, assumptions are supposed to help you survive, not killing you instead.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is “Do I have enough friends already?”. Have you ever wondered whether you have made enough friends in your life? Or do you wonder if you could have been more easygoing and sociable? As we know, humans are social creatures. But then this fact raises an important question among us humans: exactly how social are we talking about here? Well, before we discuss this question further, it is important to acknowledge that enough is almost always relative. You can have 1000 friends and still feel like you don’t have anyone. Same goes for the opposite. Apparently, we were doing this all wrong.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "Am I too much of a pushover?" Okay, let me guess. The term "pushover" might be quite new in your ear, right? Me too. I'm not even sure that there is a literal translation of pushover in other languages. So yes, I think it's fair to say that most people are still unaware of the trait "pushover". But I think once we are aware of the term and what it represents, we have to admit that this is a common trait in the society that needs our attention. Now what's the closest word associated with the term pushover in our current society, even though it doesn’t always mean the same? Kindness. What's alarming is that we tend to draw a thin line between being kind and being a pushover.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "Should I try to find a new job?" Wow, this is a tricky one. And one of the most influential. Work is an integral part of our life. On average, we spend one third of our time working. For entrepreneurs, work is practically their life, since there are no time boundaries unlike the usual corporate workers. However, despite its lesser commitment, the complaints about work actually comes more from corporate workers. Why is that?

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "How can I take better photos?" Okay, not exactly a universally life mystery. But just like a few episodes ago where we talked about writing skill, photography skills are also one of those nice to have practical skills in life. It may not make a difference in your career success as a whole, but it can surely step up your game in life. Imagine having the ability to take great pictures when travelling, or being able to create a high quality documentary whether it be in social media or blogs and websites. Photography might seem simple on the surface, but the truth is it is a lot more complex and trickier if you want to learn the advanced techniques. However, it doesn't necessarily mean that we need to go into that depth in order to build our photography skills.