Life Lessons with Indie Wrytes

There's a quote by Pearl Bailey that says, "A crown, if it hurts, is not worth wearing."

We've taken the label "selfless" and turned it into a crown that inevitably hurts us; a badge of honor that dishonors our own needs and desires. Understand, there is no honor in having little to no concern for one's self and focusing on the needs and warfare of others. How can you adequately take care of anyone if you are falling apart? You can't. You're doing yourself and the people are trying to love a disservice by deprioritizing yourself to make them happy and comfortable, because the more you do, the more is expected.

This lesson is about making yourself a priority again and letting people figure it out. Not being careless, but caring less about what everyone else needs are before you care about your own.

Let's get into it!

Making love is better when you're naked, but so is sharing love.

Have you ever been skin to skin WITH intention with a person you love? This is a feeling that not much compares to. Imagine that feeling in emotional and mental forms. Not just skin uncovered, but hearts unguarded, souls unhidden; two people present enough to be completely seen.

Naked in love is skin without layers, nothing hidden, nothing between you and the other person. The deeper nakedness; the kind where the soul is uncovered.

In this lesson, we’ll explore what it means to share love from a place of true vulnerability, and how we begin the journey of getting there, there being NAKED.

Let's get into it.

Since the beginning of time, girls and women have been split into two impossible categories and identities: the Good Girl  and the Bad Girl.

The "good girl" - she's obedient, self-sacrificing, and pleasing and the "bad girl" - she's rebellious, outspoken, risky, and “too much.”

Me, Indie, I was the "Bad Girl." However, most women carry both inside of us, but we naturally, and sometimes forcefully, lean more into one or the other depending on who we are at our core and the expectations of our environments. They both come with their own set of stigmas, shame, and judgement, so we actually never win when we stay in this confines of these expectations.

This lesson explores how these inner identities are formed through natural propensity, family expectations and dynamics, experiences, culture, religion, relationships, and survival; how they silently shape our choices in love, work, self-worth, and so much more.

We'll also discuss how we break out of these CAGES and finally get free!

Let's get into it!

Let’s talk CAPACITY and BOUNDARIES!

Let’s be real here… they are the unsung heroes of every healthy relationship and an overall healthy life!

How many times have you modified your capacity or altogether axed your boundaries to accommodate other people? How did that end? Terrible? I know. Same!

In this episode, we’re going to have a little conversation about a big problem plaguing people, women and men, universally. Learning to protect your capacity by setting boundaries and sticking to them, even when it’s inconvenient. This is the lesson we all NEED to learn in order to have healthy relationships with ourselves and others.

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After a two-year hiatus, we are officially back!! Ready to teach, share, and continue learning the life lessons that really matter.

It only felt right to start with an open conversation about where I’ve been… and whew, chile. Life has been LIFE-ing, and the lessons have been lessoning all across my universe.

In this episode, we’re simply catching up. From professional shifts, to motherhood, to the deeply personal, I’m sharing it all, candidly, before we dive back into the lessons ahead.

Let’s get into it!

In this episode, we discuss intimacy. What is intimacy? Do you create intimacy, do you invite it, or does it naturally happen through connection? What does it mean? How does it look? How does it feel? What are the initiators of true intimacy? What is false intimacy and what are the signs of false intimacy?

Intimacy is one of the most overused, while being simultaneously misused, words in the world right now. We think intimacy means sex, we’ve deduced and reduced it to something explicitly physical and sexual when intimacy, in its most euphoric form, is not limited to the physical at all. If anything, it causes the physical and sexual side of itself to manifest in a much more gratifying, sensual, and passionate way. There is so much pleasure in TRUE intimacy, right? But, have you ever experienced the betrayal of false intimacy?

We're going to talk about both the beauty and the beast of both in this episode.

Welcome to Season 4 of the Life Lessons Podcast! We're starting this season off where everything starts: CHOICE! And, in order to make a choice, you first have to have a made-up mind.

So many of US don't realize we don't make choices with CONSCIOUS INTENTION! Our choices are often made out of desperation and short term relief. Question: how often have you made choices without even processing the picture that you would like to see the choice develop? When you're taking a picture, you pose based on what you want to see reflected back after the moment is gone and the picture is taken. You choose your expression, your background, your garb based on what you want to be translated from your mind and the moment to the picture, right? We have to start using this same principle when it comes to life choices. First thinking and considering what we want see when we "look back at it." Then, only placing ourselves in positions and around things that yield the best outcome or sketch what we foresaw in our minds. Making sure the outcomes match the desires!

Making choices that feed your passions, not your phobias.

Let's talk about it.